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Post by orchestrachic5 on Dec 29, 2016 19:32:15 GMT
I am 16 years old and a junior in high school. My boyfriend is 18 and currently a senior. and is going away to college next year in a nearby state. We both have ADHD and I believe mine is more severe. I do have a tendency to have a impulsive mouth and I have a hard time controlling it. And my boyfriend sometimes get angry for that reason and other little things. He keeps telling me he feels like he is gonna meet someone else in college and will leave me. He has told me that he wants to try in college, but right now he is saying that he wants to end the relationship before he leaves so he isn't "held down". I'm scared I'm gonna lose him and I'm not sure how to make or relationship stronger. He tells me he loves me all the time and I love him too. He and I shared a moment in his car last week with us both crying because we didn't want to lose eachother. He has told me that there is only a chance we will make it After college. A few months ago he was put into a chat on Facebook with other people going to that college including girls. He has told me he is communicating with these girls and they have common interests. Him and I have many common interests. I personally think he is talking to these girls so he has someone in college so he doesn't get bored. Him and I are not bored of eachother. We both are wanting to major in teaching and I'm wanting to attend a different school than he is at. When I go to college. What should I do to help us work? He tells me he will be too busy with school to talk to me ever. What should I do to help us work? How do I make us stronger to hopefully have more confidence? Please help
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 18:09:34 GMT
It's not your job to malert things work. Either you both want to stay together and jointly choose to work on it or you move on. It's not the females job to keep the relationship & it does sound like he us trying to disengage. Most high school relationships don't remain together, however much we may want them to.
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Post by marionk on Jan 9, 2017 7:33:41 GMT
Key words in there:
anger - very bad - ideally there shouldn't be any, but most relationships that have any decent grounding will stand a little justified anger once in a blue moon but really, it shouldn't happen.
scared - relationships need security, you're only 16 and already he is making you feel insecure
'do' and 'make' - well maybe I have high standards, but a good relationship doesn't need to be worked at. Sure there is almost certainly going to be some give and take in any relationship, but it should be automatic. If you need to do anything to make a relationship work, then you will always be concerned that you aren't doing enough.
Really good relationships are rare though, so maybe a less than perfect one has enough benefit that makes a little pretending or a bit more work worth the effort, but be prepared/aware that even good relationships rarely stay that way forever.
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