Post by nolongeralone on May 9, 2015 5:48:58 GMT
Hi! I soooo need to type all this to get it out of my head (I always say that in life but it never seems to clear that vital bit of space in my head that I hope it will). For those who haven't met me in the intro thread, a brief update before I type: I'm a Mum with a 6 year old girl. School think she has an attention problem, but the things they see as not mainstream, are traits of my own so we have been arguing for 6 months about what is "normal". I looked up add/adhd etc and finally feel like I have "come home" and found people like me. So, I went to school yesterday with a weeks worth of reading, blogs, forums and 2 books (when I research, I research to the death) and the meeting went well.
I'm sorry if Im babbling, I am not good at putting down all the stuff that is whizzing around my head. This time the head teacher wasn't there so the meeting was totally different to how they have been for 6 months. I heard these magic words "I DON'T think your daughter is naughty at all. I know the head does, but she doesn't understand her like I do".
When I went in to the library for the meeting, I pulled my chair out and it knocked down a book. I put it on the shelf behind but noticed about 6 books all wonky and piled up. I sat down with my back to the shelf. The teacher started talking and within a minute said "Do you want to sort those books out?". Oh the relief! I did it and sat back down again. She said "What you just did is EXACTLY what sort of issues we have with your little girl. She won't concentrate until she has put something back that is out of place and I've learned there is no point in trying until she has sorted it!". She said she could see how agitated I was until it had been done. I said that its because it isyet another bit of information going around my head and I can't concentrate. We had a heart to heart and I told her all about myself and how I have been defensive because I couldn't see a difference in her likethey could. Now I've read about ADHD/ADD that I can see what they mean. However, it meant addresssing myself too.
She really was wonderful. She said that she can see that my little one gets anxious and has to go and clean, or tidy or something when she can't concentrate. (They have big issues about her disappearing to the toilets for ages and ages). Originally the head would phone and moan at me that Charlotte had been blocking toilets and locking the doors etc. Now they can see it how I see it. She goes in there to escape, and cleans. She uses so much tissue that she blocks the toilet. She knows when toilets are blocked, the caretaker locks the door. Her teacher has finally connected all the dots. What amazed me was to learn that the headteacher who believes everything is behavioural and can be sorted by detentions......is the Special Needs representative for the school!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, she showed me the techniques they are trying with her and I shared some things that I have learned to cope with life too. They are giving her a little pocket version of the timetable for the day, phrased differently. On the wall it says "Registration, Maths, Break time etc". Hers will say "Put belongings in drawers, sit on carpet, go to desk etc". I've also been told she can take something with her to fiddle with. (She noticed that I have to fiddle and I said it is a way of switching off the part of me that needs to move about, so the brain side of me can try and focus on her). I feel relieved that we are finally working together and are on the same page.
So, now we have to go through the 3 month observation period before they can call someone in. I'm now going to go to the GP armed with the list of observations they have so far.
Thank you for reading all that. :-)
I'm sorry if Im babbling, I am not good at putting down all the stuff that is whizzing around my head. This time the head teacher wasn't there so the meeting was totally different to how they have been for 6 months. I heard these magic words "I DON'T think your daughter is naughty at all. I know the head does, but she doesn't understand her like I do".
When I went in to the library for the meeting, I pulled my chair out and it knocked down a book. I put it on the shelf behind but noticed about 6 books all wonky and piled up. I sat down with my back to the shelf. The teacher started talking and within a minute said "Do you want to sort those books out?". Oh the relief! I did it and sat back down again. She said "What you just did is EXACTLY what sort of issues we have with your little girl. She won't concentrate until she has put something back that is out of place and I've learned there is no point in trying until she has sorted it!". She said she could see how agitated I was until it had been done. I said that its because it isyet another bit of information going around my head and I can't concentrate. We had a heart to heart and I told her all about myself and how I have been defensive because I couldn't see a difference in her likethey could. Now I've read about ADHD/ADD that I can see what they mean. However, it meant addresssing myself too.
She really was wonderful. She said that she can see that my little one gets anxious and has to go and clean, or tidy or something when she can't concentrate. (They have big issues about her disappearing to the toilets for ages and ages). Originally the head would phone and moan at me that Charlotte had been blocking toilets and locking the doors etc. Now they can see it how I see it. She goes in there to escape, and cleans. She uses so much tissue that she blocks the toilet. She knows when toilets are blocked, the caretaker locks the door. Her teacher has finally connected all the dots. What amazed me was to learn that the headteacher who believes everything is behavioural and can be sorted by detentions......is the Special Needs representative for the school!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, she showed me the techniques they are trying with her and I shared some things that I have learned to cope with life too. They are giving her a little pocket version of the timetable for the day, phrased differently. On the wall it says "Registration, Maths, Break time etc". Hers will say "Put belongings in drawers, sit on carpet, go to desk etc". I've also been told she can take something with her to fiddle with. (She noticed that I have to fiddle and I said it is a way of switching off the part of me that needs to move about, so the brain side of me can try and focus on her). I feel relieved that we are finally working together and are on the same page.
So, now we have to go through the 3 month observation period before they can call someone in. I'm now going to go to the GP armed with the list of observations they have so far.
Thank you for reading all that. :-)