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Post by Carolan on Feb 20, 2009 19:37:48 GMT
My son was diagnosed at the age of 8, now he is 24 and still struggling thru university. We felt we have done the best for him but it seems that h?e wont complete his uni course as he just cant organise the work load and they just dont get what adhd is ! is this the begining of his life going downhill. We always knew this day would come when he was no longer a child under our protection - but an adult with no safety net at all ! looks like he will have to learn to drive and be a mini cab driver when in fact he is very intelligent. I wonder how many mini cab drivers are actually university professors given the chance !
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Post by sherry on Feb 20, 2009 20:46:16 GMT
The uni should be offering him support he is entitled to it. You need to mention the disability discrimination act. There are plenty on here that will offer you good advice. I had a rough ride in my early adult hood, but I now have a good job so its not all doom and gloom.
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Post by annie on Feb 20, 2009 21:08:53 GMT
Hi carolan
I do truly understand where you're coming from.
I have two children who weren't dx until they were 17 and 15 respectively - way way too late!!
In your situation your son was dx early but i bet a pound to a penny. the support you were offered at the time was way too little.
Did he have his meds continued into adulthood and how difficult was this for you?
Now he's at Uni has he got DSA based on his dx? If not he should apply and get the help he needs to complete his course. Maybe this might help the Uni understand what they have to do, to help him show his true potential - he's entitled to this
Yes it is very tough for our children, but he's got this far with your support and I'm sure you're going to make sure he gets to be where he wants to be.
Let me know what more I can do to help - I've got two struggling through Uni!!
annie
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2009 18:53:04 GMT
How I sympathise.
My daughter has just lost her USB drive!!! with her honours project on.
When she went to uni the local authority assessed her and she was given a computer etc, a voice recorder, extra time for exams, all of which she uses.
She was also allocated a mentor weeekly to help her with organisation which she has never organised!!! typical, but her fault.
She also is allowed money for paper, ink etc, but never claimed it as does not organise receipts.
Could your son study at a local uni so you can help him more?
I wish MD was close to home, but she refused to stay and is a 4 hour drive away, and has survived 4 years so far.
Sometimes you just have to let go a bit and say 'what will be will be.'
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2009 19:50:28 GMT
Hi there, i coach lots of students with adhd in higher eduation with a good degree of success, often study support and learning support staff are not specifically trained to work with adhd adhd students do well with people on board who are 'adhd friendly' not 'adhd toxic' - being a parent coach from a distance is a struggle especially when they run out of credit, loose keys, miss assignments dates etc - i have walked a mile in your shoes believe me!!
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