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Post by annie on Dec 13, 2010 19:06:03 GMT
If I've got this right a few of you have important appointments for tomorrow.
Just want to wish you all well and hope you're being seen by a specialist who does have the knowledge and understanding to recognisee your condition.
Good luck - am on holiday in Denmark but hope I can pop back in the next few days to find out how it went!
annie
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Post by kakema on Dec 13, 2010 19:23:54 GMT
Hey, Annie - good of you to remember! Yes, fingers crossed all round!
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 13, 2010 21:25:20 GMT
Hey Annie - thank you - yep three of us that i know of - what's meant to be and all that - best foot forward guys xx
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Post by goosey on Dec 13, 2010 21:35:40 GMT
Annie.....you're lovely.....will you be my cyber mum ? It's so nice to have the reassurance and support of others.....especially at stressful times. Family's just don't seem to quite understand ! Good luck oooshiny.....mine is next month at the QMC.....so be interested to hear how you go on. Annie - have fun in Denmark
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Post by laura on Dec 13, 2010 22:02:25 GMT
good luck everyone
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 7:48:05 GMT
You, too, ChaosLily. We haven't forgotten you. ;D
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Post by twix on Dec 14, 2010 7:52:19 GMT
All crossed for everyone
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Post by ChaosLily on Dec 14, 2010 8:30:00 GMT
I got remembered when I wasn't there and everything!! Thank you! Good luck Shiny and CD!!! I'm getting my hopes up when I know I shouldn't but I just can't help it! I'm going to aim to be there an hour prior to the appointment - might be there on time then!! x
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 14, 2010 13:45:45 GMT
Hey Chaos - is yours today too? Getting confused about who's got what appt where.
Just got back from mine - combined type ADHD - in for a penny eh!!
I feel very relieved and happy - got some concerta but will start tomorrow or Thursday - dont want to feel rushed about it and just enjoying the feeling that the year long wait and all the stress was worth it.
Thinking of you all - and sending good luck your way xxxx
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Post by snickerz on Dec 14, 2010 14:07:54 GMT
good luck all of you hope your appointments go your way x x
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 14, 2010 15:26:32 GMT
I will do for sure - i know how badly i needed to hear about the appt and meds etc from people a bit further down the line than me so of course I'm happy to share my personal experience with it - might not start it for a bit - not sure why I'm not rushing - maybe I'm cured already ;D ;D ;D
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 15:46:03 GMT
Well, I couldn't even get that right. The guy was sceptical from the start - my childhood history is non-existent up to the age of about 14, when I can recollect being inattentive. He said that if I didn't have the disorder as a child, I couldn't have it as an adult. Or something like that. An hour and a half of grilling, at the end of which he said he needed another appointment before concluding, at which point I burst into tears and said I couldn't wait any longer to know. He said if I forced him to conclude now he would say no. He compared me to people who are 'really impaired' by the disorder - I'm not impaired enough. I said I couldn't see how being so distressed by my inability to cope with my work and home life that I was driven to contemplate suicide didn't count as 'impaired'. He said I shouldn't take it personally and he had no motivation to diagnose or not diagnose, he just had to follow his diagnostic process.
I feel physically sick now, I have a work call in 45 minutes and am completely in bits. And I probably don't belong here, by all accounts. Even though I have never felt so at home anywhere.
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 14, 2010 16:00:08 GMT
Argh! Thats the saddest message ive ever read and was my absolute worst nightmare - i wish i wish i wish i could make you feel better. I'm sure Ive heard that its classic to not remember your childhood very well?? Shiny - no good to you at all right now but you can get a second opinion - maybe privately or by another adhd specialist and that's only if Jan doesn't go well. Did you discuss poss co morbid stuff which might be complicating things?? Not saying you have any - just trying to think of reasons why you might not be so "obviously adhd" (apart from better mental maturity and a higher intelligence than me that is But hey what on earth do i know - advice anyone? PS - don't you dare come off the forum - your stuck with us now whether you like it or not!!!
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Post by goosey on Dec 14, 2010 16:18:29 GMT
oooshiny, sorry to hear your appointment didn't go quite as planned. BUT, he hasn't concluded his assessment......so don't give up Following diagnostic procedure adds substance and measurement to the assessment. Sometimes things are very obvious and sometimes they are not. You simply need further investigation. Can I liken the situation to a broken leg..........One person presents with an 'S' shaped leg, in great pain and can't walk at all, ....so obviously broken.
However another patient can walk....albeit in a lot of pain, and the leg looks 'normal.
To dx the 2nd patient....just takes a little more time and more investigation. Just because you don't present as a 'severe case' doesn't mean you don't have it ! Hang in there girl.....impatient as we all are.....breath deeply IN and OUT.....and be strong
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 16:31:25 GMT
What bugs me is 'severe' is relative, isn't it? 'Impaired' is relative. OK, I'm not in debt because of my financial incompetence and impulsive overspending, but that's cos I work in an industry that pays massively over the odds. But I have no savings, and spend everything I take home - had to shell out for cancellations at the weekend because I'd double-booked myself and the wee one and forgot to fix it in time. I never get round to shopping around for stuff so just pay full whack. I'm never on time to get to clients, so spend all my money on cabs, when a little bit of forethought would probably get me there on time. Money helps shore me up. Yes, I have never been sacked, but people who started off alongside me are now partners in big firms, CEOs, blah, blah - I'm just as technically able as them, but I'm unreliable, don't plan, over promise, deliver late, can't button my lip, yadda yadda. OK I got a degree, but would a person in the 'gifted' IQ bracket walk out barely scraping a 2 ii if there wasn't a problem?
