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Post by Kathymel on Dec 6, 2013 1:58:40 GMT
What's the thing you put off most? What stresses you out so much that you'll do almost anything else rather than face it? Mine used to be the washing up before I bought my little mini dishwasher (I still pat it affectionately, sometimes). Now that that's taken care of it's the laundry that gets me, or, more specifically, hanging up the laundry when it's done (no dryer and no room for one, either). Even more specifically than that, it's socks. I hate hanging up socks. It was bad enough when it was just mine, but recently (after years of ill-judged nagging to persuade him to change them more regularly), Genghis's socks are making regular appearances, too. It takes soooooo long and it's soooooo boring. What's yours? (Edited to say that I often put the same wash through 3 or more times because I can't face hanging it up)
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Post by petra on Dec 6, 2013 2:08:55 GMT
1. Getting up in the morning. 2. Having got up, getting anything done. Anything at all. I'm ok if I have an important appointment. Having said that, I had one today and cancelled....just because.. I've very definately got worse as I've got older. This is as a result of CBT IMO! I now realise most things just aren't that important, and have the confidence and assertiveness to say no and cancel
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2013 2:24:59 GMT
1. Throwing my quilt cover off
2. Deciding what to wear
3. Washing dishes
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Post by shapes on Dec 6, 2013 2:29:47 GMT
To be honest, almost everything. I can't fill out a simple form without it taking over an hour. Do people find meds help them with this? I long to be able to think "I need to do X" then be able to sit down and do X. I really don't see how I can lead a normal and enjoyable life without some improvement in this area.
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Post by petra on Dec 6, 2013 2:45:21 GMT
To be honest, almost everything. I can't fill out a simple form without it taking over an hour. Do people find meds help them with this? I long to be able to think "I need to do X" then be able to sit down and do X. I really don't see how I can lead a normal and enjoyable life without some improvement in this area. I know - I feel the same, and it really is no laughing matter. I see and know what I need to do, but don't have the ability to consistently do anything. I don't see how you can make real progress in life without this ability. It is more than frustrating. But some people say meds help with this, so this is what I'm holding on to.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Dec 6, 2013 8:29:56 GMT
(Edited to say that I often put the same wash through 3 or more times because I can't face hanging it up) Me too! x
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Post by contrarymary on Dec 6, 2013 9:18:55 GMT
i procrastinate just about everything for which i don't have external accountability, so i try to get/invent external accountability for as much as i can.
at the moment i'm procrastinating getting up, which seems to be my Thing this week. i've been awake since 5.30 am but am not up. and i procrastinate my morning yoga, until there is no time left to do it, which is what caused the getting up procrastination. ffs.
getting sick of forcing myself out of bed a few minutes before someone is due to arrive and trying to look as tho i have been up and doing things for ages. i don't even convince myself. it gets my day off to such a bad start and i'm playing catch up, don't do things properly, feel really uncomfortable - and can't seem to stop doing it. aagh.
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Post by contrarymary on Dec 6, 2013 9:24:09 GMT
and i hate the way i'll often even allow enough time to do something but then keep reframing how much time it takes, so i say
"i'll start at 7.00" "7.00 was a bit enthusiastic. i'll start at 7.30" "what was i thinking? i'll start at 8" "i don't really need to start til 8.30" "8.45 is just about ok" "8.55 would give me a few minutes" "damn there's no time left for that. o well, maybe tomorrow...."
aagghh
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Post by JJ on Dec 6, 2013 9:29:46 GMT
and i hate the way i'll often even allow enough time to do something but then keep reframing how much time it takes, so i say "i'll start at 7.00" "7.00 was a bit enthusiastic. i'll start at 7.30" "what was i thinking? i'll start at 8" "i don't really need to start til 8.30" "8.45 is just about ok" "8.55 would give me a few minutes" "damn there's no time left for that. o well, maybe tomorrow...." aagghh OMG yes....
