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Post by Mufasa on May 22, 2015 16:41:26 GMT
Hi I've been unemployed for over a year ,I quit and went on the sick
I have been up and down with depression and have very low motivation some days and complete loss of will power because I can't focus ,
I get wee bursts of motivation like once a month, because i see if I don't get anything done I'm screwed ; but very quickly over the course of a week it's gone ;I get drained stressed depressed and resort back to my old ways and not much gets done ,it's because I have my doubts about going back to work ,even though I have to,
my mind is really putting up a barrier against working again,
Anyone else unemployed , what do you do all day,?
some days I get stuff done but the majority I have such low motivation, to get anything of any real impact for my future done , I do push myself but I'm getting stressed with this chronic cycle , I want to get back to work but don't , simply because my ADHD symptoms make work extremely mentally physically draining and It is so demoralising to allways be called up on my inability to remember tasks on the job or just being disorganised whatever ADHD symptom is dominating that day ,
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Post by bullettrain on May 24, 2015 0:26:24 GMT
You need something to fill your day in and give yourself a reason to get up in the morning.
Join a gym, if your not confident enough, do things like push ups, sit ups etc in the house...basically excercise using your own body weight.
Then get yourself outside and when your ready....gym time. Think free endorphins!!
If your physically not capable of this, upskill your current qualifications...this is never a bad thing.
The first few days of breaking the rut your in will seem mentally impossible, but just keep reminding yourself that you will forever be stuck in this loop until you make a change in your life.
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Post by contrarymary on May 24, 2015 11:16:45 GMT
I'm sorry you are struggling. For me, I think the key is structure and routine. This is true for anyone with ADHD but doubly so when external structure disappears. grow a structure that works for you, get into a routine, find ways to make yourself feel externally accountable - eg volutnary work doing something that you love or enjoy or feel passionate about, working with people/animals/environment that needs you, with people you respect so that you know you will make an effort rather than letting them down. use the skills that you have - maybe in the voluntary work, maybe in another way. there are a gazillion ways to get involved with things that spark a passion, or with organisations that could really benefit from having you around sharing your skills, particularly at this time of huge cuts. don't make it completely und0able, or it will loom and you will avoid it. finding tha particular balance of accountability and possibility is an art in itself. be gentle with yourself, practice self-compassion. maybe listen to/read one of these talks on how to stop beating yourself up. try starting a gentle routine for your day - a get up time, a morning routine, an evening/night time routine. when you are tempted to stray from it, simply tell yourself "this is what I do". it's amazing how that works. I hope there is something in here that works for you. Good luck - keep us posted
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