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Post by nomad on Oct 30, 2013 11:06:03 GMT
A thread for your pro-tips on dealing with life. Please add your own hints tips and advice. [There are no doubt other threads like this, but I couldn't find one so sorry if it's a duplicate.] ================================================= Anyway, thought this little feature of the Chrome browser is handy: it's a simple timer you set just by typing e.g. set timer for 1 hour in the search box www.pocketables.com/2013/08/google-chrome-tip-set-a-timer-from-your-omnibar.html
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Post by Deleted on Oct 30, 2013 11:57:22 GMT
Brilliant!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2013 12:47:33 GMT
Hi Nomed, thanks for you put here question about hints........
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Post by mighty on Nov 4, 2013 17:33:39 GMT
<<Don't take life too seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway>>
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Post by tesss on Nov 4, 2013 20:45:06 GMT
No hints and tips yet? Just one? Buuuuu nobody wants to share? - go out basket - I have it in strategic place, always same, it is for keys, wallet, lighter, car keys and motorcycle keys. I needed to develop habit of using it. - my bag contains all essentials, I do not change it sometimes just top it up Almost all my strategies are based on learned behaviours or modified behaviours. I was able to create simple ones, like "look at the board" and on the board I have everything what I need for example list to follow, shopping list etc. One more learned behaviour - "do it now" . I learn set of behaviours which later on when I will put them together will create routine. The way of learning/modifying is based on same principles which apply to animal training ( hopefully nobody will feel insulted ) defined by father of behaviourism - dr skinner I think same principles are used in CBT. The name for it sounds more scientific and it is less pushing of by connection to animals. Funny thing is this principles are used in animal training for more than 50 years as far as I know
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 5, 2013 19:18:03 GMT
Almost all my strategies are based on learned behaviours or modified behaviours. I was able to create simple ones, like "look at the board" and on the board I have everything what I need for example list to follow, shopping list etc. One more learned behaviour - "do it now" . I learn set of behaviours which later on when I will put them together will create routine. The way of learning/modifying is based on same principles which apply to animal training ( hopefully nobody will feel insulted ) defined by father of behaviourism - dr skinner I think same principles are used in CBT. The name for it sounds more scientific and it is less pushing of by connection to animals. Funny thing is this principles are used in animal training for more than 50 years as far as I know i just spotted that there's a tv programme on bbc4 tonight on the practice of ABA (applied behavioural analysis) as a method of intervention working with children with autism.... seems a lot like what you have been talking about here. there's some info on the prog at www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b03gvnvm/Autism_Challenging_Behaviour/
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 5, 2013 19:34:59 GMT
i haven't been able to get myself to commit to a whiteboard. and i worry a bit that if i wrote stuff up i'd need to know something i've wiped out. so each week i put up a flipchart page on my hall wall (where i see it when i come out of the bathroom-something i KNOW i'll remember to do!) and i write up my priorities/important things for the week, with any notes or reminders or workings out or - anything.
i use COLOURS for everything - seems to make more sense and get it into my head a bit better. so on this chart i use blue as the general colour, green for positive things and red for time/date specific stuff - makes it easy to understand at a glance.
i've also started using a second page stuck next to it to write out my schedule for two weeks at a time, so i can plan things in and remember things. once i've worked out my priorities for the week (which i try to do by monday or tuesday, when i've had a chance to think it through) i can even sometimes write in time to (eg) do the preparation needed for an appt, or see at a glance that i need to get an early night for a couple of nights before an early morning appt.
i have to say it really does work - when i know what my priorities for the week are and my time is a bit mapped out, i feel great. when i haven't really been v clear and time is disappearing i feel out of control and far more easily overwhelmed. and when my brain resets to a different "now" and i've got not a clue where i'm at, it's like having a write up of my "memory" on the wall - v helpful to find myself.
oooo and i got some of those A4 stick-anywhere whiteboard pages and put one inside the front door for writing myself notes for things i Really Have To Remember.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2013 19:53:30 GMT
This thread made me realise my strategies consist solely of: Meds Understanding and patient friends Ummmm..........
