mrsbarker
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Post by mrsbarker on Dec 4, 2018 13:50:35 GMT
Hi spouse's,
Looking to get some enlightenment. Have noticed patterns in my Husband behaviour and suspect he may have either ADHD, Autism,or both. His tome keeping with everything including work is terrible he's always late even though he rushes around, wakes up earlier he still manages to be late.
He forgets a lot of things and contradicts himself through conversation. (This has caused a lot of arguments as i thought he was lying, but he does seem genuinely confused.)
He has memory problems, trouble focusing on TV or conversation.
Has bad self esteem, and is constantly worried that he's going to do something wrong.
Has a vivid imagination and can make up pictures and stories out of the most random things.
He's socially awkward and hates meeting new people. People he's comfortable with he can sometimes talk over them but it seems to be without realising.
He has OCD about certain things.
With information such as letters, emails etc it takes him a few times of reading carefully to absorb the information.
Just wondering your thoughts on this really?
Many Thanks Kirsty. X
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2018 15:40:05 GMT
Sounds like a solid basis for referral to me.
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Post by jameswhatthefudge on Jan 1, 2019 23:06:23 GMT
Hiya,
Bless your Husband and well done you for being so attentive in noticing and trying to get some answers.
It does sound to me like what I have, Innattentive ADHD, which is ADHD without the hyperactivity. Obviously I can't say for sure but what you desribe of him is exactly how i am.
My typical morning consists of me waking up tired because my mind was up late fixing global warming or developing a billion pound business that i knoe ill never pursue but I'm hapoy to waste my evening exhausting the idea anyway.
I wake up groggy and I need ALOT of caffeine to get going. I will leave the house about 4 times because ill have to keep returning to collect things i "had a minute ago" that were important for me to take to work.
At work i'll chip into conversations but often I'll get lost with what was being spoken about as it takes hust 1 'shiny' moment for my concentration to break.
Shiny is what i call a distraction - something more exciting than the thing i was doing. Could be a fly, a gust of wind or an app notification on my phone. Anything, basically.
Write down all the things you notice and request to see a psychiatrist from your GP. They will make the referall for you.
Its important to remember that anxiety, ADHD/ADD, Autism all share certain symptoms so you may be bang on the mark, somewhere near or completely off. The more information you can give to a medical professional the better.
For ADHD there generally needs to be proof of the following:
A number of ADHD symptoms (i think 4) to be present in home and work life Evidence of the symptoms in childhood
It would be good to keep that in mind when you speak to the doctors. I was able to email my old school as I am 24 but may not be possible for your Husband depending when he left. Letters from people who knew him as a child can be used but its considered more strongly if its from an official source.
Let me know how he gets on and good luck to you both.
Happy new year!
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