Hi I understand where your coming from , you got so many years in your life the way you are then it takes such a fast time to get a diagnosis , and then being ADHD you start over thinking what if its wrong.
What you got to think is , take some work I had done a while back on the house ( decking ) I was expecting it to take a week ( large space ) as the bloke next door took around 4 days to do his and it was much smaller then mine.
Mine was done within 2 days and painted on the 3rd , why
Cos the bloke i useed only dose decking nothing more he can do it with his eyes shut and earn money faster ( that's his job and only Job
Same with a good psych they know what there looking for and anb rule things out fast and state if there not sure. I was the same with all school reports , police recored , my child's history ( they was diagnosed 2 years before me this time ) , my mum and partner talking to psych.
They get the idea pretty fast and look at you and your ways. I was also diagnosed as a child and it runs in the family but still think what your thinking at times that's a ADHD brain for you.
The only thing I would agree with the psych is maybe they have there reasons to stays on your meds now ? If they did think it was just traits at first and your showing good signs on your meds ( after you pushed for meds ) why change ? If they only wanted you to do non med treatment ?
Maybe what more you stated in your meeting they think that stimulants might not it be right for you.
My pysch said they don't normaly put people with anxiety on them until that's treated. But as I had such a hard time on anxiety meds they did not work for me. Then as we talked more they belived my anxiety was due to my ADHD thoughts and ways they wanted ( pushed ) for them.
And they was right , for me each week my anxiety gets better and better and is pretty much no more. And your saying you had good results on your type of meds.
Remember meds are meant to make you feel normal not like your on something or not like you feel its them running you.
A few weeks in you should just be getting on and not thinking about them Then at some point of the day you realise they have turn off lol
On fast release mph and concerta I have never felt like I am full of energy and rushing around , I'm calm , less angry , think before I speak , and am not 100% mph no more and take in things others say , when meds are off or when I wake up I'm the opposite to them things as that's my ADHD ways.
Try and trust your pysch and there ways they in most cases know what there talking about.
You read the same things on the net all the time about how people have now tried there 3rd or 4th pysch as they all have said they don't behave ADHD !! Then them people say " it took 15 mins or up to hour to say I don't have it ( ADHD ) " well same things gos there maybe they don't most psychs know what to look for and there symptoms might be so nothing eles but they almost want ADHD or hope they have it they belive it so much as they spent so much time reading and reading online.
Try and have a little faith in your psych and your diagnosis you must of give signs and ticked the right boxes.