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Post by li0nberries on Mar 1, 2013 22:14:40 GMT
I am sure I'll regret this post later but wth
Would just like to know if you've got anything to say that's not ripping anyone else's opinion? Do u know how you are coming across?
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Post by claudhopper on Mar 2, 2013 0:49:40 GMT
got any specific examples?
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Post by claudhopper on Mar 2, 2013 9:12:41 GMT
I'm just sitting on the fence really....
I wonder if you could clarify why you are here... do you have ADHD?
You started off saying you wanted to find out more then within a post or so you're taking issue with people about the effects of meds. wassatalabout?
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Post by li0nberries on Mar 2, 2013 9:31:45 GMT
The reason I thought I might regret it was causing friction on the board, or discouraging other new comers or something like that.
I am sorry if I have upset anyone else by this post and I would feel sorry if I thought you did actually feel bullied.
It was at the time directed at you because you were on line and I knew it would come up where you would see it and yes I did know how I was coming across.
I agree that sharing of different opinions is a positive thing, I did not find your way of doing so courteous and your intentions came across as arrogance ( to me,).
I have found more knowledge and useful advice on this forum than anywhere else, and so when you suggested to someone that they may be better off looking at the advice of research, ( which is comparably non existent for adults with adhd, ) than two people whose experience and advise, wether its liked or not has helped so many people; I saw red.
If you had put "as well as", I would have taken it differently.
I don't think for one minute anyone needs me mouthing off for them, I was annoyed by what I perceived, having read all your posts, to be your condescending, contrary attitude.
I am sorry if this post has upset anyone else, and will not be posting more on this thread.
If there is anything else you would like me to answer borrowdale then I will answer through pm if you wish.
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Post by jan on Mar 2, 2013 11:31:39 GMT
hey (hi by the way) you say you wanted to find out more about adhd - meaning actually i assume 'understanding the people ' that have it and how we work - well maybe, do you think, thats kinda just whats happened?
Its much more difficult to interact with people on screen than face to face obviously - but one of our symtoms is jumping in feet first when we feel attacked (remember feelings are not facts but we don't always realise that at the time )
Also i think i remember you saying your a dad - well at the risk of sounding like a know all here (or a perfect parent) i dont think there should ever be a time where we can't apologise for something we have said or done as that ends up implying we are 'bad' rather than what we did was not the best we could of - have always told my daughter that - the behaviour was what i didn't like not her - we all make mistakes and if something is unforgiveable there's no hope for any of us
love and let live eh! (both of you) todays a new day
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Post by claudhopper on Mar 2, 2013 11:32:52 GMT
For claudhopper, it is understandable that you at least sit on the fence and wait before you jump to judge someone. There's nothing to suggest that I was waiting to 'jump in' (into what I wonder) to judge anyone... TYVM I am sitting on the fence because I haven't formed a firm opinion on the issue raised, just like anyone else who's sitting on the fence. That'll be me out of the 'discussion' for now. I'm here because I have ADHD (just diagnosed) and this is a lovely light-hearted and supportive forum for people who share similar experiences. I look forward to your contribution in that respect.
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Post by borrowdale on Mar 2, 2013 13:07:13 GMT
This is not a discussion I want any part of any more either.
People excusing their rudeness by hiding behind adhd is another thing I hate. There are equal numbers of people with ADHD who NEVER speak up because they are so conscious they may offend.
I simply cannot believe bystanders have allowed a thread with such a plainly abusive heading to exist without at least acknowledging that it was needlessly defamatory.
Shame. Its a new day like you say and Im heading out.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2013 13:10:04 GMT
Oo, I love it when we get a bit of friskiness on the forum!
Borrowdale, I thought lionberries' apology was very sincere - and I was sympathetic to your initial reaction, because I'm not happy when I see threads kick off with the sole purpose of taking a pop at another member, particularly a noob who may not yet have got the dynamic.
But you've shot yourself in the foot, now, by refusing to accept the apology and move on.
Are you aware of how you come across? It's not great, to be honest - weighing in waaay too authoritatively for my taste, and expressing your views with a bit too much of a patronising tone. Are you a practitioner, by any chance, rather than an ADHDer? If so, I'd be grateful if you'd respect the fact that the forum is primarily a self-help environment. While we may value your informed insights from time to time, don't expect us to accept your input without question. We'll put it into the pot with the rest.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2013 14:13:15 GMT
in case the mods are watching, THIS is the kind of thing that you should be taking off forums and handling the poster without having to be reported. The mods are watching...but we are limited in number and have lives outside the forum so policing here is quite often late...like this. I would have binned the thread if it wasn't a good lesson in forum behaviour - this is a mutual support forum and words like 'gobshite' shouldn't be appearing in reference to another member. Considering that the damage has already been done, and Borrowdale has had a good shout back, I'll leave as is - I'm expecting the thread to die unless anyone wants to discuss forum etiquette. There is a report to mod button - use it - reading every single post every single day can make the eyes glaze over so a little help from the members would be appreciated.
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Post by mighty on Mar 2, 2013 21:10:26 GMT
Not read all this but be nice OP
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Post by murtster on Mar 10, 2013 21:10:59 GMT
Can we not be nice to each other here, we're among comrades, right...?
There are hard knocks in the world for ADHD folk, it's a bit nasty to kick the crap out of people here if you don't hold the same views.
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