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Post by crimelovinfunster on May 23, 2017 11:59:52 GMT
In front of the computer, in the bath, lying in bed, putting my socks on, seemingly frozen in time but with my mind abuzz with everything for what sometimes seems like hours. Are there any reliable techniques for disengaging from hyperfocus and getting on with, in this case right now, washing up and leaving the house?
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Post by marionk on May 23, 2017 12:29:49 GMT
Lots of people find timers helpful. I do to, provided I remember to reset it when it's gone off . . . If you have something with an adjustable snooze, that keep bleeping until you stop/snooze it, that's probably the best. I think my phone has a decent app for this, but I stopped using it because I was always too tired to do much. Time to dig it out and set it up. (I have more energy these days.)
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Post by anopheles on May 23, 2017 14:45:58 GMT
In front of the computer, in the bath, lying in bed, putting my socks on, seemingly frozen in time but with my mind abuzz with everything for what sometimes seems like hours. Are there any reliable techniques for disengaging from hyperfocus and getting on with, in this case right now, washing up and leaving the house? Depends on context. Some things have a natural conclusion such as a need to be somewhere, a scheduled appointment, sleep, feeding the kids. If it's something late at night you have (if you are single) pray for a power cut, a desperate urge for the bathroom or a small local natural disaster. If it was easy, it wouldn't be hyperfocus. If it was a simple mental trick that could stop you, then it wouldn't be hyperfocus. Don't feel guilty, if you could have it another way, you would have it another way. It's a palsy. A person with Cerebral Palsy may get frustrated that their feet won't go where they want them, but they don't hate themselves because they, and everyone else sees it's not their fault. Because our 'palsy' is based on our thoughts and we mistakenly take thinking for character we (and the ignorant other) tend to give ourselves a good kicking 'Oh, why can't I just focus!" Basically, you are who and what you are. Nobody will die on the operating table. You may disappoint some people or make your life or someone else's slight less comfortable for a brief amount of time. Try, by all means, not to do so but accept that from time to time it will. The only real non medical treatment for hyperfocus is self forgiveness and acceptance. This makes me sound like the old hippy I most certainly am not, but it'll stop a lifetime of self loathing. Practically, alarms aren't guaranteed to work as it depends on the attractor's strength; 'Just five more minutes'. Another person as regulator is generally the best way for important time scheduling whatsits. As far as housework goes this works for me, but it fits my own pyschology, is that as I am 'attracted' by people's good view of my house I tidy up. So the only time the house work gets done is when I expect visitors.
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