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Post by carly31 on Aug 26, 2014 23:07:16 GMT
So, I have started dating again after my adhd diagnosis...
...I went on a date 2 weeks ago but never heard back from them...
Now, I think where I went wrong was being to intense with my eagerness to create something!! I got a bit carried away with organising the second date. The first one went really well! I realised straight away that it was too soon and probably came across really needy. I'm not needy, I just got overexcited!! so (for the first time ever) I've just waited... and waited...
Thought it'd be nice to have a thread to share stories about dating blunders?
This one is pretty average on the blunder scale, but I'm hoping that others can sympathise with the difficulties adhd brings to a new relationship? It's painful being rejected and hard to separate the 'self' from the adhd symptoms especially when you first meet a stranger!
Is it something you bring up early on? "sorry, I know that I probably look completely insane by getting really theatrical in my story telling, but I'm just really really excited, I'm not insane though, I just have adhd, which means that these are probably my more endearing (eccentric) qualities.... I have already planned our future together but I can guarantee that in a few weeks I will have calmed down. Once the initial excitement of first meeting you wears off I'll be relativity normal on the level of interest and probably be obsessed with something else by then anyway... I can assure you that going out with me will be 'interesting' to say the least..." ;-)
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Post by mrsironside on Aug 27, 2014 6:25:58 GMT
Argh that is ringing so many bells! I am messaging a guy who thought/thinks I am great. Lovely chats THEN I meet him in person for a date and manage to get so overexcited I balls it all up by blurting out I like him in a really dumb school girl way and generally being a wee bit boisterous(!) cue spending the next god knows how long on message afterwards apologising for being an idiot! Then repeat that situation another couple of times. He has cooled right off at the mo but is still chatting as I think I was way too full on initially but like you say I will be all over something else in time and wonder what the hell was so fascinating about this guy. The things people say they really like about me are all ADHD things like impulsivity and creativity and I can be funny when I am on a roll but damn those poor social skills when it comes to actual delicate situations! I don't know when is right to tell someone. I guess if I had been upfront about my ADHD and how it manifests itself I could have avoided a lot of heartache. Hey, at least when we say to someone 'you are the most important thing in the world' it is actually true...for at least a little while!
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