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Post by mizmog on Dec 23, 2011 18:20:58 GMT
Thought I would share this little story with you all as it did make me cringe...
Sat at work today talking to one of the new girls... she was telling me about her OH and what he does for a living, happy with the audience she had acquired from the rest of the team... apparently he works for a charity helping youngsters with disabilities such as ADHD and Aspergers - nice little chat I thought... then she went on to tell me whilst laughing, how she finds it really hard not to call 'them' retards and divs and how her and OH have code words when they are around them, calling them names like Humpty and Dip and how they both find it soooo funny!! ... of course she then went on to say 'they wouldn't understand anyway'...
She quite blatantly doesn't know about my ADHD or Aspergers, and a teeny tiny part of me wanted to make her feel 10" tall by telling her how I wasn't offended by her 'cute' little names for 'them'! but I refrained.... however, I may need to hv a quiet little word in her ear!
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Post by boo on Dec 23, 2011 18:56:47 GMT
OMG! what a lovely man to be working in that job with that kind of attitude!!!! oh how i would have loved to see her face if you dropped that into the conversation...... I am gobsmacked that someone working in the field can have that opinion, he can't actually have any dealings with the youngsters surely, or he would have realised way before now that he couldnt be more wrong! it'll be interesting to see how she does react if you do mention it..... i am curious too if any of her other "audience members" are aware of your dx.... do you think any of them mentioned it to her later? grrrrr, what a horrible couple
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2011 20:21:09 GMT
What an ignorant and insensitive woman!!! (and hubby) well she sounds like she is going to be fun to work with.....not!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2011 20:43:34 GMT
Pathetic. Tell her to mind her lip in future - she's lucky you're super-tolerant or she'd be looking a grievance in the eye, at best.
And her husband should look for alternative employment. He's clearly an arse.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2011 10:17:01 GMT
Although i feel for you in such an awkward situation, i actualy find these people rather amusing. They sit there like they they know it all and think they are dead clever but yet when i look at people like that all i can see is the little cogs in their mind repeating what the rest of the sheep have said to them. If anybody is retarded it is them for being so damn thick.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2011 10:39:44 GMT
Although i feel for you in such an awkward situation, i actualy find these people rather amusing. They sit there like they they know it all and think they are dead clever but yet when i look at people like that all i can see is the little cogs in their mind repeating what the rest of the sheep have said to them. If anybody is retarded it is them for being so damn thick. yarp...cnuts!
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Post by boo on Dec 24, 2011 11:43:01 GMT
Although i feel for you in such an awkward situation, i actualy find these people rather amusing. They sit there like they they know it all and think they are dead clever but yet when i look at people like that all i can see is the little cogs in their mind repeating what the rest of the sheep have said to them. If anybody is retarded it is them for being so damn thick. I might agree with you if the hubby wasn't actually working with these youngsters!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2011 12:04:21 GMT
In the safety of the children under the child protection act you have a duty to report the incident to the necessary authorities so that it can be dealt with. people like this should not be working with children, or anyone with a disability for that matter. How can we trust them to look after them to the best of their ability and not influence people to judge them and make their self esteem any worse than it already is.
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Post by mizmog on Dec 24, 2011 13:46:56 GMT
I completely understand Kameel but its only what his girlfriend has said about it and chances are he's a really nice guy that just humours her cos he knows she hasn't got a clue!! Of course if I meet him and he is as bad as her I will be complaining!!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2011 14:04:19 GMT
I completely understand Kameel but its only what his girlfriend has said about it and chances are he's a really nice guy that just humours her cos he knows she hasn't got a clue!! Of course if I meet him and he is as bad as her I will be complaining!!! By law he is not to speak about work to anyone. There are confidentiality laws regarding it. The fact that she would then speak to strangers about what he has told her is a perfect example of why. He is breaking the law and endangering those children. It's your duty to uphold those laws of protection for those children. you need to report him.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2011 18:25:16 GMT
This is blatent discrimination and you need to report it. It dont matter if you got adhd.asd or whatever, this kinda thing is against the law. There are laws out there to protect disability bullying. I would report it straight away. there is no excuse fir it and it is NOT amusing. Would that person find it funny if it was said about their son/daughter/husband/wife .... NO ..
