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Post by Mouse on Feb 15, 2011 19:08:31 GMT
I cannot abide my husband's cousin's wife. The cousin is lovely and their 2 children are okay (though I fear the daughter is turning into a mini-me version of her mother).
When the subject of going to visit them comes up up I always tell my OH to go with his mother, who likes to visit and catch up on what they're doing, and I will stay at home. (MIL doesn't like her either but she likes to know what is going on being of a terminally nosy nature...)
OH knows I get bored out of my skull when I have to make small talk with people I actively dislike. At the daughter's christening I blotted my copy book by taking myself off for a walk due to all conversation being in Polish and my brain shut down as I cannot translate quick enough to take part. Trouble is he doesn't experience the physical pain of being bored.
I will go anywhere else with OH even the annual War & Peace show in Kent...but this is just too much to ask. 'Not going' seems unreasonable to him but an eminently sensible solution to me.
What would or what does anyone else do in this situation?
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Post by kakema on Feb 15, 2011 22:29:15 GMT
I go sometimes, and other times, I don't go. Bit of give and take. Spreads the load.
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Post by goosey on Feb 15, 2011 23:01:12 GMT
I've avoided my husbands 'extended family' for years.....the dates seem to unfortunately clash with work or me being on call (in a previous life....when I was working).
Think I had a lot in common with my late mother-in-law.....she didn't like visitors, so didn't go and visit....or allow people to visit her ! Also meant that she never met me, but really not that bothered !
Families eh.....you can choose your friends.......
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Post by mizmog on Feb 16, 2011 7:28:25 GMT
Lady after my own heart Goosey lol
I have only met my Mother-in-Law 3 times and one of those was at our wedding! lol My husband says i am a lot like her even though we cant stand each other...
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Post by mavster on Feb 16, 2011 8:34:03 GMT
I have my mother in law staying with us for two weeks , and we only live in a tiny two bedroom terrace . The kids like her but she just critisises everything and acts like my dog and cats are toxic. She even had a go at us on valentines day for spending money on a nice meal at home , even though we saved by not going out Expect to see me on the news for murder some time soon
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Post by mizmog on Feb 16, 2011 8:45:17 GMT
LOL @ Mav... I might know a good builder for the patio!!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2011 11:05:57 GMT
i love my partners family however what i cannot abide by is the amount of time it takes us to leave the house when its time to go home.
it drives me up the wall and i get very rude....
surely its just, decide you are going, say bye, walk out of the door, done.
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Post by Mouse on Feb 16, 2011 18:31:00 GMT
My MIL and I do get on but always get on much better when my husband isn't around! Reckon we have some sort of unconscious vying for his attention!
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Post by boo on Feb 19, 2011 19:45:04 GMT
i am so anti social i avoid pretty much all family/friends/social gatherings. my OH goes alone most of the time and is fairly cool about it, he always asks me and i always apologise and ask if he minds if i dont go and he always says it fine and then he goes and i dont...... seemples
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Post by Mouse on Feb 19, 2011 20:32:58 GMT
Boo, that's what I call a civilised arrangement!
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Post by boo on Feb 19, 2011 23:15:09 GMT
yeah, seems to work well ;D
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2011 1:03:21 GMT
i am so anti social i avoid pretty much all family/friends/social gatherings. my OH goes alone most of the time and is fairly cool about it, he always asks me and i always apologise and ask if he minds if i dont go and he always says it fine and then he goes and i dont...... seemples Thats me to a T. I made friends st Uni which means that I have a social life and I have to deal with their friends. They are always trying to get me to go out, meet more people. I'm conflicted to be honest. One side of me really hates that and is suffering every single second because of the pure and utter boredem. That side of me would rather be in my room lying in bed doing nothing. Then there is the other side of me. Which yearn to be "normal". I know that this time is my chance to actually have what I missed most of my life. "Now I can be just like everyone. Just pretend to be normal and go with the flow" But then it dawns on me that I am still socially inept and i become a wallpaper before i slowly walk back to my room.
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