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Post by northerner71 on Jul 29, 2019 20:44:45 GMT
My story is probably a familiar one.
48. Male. History of financial, relationship, work and personal car wrecks. Underperformance, and a lot of frequent painful relationships and separations. Addiction, comorbidity (anxiety depression). And that's the good stuff 😁
I had to turn to private healthcare for a proper diagnosis and medication only 2 months ago. Elvanse 30mg, now up to 50mg.
I remain cautiously pragmatic. To use the AA dictum: 1 day a time.
But right now a mixture of feelings:
- Relief that this 'thing' has a name, and that I'm not simply broken, a failure or a flake. - Anger and grieving at 3 decades of adult life that could have been so much better with earlier diagnosis. - Cynicism that maybe it's not a condition, and I'm just looking for an excuse - Fear that meds are going to do nothing except provide an expensive placebo - Hope, that I might be able to live the life I want.
That's it really.
P.
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Post by vagueandrandom on Jul 31, 2019 19:05:20 GMT
Yes, very familiar . .
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Post by harry83 on Aug 6, 2019 14:00:41 GMT
No, I really don't believe you're looking for an excuse (as you stated in your bulletpoints). Don't hold on to that belief or the belief will just ground itself even more firmly. Society is seriously getting worse at comprehending that psychological/neurological issues are as much as a thing as physical issues, but that doesn't mean it isn't real.
so you were diagnosed recently, is that right?
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Post by selfishdad19 on Aug 8, 2019 17:35:26 GMT
. I have never really given these forums the credit they deserve. I basically need some advice or to find out if anyone else has similar issues as myself.
I have been diagnosed with adult adhd for about 4 years. I am on medication that works. But there area number of personality issues I need some advice in.
I'm married to a very supportive and long suffering wife and I have 3 amazing boys who I adore. Well. As much as I let myself.
Biggest problem is I put myself first with everything I eat their food. I nick money from wife to buy cigarettes.. Or food.. Or occasionally. To gamble. I have been in GA before and it helps... A bit but its not my main problem.
It's my narcissism. And my selfishness. I hate dpin without so I don't. I don't give my wife or kids the time and attention they deserve coz I'm too wrapped up in my own feelings. I'm tired. I'm hungry. I can't be arsed. I don't want to.
I like to think I'm a warm loving guy... When it suits.. But I want to make this more frequent coz I won't lie. My marriage is at rock bottom. My wife has forgiven me more times than I count and she has had enough. The final straw is she has just v ound out I nicked money out her purse and thought I'd got away with it.
And I'm only reacting coz I got caught. I don't know if she can or will forgive me... But moving forward whatever happens I need to discuss this.. Address it.. And take steps to rectify it.
I'm a nice guy normally.. But this selfishness is consuming me.
Any other people in a similar situation to myself? Or have a partner that is the same?
Any comments... Tips... Advice.. Anything.. Please comment and ill read it and act accordingly.
Hope to speak to you guys soon
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2019 15:50:25 GMT
I don't relate to selfishness or borrowing without asking but some of the feedback I've received over the years suggests I'm an absolute prick to people when I'm tired and possibly even worse when I'm hungry.
Get your energy levels sorted and you may find yourself back in favour.
For example, taking less than my prescribed dose often has the effect of making me tired and argumentative.
Best of luck.
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