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Post by elvansedtothe70 on Feb 25, 2022 18:37:04 GMT
I moved into a new team at work and made the error of informing Human Resources about my diagnosis with adhd, as I was due to start meds. My boss has since targeted me, and when explaining that difficulty in articulating is experienced when stressed, they advised that they’re not sure they want to deal with my ADHD, and it’s something they need to think about. When I initially mentioned that this was due to ADHD, the HR hat was firmly in place. I was sent an email with all senior partners copied in detailing my diagnosis and how this may not be the role for me as they don’t want a job to cause me stress. The email was vastly different to our conversation, off the record, but what upsets me is that all senior partners are aware of my disability, when I’ve not had the chance to process it myself. Since then it’s been daily comments where I’m publicly berated and called ‘haphazard in communication’, which makes it all the more difficult to be clear and concise. I’ve been laughed at on countless occasions, where my 60 hour weeks end in tears. I achieve and exceed my daily objectives, but i have reached a point where I feel totally useless as a person, and I have no hope for the future. Am I being overly sensitive about normal workplace behaviour, and procedures? If not, how does one set boundaries when self confidence is already depleted? Please help, everything has just become so very heavy
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Post by speedy1 on Mar 3, 2022 20:20:20 GMT
Hi elvansedtothe70Constantly trying to prove you’re as good as everyone else if not better is something we ADHDers try to do everyday And even though a lot of the time we are awesome at some things we still doubt ourselves and put ourselves down You need to remember that employers are not interested in what you can’t do, they only want to know how you can benefit them So you really need to showcase your strengths and make them realise what an asset you are So yeah probably telling your employers about your ADHD before you fully understand it yourself might not of been the best decision for this situation But hey it’s done now so ride with it and try show how your uniqueness can be a strength I have aspects of my job that I have difficulties with (to the point of tears) But I also have aspects that I’m absolutely awesome at plus my enthusiasm makes me the favourite by both managers and coworkers I’m exceptionally lucky that I have an exceptional boss who’s recognised my strengths and weaknesses and has made adjustments for me to optimise my work efficiency I doubt that she’d of done that if I hadn’t showcased my talents and tried my hardest at the mundane stuff that I struggle with First you need to believe you can do it, then you need a plan of how to do it whilst minimising the impact of your ADHD Then you need to tell the doubters to sit the fuck down and say yeah but I can still do it better than most people in this room and with a smile on my face Hope I haven’t gone off on a tangent and hope this is of some help or comfort
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