g77
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Post by g77 on Apr 14, 2021 16:05:09 GMT
I have ADD but due to other health issues, cannot go onto medication. My whole life has been full of failed attempts to do things like study and hold down jobs, but I have no self control or motivation and have just procrastinated my whole life away. My days are always the same. Get up with a plan, get distracted by everything and anything, do nothing and then make a plan for tomorrow. I always finish the day by being bitterly disappointed in my self, which ends up with self anger and hatred, but then I go and do exactly the same the next day. I am 43 years old now and have wasted so much of my life, and that just makes me feel worse. I decided to study and create a new career during lockdown, but have done nothing except for pay for courses that I have barely started. I am so sick of bring stuck in this cycle and desperately want to study and achieve something, but just don't know what you to do to make myself do something. I'm just so tired of my life
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Post by speedy1 on Apr 15, 2021 18:14:25 GMT
Ur trying 2 do 2 much all at once it's an easy trap 2 fall into
We all seem 2 have great ambitions and have visualized the exciting end result
But the tedious middle bits r our downfall
Baby steps
Pick just 1 thing 2 do a day and break that down into smaller steps
For example 4 me sometimes just getting out of bed is difficult coz I've decided I'm gonna do so many things I just end up still in bed still thinking about it
So I break down getting up step 1 go 2 loo clean teeth have shower
Step 2 make coffee and toast and have it in bed (my little treat) set alarm 4 20min time
Alarm goes off get dressed go outside have cigarette
Start day
So u c small steps interspersed with little treats
Start small the more u do it the better u get at it persist with it don't give up
Good luck hope this is helpful and not 2 boring
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Post by bubbley2427 on May 4, 2021 20:39:37 GMT
Be kind to yourself. Take little steps. my daughter got diagnosed about 6month ago and routine works best for her which is hard and some days impossible but think tomorrow is another day. Try not overwhelm your self with a million jobs.I dont plan as plans always fall through or I forget. live day by day. Eg wake up and think right today I'm going to try do this leave little reminders on phone or on buts of paper. I'm newly diagnosed and on my first day of medication. Does anyone else take atomexetine that can give any advice or there expierience?
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2021 10:44:24 GMT
I have ADD but due to other health issues, cannot go onto medication. My whole life has been full of failed attempts to do things like study and hold down jobs, but I have no self control or motivation and have just procrastinated my whole life away. My days are always the same. Get up with a plan, get distracted by everything and anything, do nothing and then make a plan for tomorrow. I always finish the day by being bitterly disappointed in my self, which ends up with self anger and hatred, but then I go and do exactly the same the next day. I am 43 years old now and have wasted so much of my life, and that just makes me feel worse. I decided to study and create a new career during lockdown, but have done nothing except for pay for courses that I have barely started. I am so sick of bring stuck in this cycle and desperately want to study and achieve something, but just don't know what you to do to make myself do something. I'm just so tired of my life You mention the word 'study' at least three times. Have you associated success with studying, perhaps? Might there be an alternative version of success that you haven't yet stumbled upon? With regard to medication, the tablets are great for attenuating impulses or for mashing through the mundane but they almost certainly stunt short term creativity in the process. I hate that feeling that life is slipping me by. All good things must come to an end so this must apply to all shit things too. Hang in there.
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