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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2012 1:03:43 GMT
I sort of seem to be noticing a new symptom in myself, tbh I don't know if it's something I have always done and I am noticing it cos of increased self awareness or if it's new but I find myself often reaching for words, phrases and names, literally stopping mid sentence and my brain is just in neutral. :/ it's disconcerting and annoying as hell. I pride myself on my fluency and vocabulary and suddenly can't finish simple sentences. Anyone else have that or similar?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2012 1:07:46 GMT
Yes. It happens more often than i like but mostly when i'm arguing with my mother. I suddenly lose the words and end up going blank, unable to finish a critical sentence.
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Post by lisablue on Aug 14, 2012 9:14:42 GMT
I have always had that problem....it's when I need to think about the answer when I struggle! The words get completely lost...and my mind goes totally blank...I'm ok if I am just generally waffling but add the pressure of a direct question and it's a nightmare. Always had it though...not a new symptom.
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Post by jansson on Aug 14, 2012 11:16:34 GMT
Yes, I have that too, really struggle to find the right words, and put them together into a coherent sentence. Usually accompanied by some terror as I'm not exactly sure what is going to come out, and can only hope for the best... At the time, I thought it was because I was shy.
However, I'm finding that meds help a lot with this, as the link between what's in my head and what I'm trying to communicate seems so much more direct. I've found it quite exciting, and now the look of terror is on the other person's face, as they wonder when I'm going to stop talking! ;-)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2012 13:40:39 GMT
Ok really not reassuring as I was hoping the meds would give me more ability to shut up:/
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2012 14:41:47 GMT
Try slowing yourself down.
Not sure if all of us do this but when i have to speak on something i am not sure about or feel very stongly about, i tend to speed up, to talk too fast and think even faster which means my mouth can't keep up with my brain trying to get the words out.
Give yourself a few seconds to slow down and put your thoughts in order of how you want to speak them. I do this when i can and it really helps.
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Post by bobjones on Aug 14, 2012 15:48:57 GMT
Yep, me too. It seems that my brain just gets bored with the conversation and moves on to something else . I go so far as to practice conversations in my head and even to steer a conversation onto a conversation I have already planned.
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Post by jansson on Aug 14, 2012 15:53:56 GMT
Ok really not reassuring as I was hoping the meds would give me more ability to shut up:/ They may well do! From reading the posts on this forum, I've learned so much about people's different experiences of ADHD symptoms (this is still all a bit new to me - the broader view that is, not my own symptoms!!). And similarly, people's responses to meds seem to vary a lot. I have ADHD inattentive subtype, and never felt fluent. On the contrary, trying to focus my brain on just one thought stream and put that into words was extremely difficult. So the clarity I get on meds is great. So sounds like you may have a completely different meds experience from mine given that you were fluent to start with! And more generally, I really hope that you are able to get the support that you need, and that things will improve for you: I feel so incredibly frustrated that the journey is so difficult for so many of us.
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Post by nemo on Aug 16, 2012 20:19:08 GMT
Me too. I regularly lose my place in a sentence while I try to remember a word or concept especially when I need to be clear ( like describing my ADD symptoms to me new doctor ). I have found that talking in a formal, almost academic manner causes my brain to get some structure and helps. Obviously it makes me sound a bit weird though :-)
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Post by random on Aug 16, 2012 20:27:29 GMT
I change sentence structure in mid flight. A classic was - Started as <female name> is my wife
- Changed to I am <female name>'s husband
- Came out as <female name>'s wife
A bit embarrasing .... Frequently I will stop mid sentence. Sometime people interrupt me at this time which is a real pain.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2012 6:36:03 GMT
Ha ha, Random! I don't think there is room for ambivalence as to your gender, so they will have got what you meant!
When stressed, my (I swear she's ADHD) mother used to call me by my each of my four brothers' names before she got to mine! How hard can it be to remember the name of your only girl??
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Post by green on Aug 17, 2012 16:47:55 GMT
I find I have this problem a lot when writing, I think that is why my wpm in my dyslexia assessment was so low.
My Aunt goes through everyone elses name, before getting to the right one too. She's not diagnosed, as far as I know.
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Post by claudhopper on Aug 17, 2012 17:10:09 GMT
I change sentence structure in mid flight. A classic was - Started as <female name> is my wife
- Changed to I am <female name>'s husband
- Came out as <female name>'s wife
A bit embarrasing .... Frequently I will stop mid sentence. Sometime people interrupt me at this time which is a real pain. I do that frequently or start a word then finish using another word from my internal thesaurus. Also I have conversations like this: "..... so anyway there was this bloke who looks like that actor, whathisname? you know he was in that film - shit - um he was in "Mission Impossible" "Simon Pegg?" "No. He was married to that Australian actress, he was in that film about the fighter pilots with that song that was in the charts, he's in some stupid sect..." "Oh, you mean Tom Cruise?" "Yeah. Tom Cruise. So what was I talking about? I've forgotten what I was talking about"
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Post by lambylottie on Aug 17, 2012 17:56:09 GMT
Haha! That is exactly what I do! :-)
I bloody love this forum! :-)
The other day I managed to confuse my mum and myself! She asked me what I was doing at the weekend. I couldn't for the life of me remember what day it was and said "oh I think we are going to C's (hubby) parents for the weekend as it is his dad's birthday"
Mum - "When are you going?"
Me - "Friday evening once C comes home from work"
Mum - "What tonight?!"
Me - "Oh sh1t is it Friday today?!"
Mum - "Yes so your going tonight?!"
Me - "Yes, no, erm.... wait is it the 3rd?"
Mum - "No that's next Friday"
Me- "Oh phew, i've got a week, its all good!"
lmao, I did panic myself for a bit!
Mum said to me after " You know, I think you may have adhd ya know, that really isn't normal!"
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Post by daisypink on Aug 22, 2012 5:35:51 GMT
Haha - this is a great topic! Oooshiny - my Mum frequently calls me & my sister each other's name and has done for years (there are only us two siblings). However we do sound very alike apparently, so that may be one reason! Years ago my sister phoned in to Johnnie Walker's Radio 2 programme to take part in a quiz. One of the listeners to the show was the mother of a colleague of mine, who lives in Lancashire (we're in Scotland!) and had met me but didn't know I had a sister. That night, in her daily phone call to my colleague she remarked that she'd heard a woman on national radio who sounded exactly like me! Not ADHD related - but must just share a 'welcome to my world' moment. My lovely husband has Multiple Sclerosis which has affected his cognition as well as his mobility. Most mornings, he asks me what day it is, then I hear him asking the carers the same thing when they come in. Or he'll say 'It's Wednesday, and I'll reply 'No, Sunday'. The other morning when I was opening the curtains, I pre-empted his usual question by asking 'Well, do you know what day it is today?'.. In a wee small voice he replied tentatively 'Is it our anniversary......?'. LOL! ;D
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Post by lionheart on Sept 11, 2012 22:07:47 GMT
I have a habit of losing my train of thought and the longer the pause the less likely it is I remember. I tend to rely on my instincts but that does not always get me over the line.
For me, I suppose it comes down to feeling totally comfortable in the social situation and avoiding confrontations. Frustrations always causes me to reach for the wrong turn of phrase or just leaves me lost for words....
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