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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2010 18:38:15 GMT
My son is 19 now and seems to be suffering with anxiety and depression. He has always been a difficult child lashing out speaking nasty, irritating and very violent. he slept very little and wet the bed till he was 11. at school his report said he had serious behavioural problems and unable to get on with his peers. i took him to the docs for help when he was 10(as he gave a boy at school concussion) and they sent us to a anger management lady, who gave up on him therapy wise and just said i will give him something to calm him down at play time i refused the medication and never took him back again(as we had always put up with him the symptoms didn't seem as bad to us we just thought he was a bit bad tempered) any way as i say he is now 19 he always thinks the worst is very nasty to everyone he cry s when he is annoyed or confronted about anything he spends money the min he gets it is abusive to his girlfriend (who he now lives with) he refuses to wash a dish , or do any tidying up he speaks so out of turn to everyone he is just generally nasty most of the time however when he is nice he is lovely he complains of bad stomachs and is often sick he has a poor sleep pattern and always has to have the last word . he is very un-organised and forgetful. he hates himself and others and will let nothing drop he cant concentrate for long. am at my wits end with him and want to help him so much can anyone help and point me in the right direction.
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Post by goosey on Jul 3, 2010 19:25:54 GMT
Hi brenian69, Welcome to the forum. I hope we can help you somehow. It sounds like your son is having major difficulties coping and is striking out at everything and anything. I have NO experience to offer you, but do have some suggestions. Is there anything that 'floats his boat' ? Music, art, computers, skateboarding......?? My thoughts are to encourage him to pursue those interests. His anxiety and anger could be due to many things but maybe frustration and low esteem. There could be many different explanations to explain his behaviour and problems. You don't say if he is dx with adhd, maybe that's something you could look in to...ie the symptoms, there are on-line tests that you could look at (just to give you an idea as much more info required for proper dx). His girlfriend may be able to help with encouraging him to pursue professional help. If he's anything like me....if I'm told to do something....I do the opposite...so maybe plant a seed first ! I hope this helps, even just a little. I was a nightmare as a youngster....until I found sport...that chanelled my energies and calmed me down. Keep positive....there are people who can help
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2010 19:52:26 GMT
hi he has not been diagnosed with anything yet he is will to go to the doctors as he knows this is ruining his life to be honest i think he would feel happier if he was diagnosed with adhd or odd , but he is not much of a talker, i have offered to go with him. my main concern is for the doctor to take no notice of him when he has plucked up the courage to go will they give him medication or will they send him to councerling? i dont think he would do the latter. his passion is football but of late he is losing interest in that
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2010 0:58:17 GMT
He could have ADHD, or Asperger's Syndrome. Can you go into the doctors with him? My Mum had to do that with me as I didn;t know what to say, forgot what to say and I was lacking in confidence to get my point across. My Mum could also provide a lot more examples of my "abnormal" behaviour than I could, as what is normal for me, isn't normal for others apparently lol. Keep your chin up, there are many people on this forum to talk to, and support you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2010 11:39:29 GMT
hi lindsayloo what happened when you went to the docs x
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2010 19:19:32 GMT
I asked my GP if my Mum could come in with me. The GP was fine with this. After my Mum helped describe my symptoms and behaviours she immediately referred me to psychological services for an evaluation. The GP wasn't overly surprised, as I drove her up the wall over many years by forgetting appointments, forgetting to re order prescriptions, forgetting to take tablets etc. The easy part was the diagnosis to be honest, but getting further treatment is really difficult in my area as there are no services for over 18's with ADHD. She is trying, along with the psychologist who diagnosed me, to get some kind of support system up and running. I've now been referred to a psychiatrist in the hope that I can be prescribed ritalin/concerta, as GP's are not allowed to just prescribe these drugs without the say so of a psychiatrist. Weird, but true lol. All the best to you and your son.
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Post by snickerz on Jul 15, 2010 5:37:15 GMT
I found taking my mother in with me has helped so much, were I would jump from one thing to another my mother was able to get the point across.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2010 17:05:53 GMT
hiya i had the same problem as your son im 19 years of age and have the same problem with incontince wetting the bed all that its part of adhd nerodevelopmental disorder its part of and anixiety and depression with it im sorry to hear you had a bad time of it all and ever want top talk im around so hope ya do
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Post by dipsy on Aug 8, 2010 0:26:45 GMT
Hi, I'm 39 now, but had same when i was 15, much as lozzo has said, i have adhd,aspergers, learning problems etc, i come across as normal initialy, but then my issues become apparent.
If your son can see someone whom he feels relaxed with 'yeah right!', some of these issues can become easy to resolve, then the bigger issues can be dealt with. Until then its a visous cirlce. He might have various issues, but the problem is GPs (tho i was very fortunate, i took along all the evidence, as advised on here) my GP new what to do. Funding (PCTs, specialits)
Its a postcode lottery, have a look around here and keep asking questions.
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