hesperia
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Post by hesperia on Dec 13, 2013 20:55:22 GMT
Hello there,
i am 27 - and kinda gave the idea of ever be knowing when someone wants to flirt with me- cause i simply dont. Seriousy, i dont know maybe cause my mind is somewhere else or reading simpley gestures is impossible, but fact is- they have to tell me ... yes i like u. no it was not something for eternity.... jt because i tell u now i will call u means i will never call u again...
its not that i want to be rude- but sometimes i wish i have somewhere and LED sign on my head saying- just talk to me honesty, which is kind of flirting as well anyhow...
or did i just not get the banter anywhere in the world really?
what do you think ?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2013 21:11:04 GMT
I'm rubbish too.
If only they went back to bashing you on the head with a club and dragging you by the hair to their cave - at least that'd be clear.
Mind you I'm 6'3" and not much hair and straight - any girl who could reach my head and drag me anywhere would be BUILT
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Post by jan on Dec 14, 2013 10:37:04 GMT
am the opposite - all my life guys have got wrong message and think i'm flirtin with them when i'm just being my ordinary friendly self and women hate me cos think i'm after their bloke and lezbians accuse me of playing games then when they ask me out get accused of - shit forgot what its called now i swear to god i've got early dementia !!! my daughter even says i flirt with her female friends - i think - its just the way of the welsh (just remembered - cock teaser )
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Post by yakness on Dec 14, 2013 23:21:45 GMT
am the opposite - all my life guys have got wrong message and think i'm flirtin with them when i'm just being my ordinary friendly self and women hate me cos think i'm after their bloke and lezbians accuse me of playing games then when they ask me out get accused of - shit forgot what its called now i swear to god i've got early dementia !!! my daughter even says i flirt with her female friends - i think - its just the way of the welsh (just remembered - cock teaser ) I have this too, which was ok before 35,but now (at 40) its gross. Wish I could communicate better!
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Dec 15, 2013 0:27:09 GMT
Many moons ago I worked on reception at a sports centre.....every night without fail the football team captain would come to reception to ask for the ball pump..... I always used to think it was soooo ridiculous that the centre couldn't buy a new football....until I was moved from the reception desk to working in the gym....swiftly followed by their latest member...ready for his induction! Doh!
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Post by contrarymary on Dec 15, 2013 19:19:30 GMT
am the opposite - all my life guys have got wrong message and think i'm flirtin with them when i'm just being my ordinary friendly self and women hate me cos think i'm after their bloke and lezbians accuse me of playing games - i think its just the way of the welsh hey jan - brilliant to see you back - hope you had a fab time in the sun. i don't think it's just the way of the welsh i never seem to know when people are flirting with me - i don't seeem to have the antennae to pick it up but people often think i am flirting with them when i am simply being interested, or polite, or friendly and when i remember to not be too friendly - in case i'm thought to be flirting - i get told i'm being unfriendly clearly there is something wrong i wonder if it goes with the being "too honest" or being "naive" or being what @michael would call "a helpy helperton" and i wonder if it is genetic or nurture because now my daughter is having the same issues
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2013 10:20:23 GMT
people often think i am flirting with them when i am simply being interested, or polite, or friendly and when i remember to not be too friendly - in case i'm thought to be flirting - i get told i'm being unfriendly *Snap! Although I've grown a bit weary of this and become a bit of a grumpy bitch in recent years. Sadly, there are plenty of weirdos out there who enjoy the challenge and i wonder if it is genetic or nurture because now my daughter is having the same issues My mum is the same. She says her mum was too! I personally think people take flirting a bit too seriously. I know when people are just flirting and I think it's harmless as long as it's kept friendly and there's no physical contact or suggestive conversation. I honestly don't flirt deliberately. My dad has observed that we receive a 'superior customer service' when I'm with him, compared to when he's alone! I naively thought my local garage were being truthful when they said they fixed my tires for free because they'd kept me waiting so long!
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Post by Fairy13 on Dec 27, 2013 23:32:43 GMT
Oh! I love you guys!!! The number of times I've come home to my boyfriend, puzzled because of an odd exchange at work.. I'm NOT a flirty person, I don't do euphemisms or anything like that, I have no interest at ALL in flirting with people, I just like to chat. Always have done, and always will! But sometimes people say or do odd things! I was talking to a builder, who after a while gave me a wink, and what I would consider 'a knowing look'.. Which is funny, because I'd like to know whatever the hell it was he thought HE knew! I've analysed several situations and tried so hard to work out WHERE I'm sending out the wrong damn signals. Is it body language? Is it my actual words? Is it just that I like people too much?! On the occasions when this kind of thing has happened, it's driven me slightly mental, trying to work out what I'm doing that's so.. Flirty! And I can't tell when someone is flirting with me. I assume they're just being friendly- and sometimes when someone's just being friendly I assume they're flirting! Haha. Life's crazy! People just don't make sense!
