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Post by Tyler river on Jul 2, 2017 10:54:50 GMT
I'm concerned wether I have ADHD or not (I am 16). For me some symptoms fit perfectly were others are not me at all. For instance I know that I have a short attention span and I'm ether fidgeting and constantly moving or lost in a daydream. I often make silly mistakes on tests and essays even though I know the correct answer. Most of the time people talk to me I don't remember what they have said and this has gotten me into a lot of arguments with my mum as I often forget to do chores or remember events. I have realised that I sometimes but isn't conversations and people that talk slow really iratate me. I flit between tasks (when I was younger I used to play with toys for a short amount if time and then move on to something else) and often loose things which has also started arguments. I feel uncomfortable in situations that are not stimulating/boring and I often get the urge to leave rooms that I'm not interested in (for instance I find it hard to whatch films with out doing something else at the same time or fidgeting. However dispite this I have very little problem paying attention in class. I do fidget a lot in lessons and move around in my seat to the point we're people have commented on it, however I do well in class and have achieved high marks on most of my exams. My parents don't know what ADHD is and i only found out after searching symptoms. I don't know if I should get checked out or talk to my parents about it (I don't think they will believe me) also my dad has characteristics that fall under ADHD. sorry that this is such a long paragraph I just want to blurt everything out as I'm feeling really frustrated and confused.
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Post by easilydistracted on Jul 5, 2017 21:54:48 GMT
Hi @tyler River, We seem to have an admin shortage at the moment - and as a new poster your post won't appear till approved by one. Your post does seem on-topic so reposting it for all to see... I'm concerned wether I have ADHD or not (I am 16). For me some symptoms fit perfectly were others are not me at all. For instance I know that I have a short attention span and I'm ether fidgeting and constantly moving or lost in a daydream. I often make silly mistakes on tests and essays even though I know the correct answer. Most of the time people talk to me I don't remember what they have said and this has gotten me into a lot of arguments with my mum as I often forget to do chores or remember events. I have realised that I sometimes but isn't conversations and people that talk slow really iratate me. I flit between tasks (when I was younger I used to play with toys for a short amount if time and then move on to something else) and often loose things which has also started arguments. I feel uncomfortable in situations that are not stimulating/boring and I often get the urge to leave rooms that I'm not interested in (for instance I find it hard to whatch films with out doing something else at the same time or fidgeting. However dispite this I have very little problem paying attention in class. I do fidget a lot in lessons and move around in my seat to the point we're people have commented on it, however I do well in class and have achieved high marks on most of my exams. My parents don't know what ADHD is and i only found out after searching symptoms. I don't know if I should get checked out or talk to my parents about it (I don't think they will believe me) also my dad has characteristics that fall under ADHD. sorry that this is such a long paragraph I just want to blurt everything out as I'm feeling really frustrated and confused.
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Post by vagueandrandom on Jul 7, 2017 10:40:40 GMT
Hi Tyler It's a common misconception that people with ADHD don't do well in school. If you're intelligent, it's possible to do really well (but maybe not to your full potential) The structure of school and a stable family life mean that you don't have to deal with some of the things older people with ADHD struggle with, such as timekeeping, organisation, feeding yourself, paying bills etc. Most ADHD charities, campaigning and news articles concentrate on children and their difficulties with behaviour and learning in school, so the general view of ADHD (if there is one) is that it's a learning disability. . .now, this might be true in some cases, but it affects every aspect of your life . .personally, I did well in school (Bs and Cs) and have 2 degrees, but the things I find most difficult with ADHD are mood swings, communication, making and keeping friends, keeping a job . . as you're under 18, if you decide to get assessed, I can't see how you'd keep your parents out of it. .
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fardale
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Post by fardale on Jul 9, 2017 12:13:45 GMT
There's always the possibility.
Whilst I can't provide a diagnosis for you, I can see very similar patterns in you that I see in myself. Especially the arguments and day dreaming.
You should easily be able to talk to your GP about it without informing your parents. who will then give you or go through a questionnaire with you.
My father specifically was a pain in the ass and still is regarding my diagnosis. Talking about it with him makes me very anxious as I can see clearly that he doesn't accept it readily despite the support he gives me. He struggles with concepts that he cannot see when it comes to health both physical illnesses and mental. However it's gotten to the stage where he can now tell when I've forgotten to take my medication quite quickly and he's slowly coming around.
My point is, if you can keep your ADHD from running your mouth and not tell your parents, and you're not ready to talk about it with them. then don't. speak to your GP first, you may find that your local services don't support ADHD treatment very well which will create some awkwardness for a long time. However if you are serious about pursuing this path, do it now not later. NHS after 19 with ADHD has very weak support.
Another reason to get to it sooner then later is because ADHD can hold you back, which is time you can't get back. I'm not trying to scare you, just go talk to your doctor sooner rather then later. putting it off isn't a good idea.
If your doctor refers you, depending on how far you have to travel, you may not need to tell your parents still. However, this is the point I would probably tell them. That way, they can contribute to your diagnosis at the same time as having the specialist explain it to them, so that they get the facts they need to understand it better.
and one last thing. your GP is not trained to give you a diagnosis or tell you, you don't have it. try to speak to an impartial GP who can advise you. If they flat out refuse to give you a referral just see another GP or politely point this out to them.
wish you luck
p.s I got A's in my GCSE's with no effort thanks to intelligence but failed college horribly due to ADHD. Your grades CAN be a sign of ADHD if they're poor. but having good grades doesn't prove that you don't have it.
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Post by jomck71 on Jul 27, 2017 16:48:41 GMT
Tyler River, I am a parent of a 16 year old boy, recently diagnosed with ADHD, predominantly inattentive. I had to read your post about 3 times before I was sure it wasn't my son who had posted it!! You sound frighteningly similar. We suspended a little while ago he may have ADHD but we didn't say anything to him. Recently during exam revision he was really struggling to focus and got really frustrated and googled his symptoms and came through and suggested he may have it. We took him to the GP the next day and he was referred to CAMHS for assessment but the waiting list was too long so we paid for him to be privately assessed. He did really well all through school, passed all his exams last year but struggled more as he has progressed through high school. He had always had comments on his school reports about being very able but chatty, unfocused, he procrastinates and does very little written work, fidgets with anything available and I remember him being offered the 'wriggly cushion' in primary school but no teachers ever suggested there was a problem, because he is not badly behaved, nor causes problems in class. It is so important that you speak to your parents and go to your GP as you may also start to struggle as you near the end of secondary school. Even if you are doing well now, a diagnosis will help if you want to go to university and need help then. Please let us know how you get on, and good luck. Take care x
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