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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 10:35:03 GMT
I want to meet you! I have had so much fun here and had so much wonderful support from so many people on this site that it would be lovely to meet you in person and buy you all a drink. I'm sure there are many people on here that feel just the same. So. Let's have a get-together. I'm thinking somewhere central, somewhere easy to get to, somewhere not too pricey and somewhere we can have fun without losing too many members. I want your suggestions, please. Should it be a city nightclub? A quiet country pub? A day out somewhere followed by an evening meal? All suggestions welcome and we'll see if we can't put something together that suits as many people as possible. I don't know about anyone else, but I need something nice to look forward to. What do you think?
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 11:37:24 GMT
I think this sounds good and I'd be v interested . (V nervous of meeting everyone as well - but only cos of bit of social anxiety - not cos wouldn't want to) Didn't they have a 'big meet' thing here a few years ago? I wonder how that went - will have to have a look round I'd have to have a think about where / what etc - not sure where most of the active users are in the country ?? I've said it before, but this is another reason why I think everyone should put their county as visible on their profile... ( Not sure if mine still showing since the forum upgrade thing ). I'm in Kent then.... Will have a think and post back. ( FYI Kathymel - I remember once you saying how you love fancy dress parties....if you're looking for a reason to wear the Dalek dress then fill your boots - but I couldn't face dressing up myself - just so you know!! ) Xxx Oh - and a nightclub would scare the hell out of me!! Last time I went to one, 3 separate young girls came up to me and asked how old I was They were just being nice and making conversation - but omg I felt sooooo old I was only about 33 / 34 at the time as well . Adhd isn't easy but I didn't think I looked like I'd had that hard a life Been terrified of them ever since
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 11:46:42 GMT
( FYI Kathymel - I remember once you saying how you love fancy dress parties....if you're looking for a reason to wear the Dalek dress then fill your boots - but I couldn't face dressing up myself - just so you know!! ) I love fancy dress parties! I have many, many costumes!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2013 14:26:52 GMT
I love the idea (meeting up NOT NOT NOT fancy dress ) and although in my head, rightly or wrongly I feel like my best friends are on this forum, I would be absolutely PETRIFIED of actually meeting up. 1, I don't do being in groups, at all, and 2, if it was horrendous I wouldn't feel able to show my virtual face on here again ever ever, and 3, I think everyone else would get on and click and I would end up being all on my ownsome lonesome feeling like a total misfit. Just far far too scary to even contemplate.
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 15:02:26 GMT
What we used to do on another forum I used to be on (and organise events for) was to arrange for one or two people to meet the more worried members beforehand, so they weren't walking into an event on their own, knowing no one.
As for being left on your own whilst everyone else clicked - we wouldn't let that happen. We all seem to suffer from social anxiety to a certain extent, or at least we aware that most members do, so we could take care to make sure no one was excluded.
There is no reason to think that it would be horrendous or that you would not get on with everyone else. That's ADHD-induced paranoia. You've always come across as being perfectly lovely on here.
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 15:09:18 GMT
Oooh, that's such a good idea re the meeting with someone beforehand - I'd be on that list....
And agree with kathymel - Petra - you do always come across as a complete lovely xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2013 15:13:56 GMT
My experience of meeting people from forums has been pretty good - if they sound nutty online then they'll probably be like that in the flesh.
I don't think I've made any friends, in the last ten years, that didn't start on t'interweb.
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 15:19:33 GMT
So was there a previous big meet up pd? How did it go?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2013 15:34:52 GMT
I host a support group so I meet ADHDers (many from here) on a regular basis.
I've been to several forum parties (not this forum) in hotels, weekends away, dinners and even driven to Le Mans.
I've also advertised days out on here and had nothing but fun (apart from the stress of organising it).
People are generally nice (and bearable for at least a short time).
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Post by spok on Aug 19, 2013 21:38:43 GMT
Does anyone here like theme parks???
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2013 22:38:08 GMT
Thank you for your lovely words JJ and Kathymel xxxx
I would love to meet up at some point - especially if I could meet up with just one or two people first - but don't feel ready yet, maybe by Christmas. I didn't used to be like this! When I was 18 I got a one way ticket to Australia on my own and stayed in youth hostels!
Spok! I take it from your post you love theme parks?!! How's things going with your meds situation and new job?
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 22:57:24 GMT
I would love to meet up at some point - especially if I could meet up with just one or two people first - but don't feel ready yet, maybe by Christmas. I didn't used to be like this! When I was 18 I got a one way ticket to Australia on my own and stayed in youth hostels! ? Yep - 20 years ago I would've gone to something like this without a second thought - breeze in, see what was happening, talk to anyone, if anyone ignored me that was their bad luck, wouldn't care how I got there, where I stayed..... What happened Made me laugh what you said about if things went badly never being able to show your virtual face again - I'd already planned for that - was gonna just re-register as a new member with a different name
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2013 23:09:24 GMT
Lol! I'd thought of that, but then thought within about 5 posts it would be blatantly obvious it was me! We will all know what's happened now if there's an influx of 'new' members afterwards! On another forum I used to go on, people frequently said too much, then disappeared and returned with a new name - it was soooo obvious - some of them even came back with a 'foreign' accent to disguise themselves - posts would start off sounding Spanish with odd Spanish words thrown in for good effect, and by the end of the post theyd be talking like their old selves!!! I've seen that happen more than once!