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Post by JJ on Dec 6, 2013 9:31:27 GMT
(Edited to say that I often put the same wash through 3 or more times because I can't face hanging it up) Me too! x OMG yes again.... Have often wondered how many cars / holidays I could have bought with all the money spent on washing powder on washes that get done 12 times before leaving the machine
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Post by JJ on Dec 6, 2013 9:44:36 GMT
This is a v difficult thread to answer - cos it's either "everything" or a 12 page list And my need to precise about all things, all the bloody time, means finding the 'right' answer is sooooo hard But, really, if I had a list of chores, all lined up, all urgently needing to be done....... paperwork would be the absolute last of the last in the line. Anything paper , right from signing my name on a 'yes I give permission for my child to go on a school trip' slip, up to one of my mammoth work reports or a tax return. Paper (puke)is evil - and there won't be any at all in my People's Republic of ADHD - when I fill out the 'starting a new country' forms to open it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2013 18:33:40 GMT
I'd somehow managed to convince myself I don't really procrastinate much. Then I read this thread!...... Choosing what to wear takes soooo long. Will I be warm enough? Too warm? Should I take a spare jumper? Do I want to carry one around? I'll wear this top. Do I have a jumper to match? Why don't I have a jumper to match? Why don't my clothes coordinate? I really must go shopping and buy new clothes...... Shopping. I hate shopping. Do I go shopping tomorrow? I need new clothes. Yes, I'll go shopping. Tomorrow arrives. I'm reminded of the need for clothes while attempting to get dressed. But soooo much time passes. It's getting later now. The shops will be busy. The car park will be getting full. I hate crowds. I hate the noise. I can never decide what to buy. Fuck it. I'll go shopping. I don't know what to buy. I like this jumper. Or do I? Maybe I'll look around. Ooh, this is nice. Sort of. Maybe. I'm tired. And bored. I'll come back some other time........ Then there's coursework, and paperwork. Probably a thousand other things I've convinced myself I don't reeaallly procrastinate about because 'I'm just too tired to do them' *edit* lol at myself for believing I don't think about much while procrastinating!!!!
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Post by contrarymary on Dec 6, 2013 19:30:35 GMT
And my need to precise about all things, all the bloody time, means finding the 'right' answer is sooooo hard me too with that too makes it hard to say anything, huh. or feel the need to say everything. or take the time to say everything and then edit it down and that takes for ever. empathy JJ :)x
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Post by shapes on Dec 6, 2013 19:51:00 GMT
Agree with everything.
(I tried to write something longer several times but wasn't happy with it.)
I think this is why people think I am slow sometimes. I've thought of 20 different responses but am not happy with them so I resort to a simple statement after deliberating for several seconds.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Dec 6, 2013 22:31:25 GMT
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Post by JJ on Dec 6, 2013 23:50:20 GMT
Agree with everything. (I tried to write something longer several times but wasn't happy with it.) I think this is why people think I am slow sometimes. I've thought of 20 different responses but am not happy with them so I resort to a simple statement after deliberating for several seconds. If you got 'senior god' status for how many posts you've literally written- as opposed to how many you posted, I'd have had orange stars after a couple of weeks
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Post by boo on Dec 7, 2013 18:22:03 GMT
If you got 'senior god' status for how many posts you've literally written- as opposed to how many you posted, I'd have had orange stars after a couple of weeks aint that the truth, totally the same here
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2013 14:52:31 GMT
Same here. I think I have an innate fear of paperwork. Even a simple invoice out to a client would represent the potential for administrative error and bringing on the full force of the British Empire to engulf me in perpetual Hellfire unto eternity. Sent from my GT-I9505 using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2013 15:02:10 GMT
Generally another thread that fits. The only time i can really succeed with paperwork is if I throw myself into it obsessively which eventually leads to exhaustion. Picking it up again the next day is difficult because I tell myself I deserve a break. Next thing you know it's weeks and I have to struggle to pick up the thread again. I've receipts strewn over the house atm which need filing and some with important warranties etc. That's my job today - ugh. Cup of tea first Sent from my GT-I9505 using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2013 16:31:23 GMT
...this forum.
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Post by ADDJ forgot to sign in on Dec 8, 2013 16:54:10 GMT
Thanks @michael for remind me the real purpose of this thread. Yep agree, this forum and any other novelty Internet thingy that comes along to distract me.
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Post by Abby on Dec 9, 2013 0:25:03 GMT
This morning I left myself FIVE minutes to get up, get dressed, have a wash and leave for work. I made it on time! I've started a small business, doing paintings- I've got a stall on Friday, and almost nothing to sell! I know I need to do them, but.. I just... Don't.
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