He just looked at me as though I couldn't see how successful I am, and I must be some sort of weird self-punishing perfectionist who thinks they're a failure because they're not running the country - but I'm not. I know I've achieved a great deal, but it's come at a cost, and I'm becoming increasingly tired of paying out.
Anyway, sorry. I'm just upset. I'll pull myself together and find a way through. I know you'll all be great and supportive and i really, really appreciate you.
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Post by goosey on Dec 14, 2010 16:51:43 GMT
I argued with the psych on my 1st appointment !! He couldn't understand my referral request.....coz I wasn't bouncing off the walls or interrupting him or fidgeting like a naughty child........how on earth could I think I had adhd I have had a successful working life and achieved high sporting accolades. However, it's at uni studying a difficult subject at intense levels that adhd causes me the most difficulties. The NHS psych slated the private psych, stating as I paid him direct, he obviously felt obliged to give me a dx plus meds !! WTF !! But.....I persisted....he referred me to the QMC....AND now he prescribes Concerta on the NHS.Hang in there oooshiny and everyone else seeking a dx......our coping mechanisms are very effective.....so we are simply 'more of a challenge' to dx
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Post by snickerz on Dec 14, 2010 16:57:23 GMT
hang in there shiney the bloke sounds like a complete and utter nob, does he not realise there are people with adhd that are succesfull
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 17:03:35 GMT
OMG! I kept interrupting him and he told me off every time. 'Let me finish the question'.
Where did you go for your private consultation, Goosey? I think I may need to get my wallet out.
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Post by snickerz on Dec 14, 2010 17:06:43 GMT
eh hello shiney interupting others is what us lot do a lot, this bloke clearly hasnt a clue
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Post by goosey on Dec 14, 2010 17:17:19 GMT
I agree with snickerz...... if you were constantly interrupting him.....why the fcuk did he not twig !!! Doh !!! The private pysch I saw is a child and adolescent psych (!!) specialising in adhd. Works privately in Cheltenham. Told me he didn't have any experience with adults....but was happy to help. (as NO NHS referral or funds available for adhd in Glos or Bristol). I would see how the next appointment goes before you part with anymore hard earned cash !!
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Post by laura on Dec 14, 2010 17:30:23 GMT
congrats campdisaster sorry to hear your appointment didnt go well shiney, but at least he has given you a second appointment. is he a specialist? when i saw a general psychiatrist on route to seeing a specialist i was very disheartened as she didnt beleive in adult adhd and was certain i had a personality disorder because i wasnt obvious adhd(the dr i saw before her thought i had bi polar) i told her that i didnt think she was right and wanted to be seen by someone with experiance of adult adhd. i reluctantly got the refferal to the qmc in nottingham, where i was diagnosed. try not to be too disheartened the diagnosis process seems to be designed like an obstacle course, prepare for your next appointment and go from there.
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 14, 2010 17:42:29 GMT
Thank you Laura - goosey - great analogy re broken leg - sums it perfectly!!!
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Post by snickerz on Dec 14, 2010 17:49:17 GMT
and soz congrats on your dx, wonder how chaoslily got on
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Post by han3617 on Dec 14, 2010 18:06:08 GMT
You are all wonderful - I had even forgotten I had an appointment tomorrow! Idiot. oooshiny - that's crap! I was lucky that I managed to find my old school reports, but could your family possibly help you out with any recollections of what you were like as a child? (It's ironic that my mum never stopped berating me for my ADHD-like behaviour as a child - yet when I was diagnosed as an adult, she said she didn't believe in it!!!) But of course you belong - the best judge of how you feel and whether you have ADHD is you - despite some cynic of a doctor! But good luck, everybody! Must admit I am really nervous... might ask my doc outright if she 'believes in' ADHD before I even start! Heather
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Post by snickerz on Dec 14, 2010 18:17:57 GMT
good luck for tomorrow heather
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 18:55:33 GMT
Yes! Good luck, Heather, report, please, CLil and best of all, well done my mate Campy for keeping together and playing a blinder. Hope it all pays off now. As you may have gathered, a dear 'friend' (who needs enemies?), pd, has given me a good slap and persuaded me to get a grip. Where would we be without him?? (love him really - straight talk is sometimes the best meds of all ). So, getting ready to 'attend' to 'The Bells of Christmas', featuring some really dodgy violin solos.....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2010 19:57:21 GMT
This is what I said
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Post by rachel2050 on Dec 14, 2010 20:40:01 GMT
I love airplane - my favourite line was where a very nervous guy sits down on the plane and buckles up - his next door neighbour says "nervous?" and he says "yep" she says "first time?" and he says "no - ive been nervous lots of times" hilarious!!!
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Post by kakema on Dec 14, 2010 20:58:00 GMT
Didja see that?? Did you see it?! It wasn't that he got his mates in to queue up and hand out the slaps - it was the sneaky little follow-up one he dished out on the way past. That really stung.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2010 21:28:28 GMT
Hi Shiny I am really sad to hear of your disapointment but dont give up honey, you know who you are . I only joined this forum at weekend but I can see how much you help & reassure others including myself so I hope the positive messages from your friends will keep you strong. Chin up & ((big hug)) x
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