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Post by surprised on Aug 20, 2014 8:52:47 GMT
Hi everyone
I know that abusive/difficult childhood isnt the reason for adhd/add, but im curious how many of us did have traumatic childhoods.
I certainly did. My dad is extremely verbally/emotionally abusive and also (although never to me) violent. More hitting 'things' though. Although he and my brother used to have terrible physical fights. My btother is extreamly physically aggressive. Far more than my dad. Has punched me on several occassions, on one he totally bent my car key as i was opening my car door. The punch to my arm was so violent my key was almost 90 degrees. This was over A CAN OF COKE. 2 days ago after putting up with yet more critisism, i closed to the on him and walked away. I heard a massive kick or punch to the gate, carried on walking just in case he decided to follow me.
My brother was classed as 'hyperactive'. Now i know about adhd, clearly thats what he had although it wasnt called that then.
My dad definately has psychological issues, although i have no idea what they are.
Anyway, sorry for the waffle! Just curious.....
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Post by surprised on Aug 20, 2014 8:54:08 GMT
I should add i havent been diagnosed yet, i have my appt early sept... But i have pretty much all the signs and symptoms for it.
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Post by blaze on Aug 20, 2014 12:01:27 GMT
I had a v abusive childhood
There is considerabley higher rates of adhd in those who have abusive childhoods. there are many reasons for this
Children who have been through extreeme trauma, especialy v young, can present v similarly to kids w adhd (theres cross over elements similar to pts hypervigilance and dissociation that can look alot like adhd symptoms) and there has been the diagnosis of develomental trauma disorder created to cover children who present as adhd due to trauma.bevause this needs.different treatment and.management (ofcourse its totaly podsible to have both)
Children whp have symptoms of abuse or.neglect will more commonly be brought to the attension of camhs and have assessments for other problems (especialy true for children w attachment disorders
While a genetic predisposition to adhd is believed to be the most significant factor gwnes often need to be 'switched on' or activated by oth er factors, tge most common assosiazed.w this for developmental disorders are birth truama or biological factors whilst in utero severe early trauma or neglect is a possibility (i believe alan schores work covers this) and ofcourse its reasonable that sm cases of birth trauma or in uttero problems will be increased risks for households where dysfunction is the norm. babys brains are only 25% developed at fullterm delivery and theres a.huge amount that goes on w the.frontal lobe in the first yr. br] There is also sm litterature that suggests that kids who have adhd are at higher risk of abuse also for.a number of reasons.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 14:25:59 GMT
Yep, so did I. Picked on at school, juxtaposed with feelings of dread and terrible Angst about going home to a war zone. Thought dark thoughts early on as a kid. Suicide was never very far from my mind in those days. The main perpetrator in my case is still alive but I don't think it appropriate to call their cards even with this imposed anonymity. I'm trying to forgive them because they probably had/have exactly what I've got. Justice isn't always about blame, but it's about seeing things for what they truly are in a much wider context. So really, as an agnostic victim and perpetrator (we all heap suffering unto others in varying degrees), I'm often looking to the heavens (symbolically of course) in complete and utter dismay at what this is existence is really all about.
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Post by unohoncho on Aug 20, 2014 15:41:14 GMT
I had the best loving parents I could have wished for as a child, my Dad however suffered from manic-depression and was an in/out patient at a psychiatric unit for 20 years, like others here he'd been sexually abused as a child. Apart from suicidal thoughts and attempts, my Dad was relatively sane, others on the ward weren't and I suppose it was difficult to process from the age of 9 year old why your Dad is in a place with people who aren't in any way the same as him, some poor souls there were extremely disturbed.
Dealing with his suicide attempts and cleaning up the physical mess afterwards just had to be buried in the back of my mind as long as I knew he was still alive and back on the mend... Never to this day have I ever blamed him for what we went through, I'd have him back in a second
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Post by andres on Aug 28, 2014 0:14:19 GMT
Yep, loads of rubbish as a kid.
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Post by mighty on Sept 1, 2014 20:03:59 GMT
Yes, more thoughts later
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2014 13:12:30 GMT
Apart from suicidal thoughts and attempts, my Dad was relatively sane,..... I don't see suicidal thoughts necessarily as a sign of insanity. I'd like to discuss why you think it might be, if indeed you do.
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Post by unohoncho on Sept 2, 2014 13:43:20 GMT
For what purpose ? A debate ?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2014 13:49:37 GMT
I'm just interested in why you might think suicide defaults to insanity? My view? Depends on a whole host of circumstances and scenarios. Even someone defined as clinically insane might have a clear moment of sanity in deciding to end his/her life for often very practical reasons. Conversely, a normally sane person might have a "moment of madness" and do something entirely out of character.
I think this is part of the problem as to why we, as ADHDers, often get pigeon-holed by an often hostile NT world. I sometimes think we have to look beyond the perceived norms in behaviour to get to the crux of who we truly are.
Just my thoughts, nothing critical.
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Post by shapes on Sept 2, 2014 16:03:11 GMT
Is "insane" a clinical word these days anyway?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2014 16:52:48 GMT
I'd have thought not. I would hope not.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2014 17:52:21 GMT
"By 2030, depression will outpace cancer, stroke, war, accidents as world's leading cause of disability and death" huff.to/VXZBA8
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Post by mypineappledream on Sept 8, 2014 23:50:16 GMT
My brother would beat me up for no reason and screaming was my only defence, then my dad would beat me for screaming, so double beatings for me... I would see my dad every other week because he worked. My mom would work away a few times a week and when she was "home" she would be in the stables. Can't really remember there being anyone "around" when I was a kid. I guess I only had my brother, but he was aggressive and violent so when I was ten I started spending all my free time at a riding school, 7 days a week, I would sleep over there on the weekends as much as the owner aloud because I didn't want to go home. In school kids picked on me a lot and I was alone a lot, but at least in the stables I had some friends and the horses of course.
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Post by pprincess33 on Sept 18, 2014 15:46:57 GMT
I was abused too. By an older brother and my dad. My mum killed herself when I was 7. All pretty messed up for a child.
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