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Post by tesss on Nov 5, 2013 20:00:13 GMT
This thread made me realise my strategies consist solely of: Meds Understanding and patient friends Ummmm.......... I prefer to create my world to be able to rely on myself. It is me who makes my world better nobody else. Relaying on friends and meds rise question in my head: what will happen when this two things will be taken away from me? Meds for me are just tool to have better control over my head and world around me.
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Post by tesss on Nov 5, 2013 20:05:45 GMT
Almost all my strategies are based on learned behaviours or modified behaviours. I was able to create simple ones, like "look at the board" and on the board I have everything what I need for example list to follow, shopping list etc. One more learned behaviour - "do it now" . I learn set of behaviours which later on when I will put them together will create routine. The way of learning/modifying is based on same principles which apply to animal training ( hopefully nobody will feel insulted ) defined by father of behaviourism - dr skinner I think same principles are used in CBT. The name for it sounds more scientific and it is less pushing of by connection to animals. Funny thing is this principles are used in animal training for more than 50 years as far as I know i just spotted that there's a tv programme on bbc4 tonight on the practice of ABA (applied behavioural analysis) as a method of intervention working with children with autism.... seems a lot like what you have been talking about here. there's some info on the prog at www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b03gvnvm/Autism_Challenging_Behaviour/I will watch it thx. My Mum is a teacher at nursery (children from age 3-4 up to 6) she use to ask me about some methods which I use during the training sessions with dogs, we modified them and she used them at work. It works as well with out of contact older people. I even could change my Mums unpleasant behaviour for nicer one using same methods. Later when she realised what I was doing I smacked me with wet cloth but she was happy I've done it.
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 5, 2013 20:29:13 GMT
This thread made me realise my strategies consist solely of: Meds Understanding and patient friends Ummmm.......... those are two things not to be sniffed at both hard to get, even harder to get right and worth their weight in gold
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2013 20:39:02 GMT
This thread made me realise my strategies consist solely of: Meds Understanding and patient friends Ummmm.......... those are two things not to be sniffed at both hard to get, even harder to get right and worth their weight in gold Sniffing meds can get you into trouble! As can sniffing your friends
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Post by grim on Nov 5, 2013 21:02:00 GMT
As can sniffing your friends I quite agree.I have a dog that sniffs my friends on my behalf,saves a lot of embarrassment.
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Post by grim on Nov 5, 2013 21:05:46 GMT
Oh yeah,i forgot,post it notes!
I have a wall planner which is good,and a filofax type of thingy which is also good.....but you have to go look for them.
I ambush myself with post it notes,leaving them in places where i can't miss them,stuck to my car keys,or phone,or the tv screen,etc
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Post by Kathymel on Nov 5, 2013 21:20:36 GMT
I ambushed my son with about 20 post-it notes a few weeks ago. I put them all over the house while he was in bed. They all said the same thing - "PRINT YOUR HOMEWORK".
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2013 22:06:37 GMT
This thread made me realise my strategies consist solely of: Meds Understanding and patient friends Ummmm.......... I prefer to create my world to be able to rely on myself. It is me who makes my world better nobody else. Relaying on friends and meds rise question in my head: what will happen when this two things will be taken away from me? Meds for me are just tool to have better control over my head and world around me. Just to clarify - I don't rely on my friends for anything. They just don't give me a hard time about my ditzyness! I am fully aware of my total laziness surrounding dealing with my ADHD. But I realised I have it after many years of exhaustion and struggling. Within one month of that realisation, I was diagnosed privately. Those magic little pills transformed my life. Everything stopped being so bloody difficult. For 2 years I lived in total bliss. No apologies from me. I enjoyed it. My home life has remained chaotic, but I have mostly lived alone, and I pay for everything by direct debit (does that count as a strategy?!) So I no longer have money worries. If my chaos presents a problem for my partner, I'm fully prepared to work on it.
