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Post by mypineappledream on Oct 9, 2014 22:11:54 GMT
I have a lifelong obsession with tv-shows, usually there is one at the time that is my primary focus. Right now that show is Arrow, not just now actually; it's been going on for the entire summer. I can't wait to wake up in the morning to read fan fiction, me reading? I haven’t really been able to read since I was around 10, now I read chapter after chapter of never ending crazy stories. Hang out day and night on Tumblr and Twitter trying to get the latest scoop... Okay, just lost focus there for a minute.
When I talk to people who claim they are tv-nerds I start of slow talking about characters or big plotlines, but then as soon as I get a response I just blurt out all my theories, details and information, that’s when I see the person I'm talking to start twisting awkwardly in their seat looking at me like I'm crazy. I try to tone it down once I realize they are not at my "level", but that’s hard I want to really nerd out with someone...
I just wrote on facebook to the only person I know who watches arrow (she is also a huge tv-nerd), according to my log I haven’t talked to her in 4 years and I just blurted a bunch of crazy on her. First she seemed to keep up and then I realised she doesn't know as much as me. Maybe I should just stick to my crazy Tumblr peeps instead, I'm sure they can handle some crazy. Where does one find the Tumblr people in real life?
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Post by supine on Oct 10, 2014 20:18:24 GMT
What are the odds of finding someone as nerdy as yourself? Combine this with the odds of someone being your kind of nerd in *exactly* the same subject, at *exactly* the same time. I don't know, I think you might be asking for a bit too much. You never know, it might happen, but I wouldn't bet on it. I've had the same issue on occasion. That glazed look that starts to possess the face in front of you, and you're sat there thinking "bloody hell, I haven't even started yet!? Where are all the people that use their brains?". I've stopped talking to people about my interests - no-one else is interested. I try and take an interest in their interests, and not only do I find out that they don't really know very much about their own interests, they're also not very interesting subjects - you can't win
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Post by mypineappledream on Oct 16, 2014 17:43:00 GMT
I try and take an interest in their interests, and not only do I find out that they don't really know very much about their own interests, they're also not very interesting subjects - you can't win I think you hit the nail with that one, that is so true. It's like Wil Wheaton says; "Being a nerd is not about what you love, it's about how much you love it".
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Post by firstinflight on Oct 20, 2014 20:54:27 GMT
I try and take an interest in their interests, and not only do I find out that they don't really know very much about their own interests, they're also not very interesting subjects - you can't win Don't you think that's a little condescending though? Even though they're not as knowledgeable as you'd expect, it's probably still something that's important to them. We all engage with the things in our lives in different ways, and I don't think any of us have the right to say our own way is objectively best.
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Post by mypineappledream on Oct 20, 2014 22:03:28 GMT
But as someone who is desperately passionate about things I would like to find friends who are also desperately passionate about things, even if it’s not the same things. All of my friends have interests and I do pay attention and listen, but I just wish I found me some really nerdy people who obsess about things and wont judge me for being this way. It’s not about judging others for not being nerdy, the conversation is about it being difficult to find people who are.
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Post by supine on Oct 21, 2014 8:52:12 GMT
Don't you think that's a little condescending though? Even though they're not as knowledgeable as you'd expect, it's probably still something that's important to them. We all engage with the things in our lives in different ways, and I don't think any of us have the right to say our own way is objectively best. I re-read my post and whilst I agree that I put across my opinion that I might not necessarily be very interested in the same things as them, I don't think I said that that was not acceptable in any way. I will accept that I was guilty of generalizing however
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Post by shiveringsky on Oct 21, 2014 9:44:43 GMT
I do think that's what the internet is good for. Because there is such a thing as over-indulging in your individual nerdery and the computer at least has off switch. Maybe it's a silver lining to have people who pull you back a little. The first time I met someone who was as loopy as me and into the same form of musical madness and adventure was amazing. We moved in together within a week of meeting, over-over-over-overindulged in videos and chatter and erm... well bad fan-fiction (GREAT FAN FICTION!) about particular bands. Ended up writing a one issue magazine just to arrange interviews with as many people connected as we could. Anyway in the end... too much of a good thing drove us both to the worse side of our conflicting madnesses. It wasn't pretty for us or any of our less obsessed friends. So...
Ach... I'd do it again. In a heartbeat. So hang in there. These things appear when you're looking the other way. Just if you ever get your wish you really have to be careful nto to drown each other in knowledge because it is so easy to do and so easy to think 'but we're special.' it wont apply. In my experience... it almost always does if you don't learn to pull back.
Oh and another thought... maybe you can organise something. Like an event. Pull in people with that special nerd factor. Share your knowledge. Host a pub quiz or something about it. If you're looking to find people who know as much as you then a competitive edge is one way to pull them out of their armchairs. Maybe.
Sorry. Rabbiting...
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Post by firstinflight on Nov 1, 2014 0:06:34 GMT
Sorry, my last post came off way more harsh than i intended. Just trying to point out that sometimes we put these barriers betwen ourselves when there's far more things that connect us all than separate us...
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