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Post by mypineappledream on Oct 16, 2014 6:56:30 GMT
I've worked so hard on bettering my social skills in the last year and since I moved back to this city 3 months ago I haven't had a single quiet day. Not that I go out every day, but the texts, snapchats and facebook stuff I haven't had a day off for this long of a time ever. It's great in that I clearly have learned and do better socially, but I'm so spent. My brain is breaking. I've barely eaten or slept, it's just too much. Not sure how to take a day off, can I tell people not to contact me for a day or two, write on facebook that I need a break? Is that okay?
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Post by Bee on Oct 16, 2014 14:24:15 GMT
Personally, I just ignore people until I feel like I can answer them.
If I get a text or FB notification when I want some peace, I'll read it, and unless it's important I will just try to remember to reply later or tomorrow or whenever.
I might say something like 'I'm sorry, I don't feel too great, I'll answer later' or similar, but mostly I just leave it until a later date!
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Post by mypineappledream on Oct 16, 2014 16:27:01 GMT
I made this rule, because I was afraid of getting totally isolated, that every time someone writes me my quiet time is over, regardless if it has been 2 hours or 2 weeks. My brother doesn't do that and I can see how worried people get and how it's a bad idea for everyone when he does that (disappears for weeks)He loses his friends real easy like that. I just don't know how to find the balance of having people in your life, but still have time to cool off the brain. (note that I grew up with parents who weren't around/doesn't care/never calls and a brother who stayed in his room). My friends are always important and takes priority over everything because they are my family, I don't care if it is important or just a smiley face, I need to answer. What if they go through something and I miss it?
I just got a flashback to high school were my then best friend had a lot of struggles and really depended on me, I didn't know how much until one week when I had taken a quiet week and stayed home, on the Friday I got a call, she had tried to commit suicide. I feel so guilty, like it was my fault for not being there. I guess I always will and just now I figured out the root of this problem. Damn writing really is therapy.
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Post by Bee on Oct 16, 2014 17:40:28 GMT
Well if your way works for you, that's what matters.
I don't think you should text individual people and say 'please don't text me for a couple of days' unless you know them really well.. I imagine it could unintentionally offend people.
But maybe a gentle message on FB could be a good way to go! X x
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