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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2009 22:00:19 GMT
I am seeking a formal diagnosis of add but wonder if I get this, if social services would then have the right to step in & ?question my care of my children
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Post by annie on Jan 21, 2009 22:32:05 GMT
Being a parent who has adhd is most certainly not a reason for Social Services to become involved. The way Social Services are funded at the moment, they only have resources to go into families where it is very clear the children are at risk of "significant harm"
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2009 11:50:46 GMT
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Post by jules on May 27, 2009 22:43:26 GMT
Hi Carolanne, I have been SREAMING out for Social Services for years ... I have just been diagnosed ADHD my son has ADHD and Autism and my life has been a battle for years. (single working mum). Social Services our far to busy to be bothered with us ... so chill out ... we all think we're bad parents or could have dealt with things in a better ... don't beat your self up. If you start beating your kids up and picking them up from school drunk ... they might act. Go for it I did you have nothing to lose not even your kids ! Best regards, Jules
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Post by phil on Jan 24, 2010 0:42:46 GMT
Hi, at the moment my daughter has suspected ADHD & ASD my daughter has her own disabled child social worker! i have paid over £1000 in the last year on pushchairs although my daughter is only two she could pass for a four year old. when the last pushchairs axle went i just had a gutsfull i phoned her social worker up to see if she could get a heavy duty push chair! she told me to speak to my daughters ocupational therapist? and i said who is that you was arranging an O.T? she was full of appoligys. my daughter goes to special school but her health visitor still has'nt arranged a taxi to ferry her to school. apart from give the children gifts at christmas her social worker has pretty much done nothing. promised days out ect; for respite but don't deliver. with social workers it's a mixed bag finding one that will help is half the trouble! Carolanne they only take away children that are at risk! and god rest his sole they did not do that in the case of baby peter. if you should get contacted by social services they are paid to help you not paid to take peoples children into care. there maybe perks to having social services involved but i haven't seen them yet
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Post by .... on Jan 24, 2010 4:08:10 GMT
I really don't think you ought worry about this. I've seen people who really aren't coping be refused assistance from social services. I think social services child protection remit must be to intervene for people that don't like/care about their children, and who turn down help from social services where its deemed necessary. And social services are busy with alot of things other than child protection.
I don't fill in forms on time, keep the house as tidy as I'd like, I don't burn/serve dinner at the same time each evening, I forgot to go to school until 4pm once (still inwardly cringing about it) We sometimes miss hairdressers, doctors and dentists appointments etc........ but my kids are growing, they laugh and smile, and they are learning new stuff all the time. 'I' sometimes wish I was a more conventional parent, but no one else does.
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Post by .... on Jan 24, 2010 4:10:31 GMT
PS If ADD = iffy parenting then natural selection would have occurred by now and this site would not be as busy And nice to meet you Carolanne
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2010 15:09:55 GMT
Phil, the Family Fund may be able to help you out re pushchair and other essential items. The other thing is that there should be a CAF (Common Assessment Framework) in place for your other child with possible ADD/ADHD. The CAF helps share information between services/agencies in order to support you and your child. You can always request a Carers Assessment under the Carers Recognition Act 1995.
There is also what is known as 'Short Breaks' for disabled children and their families, this includes ADHD children/young people.
Hope this helps?
Best wishes
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2010 1:03:22 GMT
Getting a diagnosis and medication was the best thing that ever happened to me and my son also ADHD ODD OCD ! Before that I once went to social services in a right old state and told them I wasn't coping but they didn't do anything just chatted to me for a while and patted me on the head telling me what a good job I was doing !Ialso rang them up all stressed out about the up and coming summer school holidays and asked for help but they told me they dont deal with ADHD and said I was rude and put the phone down on me ! You would be hard pushed to find a social worker who gave a damn so I wouldn't worry ! YOU GO GIRL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2010 17:46:55 GMT
Social services rarely seem to take a child into care that has behavioural problems because they are considered hard to adopt, however, social services DO tend to make lies more difficult than easier in my experience, they rarely comunicate between departments. Theye had child protection meetings aout me and my children and NOT INVITED ME! And there is such a thing as forced adoption, they look for a vulnerable parent put impossible obsticles in the way of them and then take them away, dont turn up at the school drunk as it it will give them all the amunition you need, at these meetings theres rarely an oppertunity to explain any of your actions, they paint an untrue picture of you by taking things u say and twisting them to mean something else, dnt kid yrself it doesnt happen they take yr kids and if u tel anyone u can be put in prison WITHOUT trial, becoz revealing wat takes place in these closed courts is an invasion of the childs privacy, its nuts and happening ALL the time!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2010 17:51:49 GMT
However persuing a diagnosis for ADHD is not really grounds for social services to become involved I wudnt of thought! Dont ever ask for their help, alternatively low attendance gets them snooping if yr looking for their involvement but id advise against it as like i say they cause more problems than they solve, like someone said above they like to paint you as a bad parent and my involvement wiv them has caused my self esteem to plummet (but then im jus prolly crap)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2010 9:26:07 GMT
hi im 29 and have 4 children, i have twin girls at 6, an 2 boys, 8 an 11, i have adhd an have done all my life, i have neva had help with my adhd, my boy have adhd, an one of my twins do as well, 2 years ago i naively askd social services for help, but instead of helping me they tryed to take my children from me, they said i was unorganised, and not incontrol of my life, and that i wasnt capable of looking after my children, obviously i proved them wrong, and they after 4 years left me alone, my argment was, ye im disorganised, my life is lil crazy, but i have a 7 year old boy, who is healthy fit an well, who has never had any accident, never been in hospital, has 100 percent attndence at school as did my other son, how can i be a bad mum, when my children are in perfect health, im lucky that i do have adhd, and that im thick skined because i think if i didnt they would of had my kids off me, i wilnever ask them for help, theres other ways to get help,
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2010 15:30:53 GMT
I have to say the one positive thing that a social worker did for my son was refer him to the Buddy System !He now has a fantastic young man who comes twice a month and takes him out for a few hours or they just play games ! There is always a lot of laughter which is great to hear !I really wanted to find him a positive male role model and am so pleased to have done so ! I had to chase it up mind you as always but am so glad I did !
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2010 15:33:28 GMT
Oh and the school filled in a CAF and I now have a family support worker who seems very nice so lets hope we can move forward as my son is finding school very difficult at the moment !
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