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 5, 2013 22:24:30 GMT
yup - direct debits are a strategy! i used to forget to pay Everything and got into serious trouble, until i made it all automatic. (i'd forgotten about that - thank you for the reminder)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2013 22:38:20 GMT
yup - direct debits are a strategy! i used to forget to pay Everything and got into serious trouble, until i made it all automatic. (i'd forgotten about that - thank you for the reminder) Snap! Red letters used to be the norm for me I suspect I've developed many strategies without realising since starting dex. If I come up with anything more useful than popping pills and making friends as nutty as you, I'll return to this thread Edit: no offence with the 'nutty' comment, I meant 'you' as in 'one', not implying contrarymary is nutty, or anyone else. Except me
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Post by DKL - darkknightslover on Nov 5, 2013 22:50:37 GMT
Dex, diet, try to ensure I sleep well, eat well, exercise, filofax, reminders on phone, whiteboard/launch pad by front door, having no spare money/cash on hand (I spend it like there's no tomorrow), caffeine, portable whiteboard for work (laminated checklist with spare space), Lab timer for making sure I didn't leave product on the driers too long or overspending on breaks, asking everyone to email me if they expect a reply...
Many others and some that have been clubbed in to an "area of wellbeing" like exercise - too skint to drive or get bus, so cycle to Uni which gives me nearly an hour a day. Will expand when I remember...
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2013 23:06:41 GMT
Dex, diet, try to ensure I sleep well, eat well, exercise, filofax, reminders on phone, whiteboard/launch pad by front door, having no spare money/cash on hand (I spend it like there's no tomorrow), caffeine, portable whiteboard for work (laminated checklist with spare space), Lab timer for making sure I didn't leave product on the driers too long or overspending on breaks, asking everyone to email me if they expect a reply... Many others and some that have been clubbed in to an "area of wellbeing" like exercise - too skint to drive or get bus, so cycle to Uni which gives me nearly an hour a day. Will expand when I remember... Sent from my C6603 using proboards The self-made portable whiteboard sounds fab I've realised since I started working from home/studying, I've managed to create timetables. But they're more goal-oriented than set times for doing stuff. I also include fun stuff to make sure hyperfocus doesn't cause me to do too much and prevent down-time.
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 6, 2013 0:02:59 GMT
ah yes... i forgot the Kitchen Timer which i use for Everything that needs timing, or sometimes just to give me an idea of how long things take, or how long i've been doing it. (strange how time in the bathroom feels much longer than it actually is - always convinced i've been in the shower for ages when it turns out to be less than five minutes - i think my Now resets more quickly in the shower). or i just set it to go off every hour to give me a dawning sense that the day is passing before i let it all slip away....
and having a Balance list on the wall in my hall - i list out all the stuff that makes me feel well, like sleep, exercise, yoga, physio, meditation, mindfulness, rest, creativity, greenness, space, social, food etc, and then keep a tally during the week of how often i've managed to fit each of them in - otherwise i have no memory or awareness or insight into why things feel better or worse...
invariably if my week is going badly and i'm easily overwhelmed i find that i have not made the space for Balance activities, and if it's going well and i have a sense of perspective i see that it has been a good week for balancing healthful and Needful
and a "launchpad" for things to take out with me - a chair in the hall (clearly the hall is the nerve-centre of my empire). and trying to do that thing of getting things ready the night before;
if i have to leave the house by a set time - writing a schedule backwards from the time i have to leave, then the activity immediately before it, estimate how long it will take and give it a start time; then the one before that etc etc right through to what time i need to set my alarm (if am) or start prepping (if pm). if in doubt, i allow extra time.
it is exhausting; i kept hoping that it would become automatic so that like NTs i would find it easy. i think i just get a bit slicker at writing the schedules, and less surprised by how long everything takes. (well, a Bit less surprised. or just better at winging it.)
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Post by soas on Nov 7, 2013 12:09:14 GMT
1. find someone to share your life with. 2. do sports - it gets rid of stress
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