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Post by snickerz on Apr 9, 2011 7:52:06 GMT
sorry was a complete and utter prick last night
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Post by kakema on Apr 9, 2011 8:33:14 GMT
I wouldn't say that - you came in looking for something you needed, but the vibe was somewhere else.
It's tricky. The room is for AADD, but it can't always be all things to all people, the way the forum is, because it's one thread and it's live.
I still think we should have a(t least one) 'serious' night for people who want an instant chat about issues that are bugging them. I've suggested Weds as a start, but I don't think it's taken off. I'm willing to make a commitment to be on 'standby' there for the next couple of weeks, though, to see if there is demand enough to get it running on its own.
But a bunch of us have formed the habit of using the Friday night to kick back and do ADHDer randomness among friends who get how that works. We can't always be ourselves in that way with NTs because they really don't get it - so it's an important opportunity to blow off steam in a 'safe' place. We're not part of a secret offline clique, we just gelled in the room. I'm not even saying it's right, coz we're kinda hogging the sofa, but it is what it is, now, and we value it a lot.
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Post by azz on Apr 9, 2011 9:01:19 GMT
I really respect people who can just apologise and say 'I was a dick'. If more people could do that, the world would be a much easier place.
I didnt see what you did, but I think you're cool for apologising. There's nothing that annoys me more than when people stay the course just for consistency's sake.
Apart from being shot in the head. That would probably annoy me more, I spose.
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Post by goosey on Apr 9, 2011 9:06:29 GMT
Hey snickerz, I wouldn't be so harsh to call you that at all (not my fav word...altho was appropriate for someone recently !! ;D) It has (as shiny says) raised the issue of having a 'chat' night available for folk who want to talk about more important issues. This could b in the form of themes ie help getting a dx or guidance with meds or issues at work or issues with friends and family....or merely where people want / need to release the stresses of a shite week. Not sure how to progress that apart from arranging a night for more serious chat. Am on Hols from Uni at mo, so also be available on Weds nights - although I definitely don't have all the answers The Friday nights have established in to very quick banter (super fast thinking and typing) with base humour plus vulgarity. For me it represents a place where I feel I'm 'got' and don't have to censor myself.....before I open my gob ! I am aware that it's not everyone's cup of tea. However, it's unusual for me to find a group of folk with similar thought processing. Can I just tell you that I'm writing this message while soaking in the bath....I was a little over zealous with the spray on tan yesterday.....orange feet and hands.....Doh !!!! Anyway, I'm sure we can arrange things so everyone's needs are addressed
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2011 9:38:26 GMT
You can have private conversations in chat - click on the usernames in the list on the right.
That would work a lot better than taking over the whole party.
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Post by seahorse on Apr 9, 2011 11:48:30 GMT
I think having a serious night would be good. There was some serious - and very helpful, thank you! - chat last night, but things did get rather random at times. I like it, as I said then, that we can just let fly with our ADDness and everyone understands.
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Post by snickerz on Apr 10, 2011 21:55:02 GMT
I totally understand the randomness was not in a good place lAst week at all Soz
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Post by Mouse on Apr 16, 2011 7:57:32 GMT
I think having a 'serious' night could be good or a separate room because ,TBH, I feel out of place when I visit - I tried to understand what was going on but mostly just didn't 'get' the humour and some of it I wished I didn't get! (Heaven help me I've turned into a right old prude)
Plus, there is too much being said all at once and that causes me mind to process things even slower! (bit like being in noisy bar with loads of background music).
I don't often feel 'old', I certainly don't look my age, but I guess it is a generational thing. I suppose it's just the same as being invited out to events at bars, I politely decline as I would feel at a loss and get overwhelmed and I've had my fill of sitting at the side of the room like an ageing wallflower! (I suppose I have to come to terms with the fact that I don't tweet, I don't Facebook, so am definitely an old fart)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2011 8:41:55 GMT
Mouse, everyone is different even if we all share a spectrum of similar characteristics. The Wednesday chat was my first and was definitely more attentive to those who wanted a serious discussion. The 'many people talking at once' problem is unavoidable in a group chat room but if you find this difficult it is possible to double click on a member's name and it opens a private chat window where you can continue a conversation uninterrupted.
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Post by ChaosLily on Apr 16, 2011 10:03:33 GMT
If you go a second time, you'll find that almost exactly the same thing happens as the first time. Then, by the time you get to a third or forth time you'll be fully clued up on consumption of alcohol, midgets, lurch, lesbians, porn, whips, slaps, balls and toothbrushes and will be able to randomly say anything that involves those key words and everyone will think you know what you're on about.
Simples!
Oh, apparently it helps to be pissed too.
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Post by kakema on Apr 16, 2011 10:19:58 GMT
Okay, okay, fair comment! It's possibly a bit..... niche... Also definitely helps to be pissed! That way you forget the week before and can do it all again!
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Post by ChaosLily on Apr 16, 2011 10:54:18 GMT
Okay, okay, fair comment! It's possibly a bit..... niche... Also definitely helps to be pissed! That way you forget the week before and can do it all again! Hehe! Thank you for taking that in the way it was intended! ;D
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Post by Mouse on Apr 16, 2011 13:50:16 GMT
My comments were just my perspective on things and not a complaint. It just so happens that the Saturday chat room is not really my cup of tea - but that is life, some things suit and feel comfortable and others don't. I don't have a problem with the 'niche' aspects... I just realised it wasn't really my bag! Though I did for my brief visits pick up some interesting phrases which made me smile.
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Post by snickerz on Apr 16, 2011 16:21:26 GMT
yep fridays deffo helps to be pissed in chat lmfao
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2011 16:50:13 GMT
I don't know what you're talking about and I have never been in the chatroom.
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Post by goosey on Apr 16, 2011 21:27:26 GMT
< PD is now doing a good impression of Pinocchio> I think to start with...... just watch the banter on chat for 20-30 mins, if you do this for a couple of Weds and Fridays you'll get an understanding of what goes on. Several conversations going on at the same time do happen, that can't be helped. As previously suggested, having a private chat (double clicking on someone's name) might help new folk integrate more Ultimately it either floats your boat.....or it doesn't !
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