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 23:13:03 GMT
Made me laugh what you said about if things went badly never being able to show your virtual face again - I'd already planned for that - was gonna just re-register as a new member with a different name And throw away that newly acquired goddess-hood?
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 23:15:38 GMT
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 23:16:47 GMT
Does anyone here like theme parks??? What sort of theme parks?
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 23:25:25 GMT
Made me laugh what you said about if things went badly never being able to show your virtual face again - I'd already planned for that - was gonna just re-register as a new member with a different name And throw away that newly acquired goddess-hood? Noooooo Wouldn't delete the account - love my goddess-hood - is only real achievement in last how ever many years (children aside of course - think middle son has realised my 'name' and might have a quick peep soon) Would just set up a new one on top Might re-register anyway now - and keep posting comments about how wise and fab that JJ is
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 23:33:34 GMT
Lol! I'd thought of that, but then thought within about 5 posts it would be blatantly obvious it was me! We will all know what's happened now if there's an influx of 'new' members afterwards! On another forum I used to go on, people frequently said too much, then disappeared and returned with a new name - it was soooo obvious - some of them even came back with a 'foreign' accent to disguise themselves - posts would start off sounding Spanish with odd Spanish words thrown in for good effect, and by the end of the post theyd be talking like their old selves!!! I've seen that happen more than once! that's so funny Before here I was a forum virgin - so thanks for tips Seriously - they added in the odd Spanish word for effect ?? I may come back as another language altogether now.... I shall be MmeJJ and casually mention the Eiffel Tower in posts....
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 19, 2013 23:35:15 GMT
And throw away that newly acquired goddess-hood? Noooooo Wouldn't delete the account - love my goddess-hood - is only real achievement in last how ever many years Ha ha. It does feel like an achievement, doesn't it. Just don't translate it into how many hours you spent on here to get it.
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Post by JJ on Aug 19, 2013 23:42:50 GMT
Never thought about it that way - thanks for that Btw - this thread has been entirely derailed People!! really !! can you not concentrate and follow through on anything ?? Anywayyyyyyy, have you had any further thoughts about this (Xmas party) ? Pd was positive And looked back on threads - there was a big meet picnic thing in July 2012 - seemed successful from the thread You've done this before you said - what worked then wrt people from all over the country? Xx
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 20, 2013 0:13:05 GMT
We used to have several events a year, from camping and bunkhouse weekends in the summer (hell to organise and collect money for), nights out in various cities, adventure weekends, cycling tours, you name it. They attracted people from 20-70 and were always really good fun.
If there are just going to be a few of us and we want something calm, maybe a nice meal and a few drinks would do.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 1:36:11 GMT
One of us was going to arrange a trip out to Crocky Trail again this year. But you know how it is with procrastination. It's a really nice day out for innatentives and hyperactives alike. www.crockytrail.co.uk/trail-info/Some pics of previous visits. There are a number of very steep slides of different heights. Swing thingy (there are home made "rides" all around the place, some near the car park, and some out on the nature trail). I'll never let go....I promise. One of the many bridges across a stream along the walk. Yeah!! Diggers. Take a change of clothes, just in case you fall in the stream. Another "agricultural" swing thing. One of the more difficult bridges to cross, especially when wet. Entry is £12, it gets cheaper as a group, and if 10 or more go it's £10. Seniors and carers £6. Free parking. It's near Chester. John
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 2:18:20 GMT
That looks epic John. Apart from the mud bit
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2013 17:01:00 GMT
Wot?
No pic of me stuck in the cannon?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2013 18:53:24 GMT
Wot? No pic of me stuck in the cannon? Nope. Only got that one of Austin Powers.
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Post by jan on Aug 25, 2013 13:09:44 GMT
yes yes yes I wanna come and got all same fears as you petra and jj since met kathymel the other day am already thinking oh my god she didn't like me ,thinks i'm common as muck (welsh saying ), swear too much am thick etc etc and straight away was thinking oh shit I come across as much more fun on here than I am really can't dance - everybody be drinking so more fun can't dress up am too fat shit look much older than I sound etc etc anyway after saying all that wouldn't miss it for the world great idea about meeting people before hand - i'd be up for that - have been told in past in treatment centre aa single parent group etc that i'm really good at helping people relax and feel part of stuff am also willing to help with organising etc if need be fucking brill idea kath - am so excited now - shit long time till xmas what about one of the caravan parks - make it cheaper than hotel suppose xmas be bit cold for camping load of us rented youth hostel at side of epping forest one year that was good but depends how many of us there are oh and there's great venue in Essex - called othona - its Christian community but no one lives there permenant - no pressure whatsoever to be Christian or even believe in god - by the sea as well - could get the wet suits out again and they give bursary places to those on low incomes its great place used to go all time till got the dog. they rent it out to groups. wherever we go have to try and make it affordable to those that not working , single parents etc - hate for them to be excluded - maybe have some sort of thing where those of us that can could contribute bit extra towards a fund for them or something and remember reading about a place that you could rent huge yerts - they ok in winter as can light fires inside have to try and remember where that was - remember poster for it was on wall in youth hostel at epping personally am not into night clubs or theme parks
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Post by supine on Aug 25, 2013 13:43:07 GMT
I'm well up for this. I haven't met any new people outside of work for donkeys years, and like everyone else I'm terrified of meeting weirdo's like myself! I'm up for any kind of get together, as long as there is an option to be relaxed when I need it.
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