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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 28, 2013 0:02:18 GMT
Hi all, Apparently, being ADHDers, we are more likely to mate with someone who has learning difficulties.....meaning that we inadvertently give our children double trouble......how very interesting i don 't know if any of my exes had learning difficulties, but with hindsight I know for sure that 3 out of the 4 main relationships had other mental disorders or illness....of course, didn't know that at the time, I was still 'blissfully' unaware that even I suffered from them at that point in time , so I wouldn't have recognised it in them, but looking back I think one had bipolar disorder, one had schizophrenia and one had a personality disorder..... Any input from you? Be fascinating to see if there's a pattern.....and thoughts as to why x
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2013 9:09:32 GMT
It's a catch 22 I spose. Get with an NT who can't understand you or another mental person who can and see where the double mentalness leads
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Post by mighty on Jul 28, 2013 9:38:48 GMT
Where did you read this? It's believable I can think of two reasons. First is simply logistical I guess. If someone has a more severe learning disability (i.e. requiring round the clock), they'll be more likely to interact with and be encouraged to meet similar individuals. Or people who have blips may develop relationships in institutions, as they're sharing something emotional together. But I guess the obvious reason is vulnerable and non-conforming people are drawn together by their commonalities. I'm instantly drawn to quirkiness! Also, bearing in mind that 1 in 4 people are going through a mental health crisis at any one time, you have a huuuuuge chance of getting together with someone who has a history. Everyone has their story...
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Post by jan on Jul 28, 2013 9:47:13 GMT
ive always been drawn to nutters hence why spend so much time on here my daughters father def had adhd I reckon and every other partner I've had has had some kind of 'issue' (in duplicate) suppose nt's can't cope with us really and vice versa
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Post by claudhopper on Jul 28, 2013 22:15:46 GMT
It's because only other nutters would put up with the likes of us.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 28, 2013 22:45:28 GMT
Maybe we're more 'interesting' and 'exciting' and so are they.......God forbid we would ever try someone normal, stable and 'boring' Forgot to mention......what a great judge of character I am!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2013 0:57:04 GMT
Yep, my first marriage I was 'blissfully unaware" of mental health problems. 2 children later and a very rude awakening to the whole thing and our 'wonderful' system. Think I preferred ignorance. - that is, my first husband had MAJOR mental health problems as it turned out. Flippin' eck - you write a post on here with what you want to say crystal clear in your mind, and when you re read it days later its not clear at all!! Or is it just me that keeps doing that?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2013 10:42:44 GMT
Maybe we're more 'interesting' and 'exciting' and so are they.......God forbid we would ever try someone normal, stable and 'boring' Forgot to mention......what a great judge of character I am! Hello there my little snowflake!
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Post by chickster on Jul 30, 2013 11:48:18 GMT
Nope, not me. I can sometimes be drawn to people who are a 'bit mad' but self preservation kicked in long ago & I avoid 'mating with' them like the plague. One of us being nuts is enough, plus, hypocritically I draw the line at people with (major) mental health problems. I know people who have gone out with people with serious conditions & learnt 2 things. A. Medication only works when you take it. B. The more serious the condition the worse the medication - & the less likely people are t take it all the time. I could definitely go for a fellow ADHDer though - as long as they are more sorted than me!
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Post by JJ on Jul 30, 2013 18:11:14 GMT
One of us being nuts is enough, plus, hypocritically I draw the line at people with (major) mental health problems. ! Lol . If I met someone for a potential relationship with my profile, I'd run a mile
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Post by gremico on Aug 3, 2013 1:14:00 GMT
Im four years into my mating ban Thats self imposed folks -not enforced by law!!
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Aug 3, 2013 10:00:16 GMT
Oh could someone just please unenforce mine
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Post by furiousd on Aug 4, 2013 21:42:14 GMT
My wife has Bipolar Type II, OCD, and Paranoid Personality Disorder. So I've more than my fair share! ? My psychotherapist joked that it must be difficult for someone with OCD living with someone with ADD, but it's true. I drive her loopy, not just through being untidy and disorganised, but also putting off or getting distracted while doing housework. When I do manage to do it, ornaments aren't back where they live or are facing the wrong direction. On paper, we probably shouldn't work, but she's my rock. She's helped me through some tough times, including the present, and I don't know what I'd do without her.
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Post by JJ on Aug 4, 2013 21:56:39 GMT
What a lovely post . I find it so warming to hear someone talking with such affection and respect for their partner Tho with her OCD and my presumption that she likes everything organised and tidy, I can't help thinking lucky you and poor her!!
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Post by furiousd on Aug 4, 2013 22:14:10 GMT
Yup, for her, everything has to be in its place. For me, that place is where I happen to leave it, which will most likely be forgotten within 10 minutes! ?
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