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Post by boo on Dec 26, 2011 11:14:50 GMT
Oh no, thats gonna confuse me.... a new member called johnboy....
I just replied to Jonboy on another post and then wondered why he only had 1 post on his post count..... but the above isn't JB, its a new member called Johnboy..... aaaarggghhhhh
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Post by Mouse on Dec 26, 2011 15:00:07 GMT
I completely understand Kameel but its only what his girlfriend has said about it and chances are he's a really nice guy that just humours her cos he knows she hasn't got a clue!! Of course if I meet him and he is as bad as her I will be complaining!!! I think that the chances of him being a 'really nice guy' are slim if he and she have codenames that they use in the presence of the people he is supposedly supporting.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 27, 2011 16:18:45 GMT
Ha ha! Caught me out too - and i remember thinking it wasn't quite jb's style! Oooh, that's gonna confuzz.
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Post by kreate on Dec 30, 2011 0:51:15 GMT
glad i will never meet the aweful pair ! I work with L.D. Adult, and feel very protective, i would not have been able to listen to predujice either. Are there ground rules foeyour group? They should be asked to leave.
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Post by mizmog on Jan 9, 2012 23:09:06 GMT
I wasn't gonna rant... First day back to work after Xmas then the flue... Thought, ok, wont upset the apple cart and will just let the 'said' young lady prove herself until.... At the end of the afternoon, not only did she start having a chat across the office about 'special needs kids' somewhat derogatory and demeaning telling all how her bf has to take her 5 yr old to work just to get an intelligent conversation, but she even brought the boss in on it!! I don't know if I was upset, mortified (comments such as special needs ppl just sh*t themselves all the time) or furious to the point of bursting!!!
I'm embarrassed and I know I shouldn't be, but she kept saying they are all usually fat and stupid!! I'm not fat or stupid and I can certainly control my bodily functions so why was I mortified??? Why did I wanna punch her lights out??
I know I am gonna hv to raise some sort of grievance now as the boss new I could hear everything and tried in vain several times to change the subject, so she will be expecting it I'm sure. But I feel what she should hv done was stamp on it there and then and didn't!!!!
Aaarrrrgggghhh I've realized why I can't stand my boss, she reminds me of my mother... More worried about what the neighbours will think of her than actually dealing with the problem and risking unpopularity!!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2012 16:15:45 GMT
Good you should. Im in a new job now but putting taking my old boss to a tribunal for unfair dismiisal. its about time I stood up to people and fought against discrimination. Im not taking it no more. Its along journey but im gonna cut myself some slac and like self.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2012 9:15:18 GMT
Proud of you. It's a risky business, but if more people stood up to be counted when it counts, the world would be a better place.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2012 18:39:12 GMT
Maybe you should suggest the woman should be assessed for sociopathic personality disorder since she can't seem to muster any empathy for these children.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2012 14:59:42 GMT
Sadly like thedarkmage suggests there will always be sheep following the herd. Things like this will always crop up whilst society is still full of peer groups led by people with no respect, and comes from people being poorly educated and not being very secure within themselves. Its inbred and its a disease that we wil not see eradicated anytime soon.
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Post by Lame44 on Feb 15, 2012 1:50:48 GMT
That's terrible. If ever she does it again, you could always get a mobile fone out n record it if you can. Then find out where her bloke works and go over at some point and play the recording to his boss. Might make them realise that he shouldn't be working there.
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Post by sherry on Feb 15, 2012 20:03:18 GMT
What a total bitch, good thing she didn't say that in front of me I would have verbally ripped her to pieces in front of everyone. You must report this, anonymously if necessary. Those poor kids!!!
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Post by mizmog on Feb 17, 2012 12:41:06 GMT
Thanks everyone, I am happy to report, that after I went to the boss with an email explaining exactly what had been said and why I was offended.... Suddenly the subject has never been raised again! I am glad I didn't need to jump in with both feet though as I probably would hv lost my rag and my job!!
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