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Post by li0nberries on Feb 11, 2013 14:57:20 GMT
I swear I have the weirdness conscience, I hate lying, partly cause I can't do it to save my life admittedly, but my head takes this to extremes.
For example, I hate feeling dirty but if I haven't had a chance for a shower, I would find it really difficult to bring myself to do a quick wash and spray on loads of perfume because I would feel the image I was creating was a total lie.
Was just wondering if anyone else has a conscience this demented?
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Post by nasir on Feb 11, 2013 17:36:40 GMT
I am not the same as that but I feel guilt and remorse very quickly (much more so than ordinary people). So I don't like telling big lies.
Re the shower thing, I have to bathe every morning otherwise my day doesn't feel right. I feel 'wrong'. It's hard to explain but I don't know what it's related to.
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Post by claudhopper on Feb 11, 2013 18:32:43 GMT
I'm a bit of a compulsive truth-teller. I can tell lies but feel guilty about it. By and large if someone asks me a question I tell the truth without hesitation. I know loads of people who lie as a matter of routine and I usually spot them very quickly.
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Post by li0nberries on Feb 11, 2013 22:39:30 GMT
The shower thing does my head in because I hate feeling unclean and I think needing to start the day with a shower is normal? But if something goes wrong and I don't get to have one before kids go to school, I feel I cannot fake being clean to other people ( not that I have flies buzzing or anything ), its just that complete discomfort.
I swear I never get used to adults lying, it does my head in and I get so uncomfortable round people lying that I avoid it where ever possible. I just don't know what to do with them because if I pretend I believe it I am lying and when I don't its just uncomfortable, I often end up spending so much time thinking about which way to go, that I miss questions that are asked or cues I'm supposed to respond to.
The only big liar I can handle being around is my brother in law and that's because I can just turn round and go " oh my god, talk so much S£@t " and he just takes it and moves on somehow with neither of us or anyone else feeling discomfort. Luckily he can joke about the fact he could never be with me cause he'd never be able to wriggle out of anything and we do actually get on?
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Post by DKL - darkknightslover on Feb 13, 2013 11:01:55 GMT
I cannot lie or hide anything! Apart from when protecting someone else. I know I'm the most honest person at work. My team leader and his manager find it really refreshing as often I'll tackle otherwise potentially difficult conversations they need to have with me head on.
However my impulsivity and self-knowledge of my talents and knowledge in what I do means I can overstep boundaries quite a lot - especially since my team leader doesn't know anywhere near as much as I do about our department (he's also forgetful and distractable, not ADD but possibly dyslexic). I tend to get involved in stuff that should be his territory as a result - I'm now better at telling him to tell the wider company certain things instead of doing it myself, but when I don't apparently it looks like I'm out for my own skin and promotion prospects to everyone who doesn't know me or know anything about ADHD. (I'm the same with improvement ideas but now we have a better managed channel to deal with those so I'm no longer bothering as many people about them at inappropriate times and therefore looking like I'm focusing more on what I'm being paid to do.)
I'm really tempted to tell one the management guys of another team about my ADHD as I have more contact with him (distant as he's on another floor), however I know he has very little patience and doesn't appear to appreciate that not all brains are made the same (I've heard from someone with a different psych disorder about how they got treated, although he did apologise for it about a year later). I don't know what I could gain by telling him apart from a change in his personal attitude which I only suspect is not great because of previous occasions where I've misinterpreted a question and then given a rambly answer. Possibly the quality of communication might be better which would then waste less time, but if I ever did become team leader (not likely in the near future - and I'll be moving away in the late summer) then I most likely would tell him then.
I'm not great with personal hygiene - especially brushing my teeth :S I'm experimenting with taking my meds first thing when I wake up, which means I have to get up and have breakfast sooner as the Dex gives me reflux if I don't, and then the next time I need a nature visit I'm not allowed to leave the bathroom until I've done something at every "port". At the moment I have relaxed mornings though as I work evenings. This will need modifying as I will be changing to a day shift soon (yeay for sleep patterns!)
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Post by dizzydee on Feb 15, 2013 23:11:48 GMT
I always feel like they know I'm lying and then feel totally embarrassed i have learnt to say i don't know a lot!!... i thought this came from my mum always telling terrible lies that stood out like a saw thumb i always felt she should be ashamed!
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Post by 16stonepig on Feb 19, 2013 9:48:34 GMT
I have that sense of honesty as well - I don't know what it is. I'd like to think it's because I'm a good person, but more likely I just can't be bothered to do the work to maintain a lie Having said that, when I am in the right mood (say, bluffing my way through my career, or trying to get out of trouble with a girlfriend) I can lie incredibly well. It's scary how easily it comes sometimes.
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