Post by seeclearly74 on Sept 29, 2018 14:40:12 GMT
I have found out my husband has been impulse buying tools for at least the last year on his firm’s trade account, he hasn’t be fraudulent as he signed for everything but he has broken their trust by buying items and not notifying them . This anounts to £900 and they have also not given him work last week and this week ( self employed) so because of it so we will have lost two weeks wages at least. The total loss will be at least £2000.
I deal with all our finances because he isn’t able to and this is another kick in the teeth, time and time again we suffer as a family because of his behaviour. It’s never small amounts we lose out on but hundreds at a time. I have overlooked so much but there’s just always something else round the corner...it’s relentless!
I am so annoyed with him, not just for what he has done but his attitude that goes along with it.
He always tells me the minimal info I need to know but then it all comes out in the end. This makes it hard for me to trust him and to take what he says as truth.
The way he doesn’t take responsibility or understandi the implications of what he has done, make it hard for me to speak to him.
He expects me to be able to carry on being the understanding woman I have been the past month or so (since we said we would put the past behind us) and to not be affected at all emotionallly by this “set back”.
He feels bad,dispondant because we were getting somewhere,he’s getting frustrated and taking that out on me. I just feel he isn’t thinking of me or the kids at all but is just focused on himself and how he is feeling.
He keeps saying I am not being nice....well its pretty hard to be nice when we now have another big financial burden and he is looking to me to sort it out.
I can not see a light at the end of our tunnel
I am just finding it so hard as the disappointment is huge and I just don’t jnow what we are going to do.
Why is life so hard.....
I deal with all our finances because he isn’t able to and this is another kick in the teeth, time and time again we suffer as a family because of his behaviour. It’s never small amounts we lose out on but hundreds at a time. I have overlooked so much but there’s just always something else round the corner...it’s relentless!
I am so annoyed with him, not just for what he has done but his attitude that goes along with it.
He always tells me the minimal info I need to know but then it all comes out in the end. This makes it hard for me to trust him and to take what he says as truth.
The way he doesn’t take responsibility or understandi the implications of what he has done, make it hard for me to speak to him.
He expects me to be able to carry on being the understanding woman I have been the past month or so (since we said we would put the past behind us) and to not be affected at all emotionallly by this “set back”.
He feels bad,dispondant because we were getting somewhere,he’s getting frustrated and taking that out on me. I just feel he isn’t thinking of me or the kids at all but is just focused on himself and how he is feeling.
He keeps saying I am not being nice....well its pretty hard to be nice when we now have another big financial burden and he is looking to me to sort it out.
I can not see a light at the end of our tunnel
I am just finding it so hard as the disappointment is huge and I just don’t jnow what we are going to do.
Why is life so hard.....