Post by Ally5678 on Jul 3, 2020 14:05:05 GMT
Hey guys,
First time using a forum for this, would really appreciate anyone that has any experience at all.
My son is 10 years old, he does have anxiety but i think there is more to it than what initially meets the eye. He has never been a good sleeper, from the day he was born. He is now afraid of being anywhere alone, be it in the car or in his bedroom. I have a 4 year old and a 7 year old, they are both fine at bedtime but my son goes to bed the same time as my 4 year old because he can't switch his mind off and stop thinking of scary things.
Academically he is intelligent, above average in alot of things, no signs of additional learning needs such as dyslexia & dyspraxia however every teacher he has ever had says his resilience levels are poor, if he doesn't understand something - meltdown, if he gets the wrong answer - meltdown. Friendships can be difficult because he doesn't like to deviate from his games, he has to win, if he doesn't - emotional turmoil pursues. His friends know how to push his buttons, he reacts quite easily. Emotionally his maturity levels are lower than my 7 year olds. Sometimes it feels like I'm walking on egg shells and no matter what i say it won't be the right thing. He is quick to react. He can get very angry over what seems to be minor things. Yesterday he sobbed because i couldn't help him climb a tree, I offered different scenarios to encourage him but he wanted me to lift him onto the tree,
He loses things all the time, coats, polo shirts even trousers?? He never brings homework home, and it's not intentional because he doesn't want to do it, he just loses it between leaving the classroom and meeting me just outside his classroom. His teacher thinks it's just his way, he is really heavy and in the situation it was just impossible. I was then late to collect my youngest child because he was having another meltdown.
Breaking things -Chewing holes through hus jumper, poloshirts and also ramming a pen through his poloshirt - damaging most beyond repair.
Recently bought him a sofa for his room, it had buttons on it - they've been ripped off (not in anger just boredom?? I don't really know) He breaks most things, recently a toy that I placed on his windowsill for show. He can't sit still, bouncing his leg when sitting on the sofa, tapping, chucking things etc.
He has an hour and a half a day of gaming time which he loves and plans his life around, at my wits end, myself and his dad have signed up for a positive parenting course online to try and broaden our parenting tools to help him and our other children. My brain hurts mkst days.
What I have written is the tip of the iceberg, he is so loving and has the best personality, he will chat to ANYONE,he loves cuddles (hates kisses, always has) I have spoken to the senco in school, she pulled up his file, comments from his teacher - 'He's a day dreamer'. She wants me to keep a diary which I will. We've been to the doctors (without him) she wants input from the school, a neueodevelopmental perspective. He is also reading books atm since we've started cracking down on screen time.
Random facts he hates having his nails cuts and using a knife and fork, doesn't like having his hair cut.
Can be overly loving and suffocating sometimes.Intense with his favourite friend of the week.
My question really is, has anyone had experience like this? Academically sound but struggling in other areas such as emotionally eg resilience?
Thanks everyone
First time using a forum for this, would really appreciate anyone that has any experience at all.
My son is 10 years old, he does have anxiety but i think there is more to it than what initially meets the eye. He has never been a good sleeper, from the day he was born. He is now afraid of being anywhere alone, be it in the car or in his bedroom. I have a 4 year old and a 7 year old, they are both fine at bedtime but my son goes to bed the same time as my 4 year old because he can't switch his mind off and stop thinking of scary things.
Academically he is intelligent, above average in alot of things, no signs of additional learning needs such as dyslexia & dyspraxia however every teacher he has ever had says his resilience levels are poor, if he doesn't understand something - meltdown, if he gets the wrong answer - meltdown. Friendships can be difficult because he doesn't like to deviate from his games, he has to win, if he doesn't - emotional turmoil pursues. His friends know how to push his buttons, he reacts quite easily. Emotionally his maturity levels are lower than my 7 year olds. Sometimes it feels like I'm walking on egg shells and no matter what i say it won't be the right thing. He is quick to react. He can get very angry over what seems to be minor things. Yesterday he sobbed because i couldn't help him climb a tree, I offered different scenarios to encourage him but he wanted me to lift him onto the tree,
He loses things all the time, coats, polo shirts even trousers?? He never brings homework home, and it's not intentional because he doesn't want to do it, he just loses it between leaving the classroom and meeting me just outside his classroom. His teacher thinks it's just his way, he is really heavy and in the situation it was just impossible. I was then late to collect my youngest child because he was having another meltdown.
Breaking things -Chewing holes through hus jumper, poloshirts and also ramming a pen through his poloshirt - damaging most beyond repair.
Recently bought him a sofa for his room, it had buttons on it - they've been ripped off (not in anger just boredom?? I don't really know) He breaks most things, recently a toy that I placed on his windowsill for show. He can't sit still, bouncing his leg when sitting on the sofa, tapping, chucking things etc.
He has an hour and a half a day of gaming time which he loves and plans his life around, at my wits end, myself and his dad have signed up for a positive parenting course online to try and broaden our parenting tools to help him and our other children. My brain hurts mkst days.
What I have written is the tip of the iceberg, he is so loving and has the best personality, he will chat to ANYONE,he loves cuddles (hates kisses, always has) I have spoken to the senco in school, she pulled up his file, comments from his teacher - 'He's a day dreamer'. She wants me to keep a diary which I will. We've been to the doctors (without him) she wants input from the school, a neueodevelopmental perspective. He is also reading books atm since we've started cracking down on screen time.
Random facts he hates having his nails cuts and using a knife and fork, doesn't like having his hair cut.
Can be overly loving and suffocating sometimes.Intense with his favourite friend of the week.
My question really is, has anyone had experience like this? Academically sound but struggling in other areas such as emotionally eg resilience?
Thanks everyone