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Post by DKL - darkknightslover on Dec 28, 2013 3:17:16 GMT
Me too!!!!!! Oh my goodness can it lead to trouble as well. My husband went on a long placement out of the country while he was studying, and at the beginning of that I did a lot of volunteering on night shifts for a week. A good old friend of his (who I didn't know very well) had just slit up with his long term girlfriend and he himself is rather good looking and also naturally flirty. We got on really very well but none of it was serious and we both recognised it as being so at the time. I got a little bit over excited at making a new friend who worked weird hours like I did so that I might actually be able to socialise with someone on occasion more often than a couple of times a month.
I invited him round for breakfast and had the intention of inviting one or two other people around as well. At the time we were house sharing with a friend. Well I never got around to inviting anyone else, but the housemate happened to be off work that day. Up turns the hubby's old friend with a pack of sausages. Que conversations with awkward feelings and huge doses of embarrassment, tempered with the presence of a completely innocent housemate (who later laughed at/with me, as did Hubby when I told them about it, housemate recognised that my brain totally didn't work in the same way as most people's and often petted me on the head for it - this was pre-ADHD knowledge days).
Every time I've seen the old friend since, he's been VERY careful about how he phrases things. And friendly enough, but not the riot that was that initial week.
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Post by JJ on Dec 28, 2013 4:18:01 GMT
I remember being about 5 months pregnant and out with my friend buying some new boots. After I'd bought them she looked at me admiringly and said something like 'even pregnant you've still got it' - I was genuinely puzzled and so she explained how I'd been flirting with the sales assistant and I'd totally won him over. I've always hated being pregnant, I've always felt horrendously unattractive and horribly asexual and from 3 months on with them all, I've been suicidally depressed. I absolutely wasn't flirting AT ALL...but apparently I was.... I think as I've got older, i don't come across like this now.... Tho as I've got older I don't go out anymore, not even to the shops much, so maybe that's what's changed me.... Or that I've spent much more of my life depressed or not happy than I used to years ago....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2013 11:48:02 GMT
Me too!!!!!! Oh my goodness can it lead to trouble as well. My husband went on a long placement out of the country while he was studying, and at the beginning of that I did a lot of volunteering on night shifts for a week. A good old friend of his (who I didn't know very well) had just slit up with his long term girlfriend and he himself is rather good looking and also naturally flirty. We got on really very well but none of it was serious and we both recognised it as being so at the time. I got a little bit over excited at making a new friend who worked weird hours like I did so that I might actually be able to socialise with someone on occasion more often than a couple of times a month. I invited him round for breakfast and had the intention of inviting one or two other people around as well. At the time we were house sharing with a friend. Well I never got around to inviting anyone else, but the housemate happened to be off work that day. Up turns the hubby's old friend with a pack of sausages. Que conversations with awkward feelings and huge doses of embarrassment, tempered with the presence of a completely innocent housemate (who later laughed at/with me, as did Hubby when I told them about it, housemate recognised that my brain totally didn't work in the same way as most people's and often petted me on the head for it - this was pre-ADHD knowledge days). Every time I've seen the old friend since, he's been VERY careful about how he phrases things. And friendly enough, but not the riot that was that initial week. Sorry - subject matter plus excellent Freudian spelling mistook - nearly wet myself
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Dec 28, 2013 18:34:52 GMT
I'm pretty sure petting was involved too! and often petted me on the head for it You know what...... I wish I could find someone I FANCIED enough to want to FLIRT with! x
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Post by manson88 on Dec 28, 2013 19:37:20 GMT
Na the thing I like doing is charming the cashier or making eye contact or making eyes at them. When I'm not stressed out shopping that is Sent from my GT-I9300 using proboards
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jan 4, 2014 1:30:14 GMT
awaywiththefairiesCould I please be advised immediately you can think of any of Superman's eligible friends.....
(not so old) lady in distress here who clearly needs assistance crossing roads.....
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Post by Fairy13 on Jan 4, 2014 1:44:54 GMT
Lmao! Of course, FuzzyWuzzy! His best friend is single as it so happens.. x x
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Post by twix on Jan 4, 2014 15:54:17 GMT
When you say a packet of sausages???
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