Post by mizmog on Sept 22, 2012 10:00:53 GMT
I would love to know if anyone else has this problem -
The one thing I hate more than anything else in this world is lieing! If asked a direct question, I cant lie about it and will usually just stumble over my words to avoid pointing the finger or directly accusing someone which usually results in me looking guilty as sin!
Anyway, I was pulled up at work yesterday for a 'pep'talk by my boss and told that someone had gone to the Managing Director and said that I had told them that our office is clicky and horrible and that no one would work with them - what actually happened was a young man had only lasted 2 days working with 5 very strong minded woman, he hadn't done himself any favours as he was not very nice - so when someone from another depo asked me what happened, to avoid divulging I said I don't know but if they get another man he is gonna need to be a strong bugger to work in an office of woman! and I laughed -
I am really struggling to see how this could have been misconstrued and a direct attack on my collegues - My boss was very good in the fact that she gave me chance to defend myself and did say that she didn't think it sounded like me, but added this isn't the first time this has happened! She wouldn't tell me anymore, and as I had been put on the spot, I didn't think to ask either as I was still in shock being accused of lieing!
I just don't know why people lie about things I have said - my Mouther used to do it blatantly til it split the family (me and them)
I dont know how I am going to handle this now - I have to work with the woman but what I really want to do it tell her what I think of her for lieing but I know deep down it wont solve the problem and only make things a lot worse - She is the MD's right hand man and has told me all about the secrets of the company some of which i cold probably get her the sack for but I am just not like that - I hate gossip and I hate using other people -
I just don't know what to do with this one - how do you learn to be conniving and manipulative? and how do you learn to back stab?
The one thing I hate more than anything else in this world is lieing! If asked a direct question, I cant lie about it and will usually just stumble over my words to avoid pointing the finger or directly accusing someone which usually results in me looking guilty as sin!
Anyway, I was pulled up at work yesterday for a 'pep'talk by my boss and told that someone had gone to the Managing Director and said that I had told them that our office is clicky and horrible and that no one would work with them - what actually happened was a young man had only lasted 2 days working with 5 very strong minded woman, he hadn't done himself any favours as he was not very nice - so when someone from another depo asked me what happened, to avoid divulging I said I don't know but if they get another man he is gonna need to be a strong bugger to work in an office of woman! and I laughed -
I am really struggling to see how this could have been misconstrued and a direct attack on my collegues - My boss was very good in the fact that she gave me chance to defend myself and did say that she didn't think it sounded like me, but added this isn't the first time this has happened! She wouldn't tell me anymore, and as I had been put on the spot, I didn't think to ask either as I was still in shock being accused of lieing!
I just don't know why people lie about things I have said - my Mouther used to do it blatantly til it split the family (me and them)
I dont know how I am going to handle this now - I have to work with the woman but what I really want to do it tell her what I think of her for lieing but I know deep down it wont solve the problem and only make things a lot worse - She is the MD's right hand man and has told me all about the secrets of the company some of which i cold probably get her the sack for but I am just not like that - I hate gossip and I hate using other people -
I just don't know what to do with this one - how do you learn to be conniving and manipulative? and how do you learn to back stab?