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Post by Justwondering on Aug 3, 2011 11:42:55 GMT
Hello I have wondered for a while if my DD has some form of ADHD as there have been hints from teachers and problems at school (although up to now she has done well). Having looked into it a bit I think I may be ADHD/Aspergers! Anyway I worry that actually putting the idea in her head may make her worse, may cause prejudice from others etc. on the other hand could it give her the help she needs with organisation, she is extremely resistant to this at the moment. Oh and about me, I hate having to justify to other people what I am doing and this makes me appear/actually be secretive, is this a common problem?
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Post by kakema on Aug 3, 2011 19:21:48 GMT
Hello! It's good to be sensitive to the downside of 'labels' etc - but if her symptoms are enough to cause her difficulties at school and home (you don't say how old she is?), you should think hard about getting it looked at. As for hating having to 'show your workings' - yes. 'Isn't it obvious?' Boooooring. Very common.
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Post by Justwondering on Aug 4, 2011 9:03:13 GMT
17 just going into A2 year so potentially only at home for just over a year.
She doesn't like showing her workings in Maths rather than writing down logical steps she says she just writes down numbers until she comes up with an answer! ;D
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Post by adamv on Nov 5, 2011 8:24:41 GMT
Pros: You can get help and achiv more in life. Cons: You will get the stigma attached with ADHD and carry it for the rest of your like, your be stereotyped as the classic ADHD naughty person for the rest of your life even when you reach adulthood and most of the symptoms vanish as you find ways to cope. Also your have issues applying for a driving licence, insurance will go up and i think you might get problems with a morgage..
So a diagnosis will improve your quality of life as a child, but make hell for you when your older. This is speaking from personal experience.
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Post by IlikecheeseandIhaveatail on Nov 5, 2011 9:26:01 GMT
I am hopeful that the negative view of adhd is going to lessen greatly in the next few years.
The things Adam has listed like driving licence, insurance are things to be aware of rather than things you/your daughter would have guaranteed problems with. I haven't found ADHD has had a negative affect on my driving licence, cost of insurance or having a mortgage but then I am older. I wonder if 'youth' isn't more of a drawback than having ADHD in terms of mortgages, insurance and associated stigma.
If life with medication helps then go for it. Initially you select who you reveal your ADHD to so you choose/limit your potential 'battles'. How you use the knowledge and the level of support and understanding you have from the people around you is critical. I like my ADHD. I am happy to label myself as an ADHDer -whether I would if I were in my teens...
Re the resistance thing... is that resistance to being organised (guesing that is totally normal for that age!) or resistance to the ADHD thing?
Lazy mouse
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