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Post by jan on Mar 6, 2013 10:18:57 GMT
Apologies if this has been done before I've only been on here since January and only recently realized have a.d.h.d. looking at the review about ' fast minds on' here but don't want to buy (another) expensive book that wont get to the end of Thought lets go for easy option - and get first hand experience - all in one place. Would be great if you could all give your input thanks in advance Here's mine : 1. Make it a rule that I have to eat breakfast either porridge (as supposed to have calming effect as well as slow release energy) or oat (gluten/wheat free ) snack if rushing 2. Count essential things need every day and remember the number to help me check in my head as going out the door 7 in winter (keys, phone, oyster, purse, lighter, glasses, list for things to do in day ie phone calls etc (have started doing that on phone now and reminder alertsnow i am am getting into technology.) pref done night before. 8 in summer as have to have sun glasses. 3. post it note on door to remind me about anything specific need for that particular day. 4. don't eat wheat or white sugar and only have 1 coffee which has to be before 1 and 2 teas a day .(find they all contribute to stomach problems and make me irritable -mood wise) no caffine after 5. 5. eat something small every 3 or 4 hours (carry snacks around that are easy to just eat - no preperation (i eat naked bars) helps stop me getting (more) anxious Lot of mine are around food - as I can literally forget to eat (and just smoke) and then there's no chance of controlling my mind as i end up knackered and anxious and everything starts to go wrong. looking forward to reading yours
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Post by G on Mar 6, 2013 12:24:56 GMT
I've only realised I had ADHD recently and have been developing some new coping mechanisms (because apparently, like breathing, once you become aware you are doing it it seems much harder to do).
1. Don't beat yourself up about every little thing, there are just some things you aren't very good at (much as you try)
2. Never give up (never surrender)
3. Always look to find a positive outcome from any situation that has gone awry
4. Know yourself, as painful as this can sometimes be
5. Don't listen to negative crap from others - you have plenty of your own to deal with
All of the other things to do with lists etc. are all only ever available to me once I have mastered the above, because it only takes a distraction or a negative comment to break your stride. Getting back into my stride is really hard so I can only never give up.
I'll get there in the end.
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Post by mizmog on Mar 6, 2013 14:07:51 GMT
Medication Routine (mine not others!) 19 alarms A very good man beside me A 'never mind' approach when it goes wrong!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2013 14:11:02 GMT
1. Write everything down - this needs to be on paper, typing notes on screen doesn't do the trick for some reason which is annoying as I can type far faster than I can put pen to paper!
2. Try and remember the 'fear' (of being at rock bottom) which sometimes helps me to focus on what I need to do - conflicts with #4 so it doesn't really work but on the rare occasion I feel genuine fear I also feel razor sharp focus.
3. Make everything a win/win even when it's gone so unbelievable tits up no one else would salvage a win from it - this really does work and gives me confidence to do things I otherwise wouldn't.
4. Don't dwell on the past - I don't know if this is a skill I've acquired or I've always been able to do it but I can pretty much ignore/forget bad feeling instantly now.
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Post by claudhopper on Mar 6, 2013 19:56:07 GMT
1. Meds
2. Omega 3 stuff (tablets, mackerel etc)
3. Do a bit everyday that improves things, even if it's taking the rubbish out.
4 Socialise
5. Lists
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Post by jan on Mar 12, 2013 9:09:29 GMT
sorry for being impatient and bossy but can't help noticing this post has been read 60 times so far but only has 4 replies - is that cos you all off thinking about it ? or you have no coping strategies or you keeping them secret ?
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Post by li0nberries on Mar 12, 2013 11:09:12 GMT
I spent ages thinking about them and then forgot to post them :-)
I'll write what I can remember
Meds although not perfect nothing has ever worked like they do when they do.
Music constant, so I can sing songs in my head while I think. I find its easier to have two things in my head than try and focus on one.
Setting a timer for things like washing up, on a bad day 5 mins, on a good day up to 15 mins. When the timer goes off I stop no matter what, do the set time on something else then go back and do another set time. On really bad days the timer just reminds me that I've wandered off, which winds me up even more :-( but often it helps.
Taking a photo on my phone of the specific area I'm doing and then looking at the photo to decide what to do next rather than the area itself cause then I get distracted by the rest of the room.
Really important things like my sons hospital appointments, I have asked them to copy them to my Mum and then when I loose them the Infoseek still there and she sends me a text day before to remind me and that morning and an hour before :-(. Pathetic I know but I've missed so many or got there too late or once 23hrs 50mins early, so have decided with things that are really important for my kids, I will swallow my pride even if it doesn't digest well and makes me feel nauseous just thinking about it!
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Post by grip on Mar 12, 2013 11:33:46 GMT
1) (Same as G) Don't beat yourself up. Most things are REALLY not worth the hard time that we give ourselves. 2) Understand and accept that you can only do so much - the more you push yourself to achieve, the quicker you will burn out. Do what you can when you can. 3) Make time for yourself! We have so much going on in our brain and are expected to conform to everyone else's ideals that we sometimes forget that we have needs too. Time out for ourselves is essential. 4) Research - the more you know, the better you'll be at combating your weaknesses. You may find new routines, supplements, exercises, coping strategies etc - every little helps! 5) For everything else, there's vodka! (Hahaha, sorry was struggling to think of a fifth!)
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Post by Kathymel on Mar 12, 2013 11:57:10 GMT
1. For impending appointments, I try to remember to make a note on my Hotmail calendar with reminders on the preceding two days, as well. With school stuff, luckily, the school sends info to both me and my Significant Ex, so I get reminded by him, too. Often, when he rings me up to confer, I have no idea what he's talking about, but I just bluff until I get the gist of whatever meeting it is I've forgotten.
2. Stuff that needs to go somewhere gets put by the front door in such a way that I can't open the door without moving it. Problems arise if Genghis moves it or if I'm in such a rush the next day that I just kick it out the way. Once it's been there for a day or so, I no longer see it (see 3). It gets difficult to open the front door sometimes. During my recent tidy of this area, I removed a pair of skis and ski poles, crutches, a folding chair, several plant pots, garden spade and fork, several bags of charity clothes and several items that should have been returned to their owners (some from well over a year ago). As you can see, as a coping strategy, this doesn't really work.
3. I choose not to notice the state of the floors more than twice a year.
4. My son has been brought up on a variety of unusual breakfasts so doesn't complain if there's nothing but Super Noodles in the morning. (Not really a planned coping strategy, but it makes life easier sometimes).
5. I lie.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 17:17:15 GMT
I put things in front of the door too! My grandparents used to make me all kinds of stuff when I went to visit and I would never remember to take it with me when I left. Blocking their front door with whatever goodies they'd got for me solved this though
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Post by jan on Mar 13, 2013 9:06:58 GMT
2. Stuff that needs to go somewhere gets put by the front door in such a way that I can't open the door without moving it. Problems arise if Genghis moves it or if I'm in such a rush the next day that I just kick it out the way. Once it's been there for a day or so, I no longer see it (see 3). It gets difficult to open the front door sometimes. During my recent tidy of this area, I removed a pair of skis and ski poles, crutches, a folding chair, several plant pots, garden spade and fork, several bags of charity clothes and several items that should have been returned to their owners (some from well over a year ago). As you can see, as a coping strategy, this doesn't really work. . ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D no point coming to visit you then oh kathymel your a tonic (as they say in Wales) thinking of you getting through your front door is gonna keep me smiling for the rest of my day ;D if i did that with my door i'd forget there's a door there and end up never going out
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