Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2009 10:21:24 GMT
Okay, I've bin away for a while due to internet disconnection and lots of stuff going on, remember my 16 yr old son, never bin to school can't get into work place becoz well never bin to school? Well he hit 16 and all child benefit stops for him (as it does) he cant go into education (so i can get it back) well they stopped my income support for him and so, I get no money for him at all and hes got no money coming in for him, (Okay that's not the problem) NOW his 15 yr old girlfriend is pregnant and she WAS keeping it, he didn't like the idea but came around to it and now she's decided to abort, he's devastated.
Now I do not mind the pregnancy, we would have got them the help they needed. I actually got my head around it, but of course this maybe is proof she is way too young, but her family want her to have an abortion, she will have to through through a birth of a dead baby, she DOESN'T want it, she even told me she doesn't believe in abortion, my worry is she's trying to manipulate the very naive Daniel and she will end up regretting it but more than that I'm worried about my son and the effect this will have him, I want to help her, she lost her mum a few years ago and is in foster care, her foster parents are about 6 years older than her, they ring me wen they want Dan to do something, theres no communication between us, they won't include him in the decision process, he's frustrated because decisions about the rest of his life are bein made wivout his say so, he just gets blotto tryin to forget it all and i dont blame him.
I can't even get involved because they're fighting all the time, I think the reason her foster parents want her to abort it is they had a social worker tell them Daniel's case history and for all I know advised them he wasn't really 'father material' I can't contact anyone, they wont give me her parents number, becoz he's ' not bovvered' and 'I'm too young init'. I mean what do I do?
My biggest problem is I'm very anti abortion and even thou my views aren't very PC the thought of my first Grandchild dying on a draining board, cold and unloved, is breaking my heart, as is his lack of concern, how do I not hyper focus on this?
Now I do not mind the pregnancy, we would have got them the help they needed. I actually got my head around it, but of course this maybe is proof she is way too young, but her family want her to have an abortion, she will have to through through a birth of a dead baby, she DOESN'T want it, she even told me she doesn't believe in abortion, my worry is she's trying to manipulate the very naive Daniel and she will end up regretting it but more than that I'm worried about my son and the effect this will have him, I want to help her, she lost her mum a few years ago and is in foster care, her foster parents are about 6 years older than her, they ring me wen they want Dan to do something, theres no communication between us, they won't include him in the decision process, he's frustrated because decisions about the rest of his life are bein made wivout his say so, he just gets blotto tryin to forget it all and i dont blame him.
I can't even get involved because they're fighting all the time, I think the reason her foster parents want her to abort it is they had a social worker tell them Daniel's case history and for all I know advised them he wasn't really 'father material' I can't contact anyone, they wont give me her parents number, becoz he's ' not bovvered' and 'I'm too young init'. I mean what do I do?
My biggest problem is I'm very anti abortion and even thou my views aren't very PC the thought of my first Grandchild dying on a draining board, cold and unloved, is breaking my heart, as is his lack of concern, how do I not hyper focus on this?