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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 15, 2013 12:38:41 GMT
Do you think we just haven't grown up yet? i look, act and feel like a child still....is this the problem? Or maybe the ADHD left undiagnosed (or not properly treated in others) and therefore not recognised and adjusted by parents and teachers or us....left us like this? just a thought....of course if you all feel very grown up and sensible then I shall know that it's just me!
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Post by grim on Jul 15, 2013 12:41:48 GMT
It's not just you fuzzy,i get told i'm childish very often.
so then i sulk;)
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 15, 2013 12:43:34 GMT
Yes me too....that's a good one.... Perfectly acceptable response, me thinks
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 15, 2013 12:48:14 GMT
If you think about it....the powers that be that set this up.....well, they knew exactly how to push our buttons....there was only one way to keep ADDers like us all continually interested in looking and posting without the novelty wearing off..... I get stars....,just like my 9 year old does at school!! maybe stars we didn't always get previously too...... .....not me, I was very well behaved, naturally
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Post by JJ on Jul 15, 2013 13:41:32 GMT
I still make plans for what I'm going to do one day when I grow up.... I'm 44 now and have never felt like a grown up - I look at late 20's / 30 yr olds with their careers and grown up things and feel very immature....
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Post by mdza on Jul 15, 2013 18:42:50 GMT
I've got a five year old inside that does not sleep! 24/7 nanny duty, so exhausting...
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 15, 2013 20:36:16 GMT
Ooooh another nice picture I just want to be a Goddess when I grow up.....like janev
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 15, 2013 20:38:00 GMT
I am beside myself with excitement!! just been given another shiny gold star......I WILL be a Goddess when I grow up
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Post by mighty on Jul 16, 2013 1:51:08 GMT
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 16, 2013 7:35:36 GMT
Well it was meant to be a bit of lighthearted relief for the many amazing people on here who despite their amazing intelligence are held back in life due to being born with a brain disorder
but since you want to comment on our immaturity, it is in fact FACT
BARKLEY states that the brain of a 10 year old in reality has the brain of a 7 year old in terms of emotional maturity and it DOESN'T get better.....the gap widens, so that by the age of 20, it's more like having the brain of a 14 year old in this respect....and this relates to those who get HELP
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Post by mighty on Jul 17, 2013 16:33:12 GMT
My bad, sorry if the comic offended you Was just reminded of it at the time. I'm a young adult and it resonated with me when I first saw it, because I still feel like a child! Personally think the weird and abnormal ones are those who actually do grow up haha. I see people sometimes who are so serious and grouchy, and I wonder "How did they ever turn from a free-spririted child into THAT?" So keep being wonderful
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Post by mighty on Jul 17, 2013 17:29:35 GMT
"What the hell is ADD? My friends say I should act my age. What's my age again?"
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 17, 2013 20:00:50 GMT
Hello Mighty, Well, you are in a less rash mood today Unfortunately, I wrote that message straight after reading your post on my other thread...."idiotic etc...." which as you can tell upset some of us somewhat...... now that I know that you are a young adult.....things begin to make more sense.....I expect you knew from an early age that you were suffering from ADD.....that makes all the difference in the world.....hopefully, you had interventions, accommodations, medication.....but more importantly understanding and acceptance from those around you......and if that's the case, you have been very lucky...... those of us who were never aware that we ever had a problem, unfortunately received very different treatment and therein lies the difference, decades down the line we have the shock of realising how different life might have been had we known and had we received understanding, support and acceptance......and it's just good to be mindful that the ADD position in time that you occupied is a world away from the one that we did......but also that in other respects it is still far from great and many of us are now parents fighting to get help for our children......indeed that is how many of discovered that we had ADHD!!! Glad that you're happy today!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2013 20:53:17 GMT
BARKLEY states that the brain of a 10 year old in reality has the brain of a 7 year old in terms of emotional maturity and it DOESN'T get better.....the gap widens, so that by the age of 20, it's more like having the brain of a 14 year old in this respect....and this relates to those who get HELP That is exactly how I feel. As I have got older, the gap between me and my 'peers' has just got wider and wider, I have found this really painful, but at least I know why now. Though I think years of not knowing why has been damaging in its own right
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 17, 2013 21:45:12 GMT
Hi Petra, I know how you feel.....it's hard.....difficult not to look back.........but we have to let it go.....wasn't it you who cheered me up by saying "at least we can stop beating ourselves up about it now" by letting it get to us, we hold ourselves back....no-one else...we cannot proceed.....it will keep us on that bipolar roller coaster.....and we've tried that already ....... as you know, the definition of madness is repeating the behaviour yet expecting a different result so, not long to go now towards a new 'US'.....a new YOU.....when you can start to use all those wonderful talents that you had all along....... and you know what, sometimes having that childlike quality is a lovely, magical thing......I think I'd rather keep that big hugs x x x p.s. this has given me an idea for a new thread.....could be interesting
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Post by mighty on Jul 17, 2013 23:00:05 GMT
You don't know my life or my moods. Please don't ever make assumptions about them.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 17, 2013 23:06:28 GMT
EXACTLY!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2013 23:20:28 GMT
You are right FW, thank you xx
(for earlier post to me! Hadn't realised this had gone onto next page... )
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Post by Kathymel on Jul 17, 2013 23:28:12 GMT
My bad, sorry if the comic offended you It didn't offend me at all, Mighty. I just saw it as a fitting comment on the human condition. It took me a long time to start realising I wasn't going to feel any different.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2013 23:55:14 GMT
It didn't offend me either mighty.
i remember watching a documentary on JK Rowling, and she said she was in a meeting after having written her books, and all eyes were on her, and she said she 'felt like a 12 year old girl and why was everyone looking at her?' So I think a lot of 'well' people don't necessarily feel grown up.
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Post by jan on Jul 18, 2013 7:26:17 GMT
didn't offend me either - thought it was very humorous - and apt my daughter was 18 last year and she said to me she'd been waiting all her life to get to that point - be 18 and an adult and had genuinely thought everything would change overnight and that she'd feel capable and more able to cope and deal with life - bless her I really felt for her but had to say - welcome to my world I thought that was going to happen when I was 16 - still waiting
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 13:07:56 GMT
BARKLEY states that the brain of a 10 year old in reality has the brain of a 7 year old in terms of emotional maturity Does he really say maturity or was it regulation? I am very interested to know if you are able to find out
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Post by Kathymel on Jul 18, 2013 20:13:31 GMT
I've found articles that say Barkley has said this of both emotional maturity and self-regulatory behavioral maturity. Haven't found a direct quote, though.
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Post by mighty on Jul 24, 2013 21:36:35 GMT
Don't assume I'm in a rash mood if I say something you don't like . Isn't it weird when a sentence doesn't finish the way you octopus.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 24, 2013 22:10:45 GMT
Thank you for your input on special schools
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