ladybug
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2015 8:51:52 GMT
Can you help?
Having a massively tough time right now. Feel like I'm barely coping.
My partner is sick of living with me and things at an all time low. I have tried to explain to him about adhd but what I really need to find is a really good description of what adhd is really like, not a list of symptoms or a whole book but something that really captures the essence of it as I need him to understand what it all means.
Any links to a good article/blog/book extract would be massively appreciated
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sunride
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Post by sunride on May 14, 2015 12:06:28 GMT
I've just started reading Smart but Stuck by Thomas E Brown. So,far it's incredible, like it's written about me! I'd highly recommend it to anyone, I just wish my partner would read it. Tbh the first couple of chapters should be enough for others to understand
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Post by Mufasa on May 17, 2015 10:33:06 GMT
Dr Russell Barkley on executive functions free lecture on YouTube
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mrsh
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Post by mrsh on May 18, 2015 16:10:11 GMT
found this helpful to explain some aspects to my husband..
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Post by bullettrain on May 25, 2015 13:20:49 GMT
Really wish I hadn't watched this can't get those annoying sounds out my head now.
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Post by chaoticwitch on May 25, 2015 14:22:11 GMT
Really wish I hadn't watched this can't get those annoying sounds out my head now. Feeling exactly the same!!! Though I think there are a few people I may show that to.
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ladybug
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Post by ladybug on May 26, 2015 12:56:23 GMT
Thanks all! sunride I checked out the first few chapters online and it looks good, thanks Totally couldn't watch that ADHD Simulator, made me feeling like clawing my eyes out! Have downloaded the documentary 'ADD & Loving It' - gonna watch and report back soon.....
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journey48
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Post by journey48 on May 30, 2015 23:07:42 GMT
I dunno if I'm lazy but I only watched one minute of that vid. I try to do a task and my mind is always on something else. Tedious jobs were a nightmare, I would make loads of errors. hate routine hate boredom most peoples convos are about games, tv, other stuff I just find boring.
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Post by Niknak77 on Jun 1, 2015 7:57:35 GMT
“It is growing up different. It is extreme hypersensitivity. It is a bottomless pit of feeling you're failing, but three days later, you feel you can do anything, only to end the week where you began. It is not learning from your mistakes. It is distrusting people because you have been hurt enough. It is moments of knowing your pain is self inflicted, followed by blaming the world. It is wanting to listen, but you just can’t anymore because your life has been to full of people that have judged you. It is fighting to be right; so for once in your life someone will respect and hear you for a change. It is a tiring life of endless games with people, in order to seek stimulus. It is a hyper focus, so intense about what bothers you, that you can’t pay attention to anything else, for very long. It is a never-ending routine of forgetting things. It is a boredom and lack of contentment that keeps you running into the arms of anyone that has enough patience to stick around. It wears you out. It wears everyone out. It makes you question God’s plan. You misinterpret everything, and you allow your creative mind to fill the gaps with the same old chains that bind you. It narrows your vision of who you let into your life. It is speaking and acting without thinking. It is disconnecting from the ones you love because your mind has taken you back to what you can’t let go of. It is risk taking, thrill seeking and moodiness that never ends. You hang your hope on “signs” and abandon reason for remedy. It is devotion to the gifts and talents you have been given, that provide temporary relief. It is the latching onto the acceptance of others---like a scared child abandoned on a sidewalk. It is a drive that has no end, and without “focus” it takes you nowhere. It is the deepest anger when someone you love hurts you, and the greatest love when they don't. It is beauty when it has purpose. It is agony when it doesn’t. It is called Attention Deficit Disorder.”
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Post by Clubby on Jun 16, 2015 22:41:45 GMT
For me its like being on a magical adventure through space discovering all sorts of new planets and worm holes. Then I come back to planet earth and am blasted with - "What have you been doing"; "Where have you been" etc etc. I say, "Haven't been doing anything". "That figures" they say. Then a few hours later they discover the required job of the day is complete after all. "I can't believe it." they say, "How did you do that in such a short time?". "Don't know, just did it" says I " and thanks to the ADHD fairy dust" The ADHD brain may be incompatible with the mainstream world but it does have its uses and I'm just beginning to figure out what these are. Its something to do with subconscious systemic thought as opposed to conscious systematic thought.
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Post by manson88 on Jun 17, 2015 14:04:26 GMT
Small paragraphs would be nice makes reading more enjoyable.
Thanks folks, manson88
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Post by Clubby on Jun 17, 2015 17:18:30 GMT
Sorry manson88.
Can't help experimenting.
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Post by manson88 on Jun 17, 2015 20:48:30 GMT
I just want you to know I would like to read your contribution towards the forum.
But due to my dyslexia I'm put of with big blocks of writing, it gets tiresome reading something 6 times - losing my place cause the lines merge or a distraction outside.
Between my eye strain & concentration blocks of writing are difficult. Just because someone is inconsiderate the way they are writing.
Just remember dyslexia is a cormorbidity of Adhd..
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Post by Clubby on Jun 18, 2015 13:53:06 GMT
Once more, I am sorry for making my thoughts difficult to read.
We are asked for "A good description of living with adhd"
My experience is that adhd is intelligence wrapped up in inconsiderate packaging.
Living with adhd is about living with the frustration that your abilities are constantly being blocked by the chaos that ensues when your manner collides with normal accepted practice.
I pray I have wrapped this better.
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Post by JJ on Jun 19, 2015 0:33:54 GMT
We are asked for "A good description of living with adhd" My experience is that adhd is intelligence wrapped up in inconsiderate packaging. Living with adhd is about living with the frustration that your abilities are constantly being blocked by the chaos that ensues when your manner collides with normal accepted practice.. Very good - I like that description
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thunkpad
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Post by thunkpad on Jul 4, 2015 4:40:50 GMT
Melissa Orlov's "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" is an excellent book on how ADHD can place a major strain on relationships. If you both read the first chapter you may recognise yourselves and realise that the problems you have are with ADHD rather than each other.
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Post by clubby on Jul 13, 2015 20:08:28 GMT
My experience of adhd is bit like being partially sighted but instead of being a visual problem, it is my mind that cannot
see. I go through the day blind to necessary routines that others see approaching. Sometimes my mind vision is hazy and
somtimes it is like tunnel vision. Sometimes my mind vision is peripheral and it wanders away off track to what it sees.
I challenge anyone to focus on the dark when such beautiful sights lie in the wings.
I find it easier to live in the moment as long as I have satisfied myself that I have no pending commitments, otherwise
I am constantly on edge, afraid of all the things I cannot see in my mind, coming flying at me out of the dark.
I cannot relax because my mind has to keep moving to see the whole picture.
I do not mean to be inconsiderate, I just keep bumping into things or pass them blindly.
Does anyone else feel like this?
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