seph
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Post by seph on Apr 15, 2015 18:24:25 GMT
Hi guys.
I am an adult with ADHD,I always think I knew I had it but was finally diagnosed at the beginning of the year. It's been an interesting few months trying to get my head around it all! One issue I'm having a big issue with is defensiveness in argumearguments. I've been trying to read the book 'you mean I'm not lazy, stupid or crazy' it is a good book but I'm struggling to find the answers I'm looking for.
Whenever I have an argument with my wife, I could easily resolve the situation much quicker if I apologised but in the heat of the arguments my brain gets clouded and I literally HAVE to get my point across, I take absolutely everything said to the core and turn words around in my head, for example "You didn't change the bin like you said you would when you got in!" my interpretation of words would come back to "Oh for fucks sake you've messed it up AGAIN!!!" and that's not what's being said at all....Then I get really angry and hunt for arguments. I'm struggling with ways to try and actually process the things that are really being said and stay calm and react rationally.
If anyone else can elaborate or help please feel free.
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chrispy
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Post by chrispy on Apr 16, 2015 10:26:09 GMT
That's just plain low self esteem.
It's hard to imagine that anybody who has ADHD is not going to have low self esteem, but it is something you can work on and improve.
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Post by contrarymary on Apr 16, 2015 15:22:05 GMT
hi seph and welcome to the forum three quick ideas: 1. there are quite a few books on adhd and relationships; i wonder whether you might find something helpful in one of these more specific books. 2. there have been some previous conversations on the forum about similar subjects eg arguments in relationships. perhaps it might be worth running a specifc search (with the Search function at the top of the page) using particular key words? 3. there's also a fair amount of overlap between ADHD and ASD, and needing to explain the point you wanted to make is something i've read about on ASD forums too eg wrongplanet.net/hope there's something helpful there
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