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Post by blaze on Sept 11, 2015 12:13:20 GMT
Hfdt laugh and stare
(I guess it may not have been aimed at my girls but there have been so so many people gawping at our difficulties getting to school, melt downs, lack of uniformbim sure at least some were being total cunts at our expense)
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2015 15:31:10 GMT
Vile disrespectful gits. Chin up, and that is not a platitude, but because we know that you and your kids are awesome and I am getting hfdt on your behalf. xxx
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Post by vagueandrandom on Sept 30, 2015 18:20:53 GMT
HFDT!! I've only seen 2 ADHD specialists - the one who diagnosed me (and then left) and a 30 min follow-up with the new one. I just got a copy of the letter he sent to my GP. He agrees that I meet the criteria for ADHD, but says that it is not a sufficient explanation of my difficulties as I have been treated for complex depressive issues in the past (no shit!) He kind of implies a few times that I've been 'looking for a cause/explanation' for my problems as I had an ASD assessment last year. He concludes "However hers is not a straightforward case of uncomplicated ADHD" Is ADHD ever 'uncomplicated?' Can you not have complications caused by not being diagbosed for 48 years? I have never wanted to fit in and be like everyone else, but after speaking with all you lovely folks here, I have never felt more 'typical' and 'uncomplicated' This is a man who works for SLAM! He recommends that I'm referred to ADHD specialist when I have moved, which is something. Rant over - it made me really angry
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2015 7:59:36 GMT
How fucking dare they make me be born with a condition that no one fucking treats, understands or recognizes. Can I swap it for something else? It's shit. And that's all there is to it. Also concerta doesn't really work for me. Strattera was worse. How fucking dare they. I think I'll write to my mp. That's what people do when they are pissed off. Hmmm I often read that we adhd people just need a good kick up the arse. I am going to try to get a kicking today just to double check I am not missing something. Maybe if i combine a kicking, a strattera and a concerta....
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Post by shiveringsky on Oct 1, 2015 14:14:11 GMT
How bloody unlucky does someone have to be to be surrounded by people in denial of their own ridiculous brainfarts?
OK. OK so my 'boss' (hate that word. Nobody is my boss obviously. Not even me, unfortunately :/) is so ridiculously ADHD (to my unprofessional mind who cannot obviously diagnose such a thing). And I wouldnt mind Buuuut she is a pain in the arse to work for. Bright storms of ideas which we have to act on yesterday and then 2 weeks later, she will look at me one brow cocked, slightly frowning. Cant tell if it's "You're a moron" or "You're batshit and making things up." I'm not even sure it matters. The point is she doesn't recall having ever suggested such a thing ever. But I have to field calls daily from people she's promised the arse of the stars and moon to only for it to pop right out the other ear again. And this eats into the time I have to do all the jobs which she's forgotten to give me the data I need to do in the first place. And dont get me started on when I then forget the stuff she forgets and the whole world unravels.
She is a very interesting woman and I like her as a person but bleeding Nora, Joseph and the Saints, being ADHD and working for a maybe totally in denial ADHDer with unrealistic expectations is driving me feckin demented.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2015 19:08:11 GMT
Aye pelargonium, we walk a lonely tightrope. I hate the way you have been treated there. Not fair at all.
A two week gap in meds is dangerous!
I feel the medical people( I got no other word for them) really don't appreciate how dangerous adhd meds are, not so if you don't run out, but if you do, potential for feeling pretty god dam ill.
Hope you manage to sort this out, although they should be helping you! not you helping them help you!
Grrr
They just don't get it at all
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2015 22:08:04 GMT
It does. It is so much more than a minor inconvenience.
I am panicky for you!
urgh!
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Post by clubby on Oct 20, 2015 19:17:54 GMT
What is it with the establishment. Have they gone totally bonkers or are they just cold bastards.
My house sale is in a chain of 5. My buyers built a room in their garage to care for their 90 year mother. It was all done
to the building standards of the time it was built 4 years ago,but never signed off. Planners now want them to upgrade it to
current standards which means widening the doors by 3 mm. Architect is on hols for 2 weeks then planners won't respond for
another 6 weeks. In the meantime 4 families are up shits Creek and at least one of the 94 year old parents is going to be
in b & b over Christmas. I think it is absolutely disgusting how our planners behave. How fucking dare they destroy
lives with inappropriate tick box legislation! Aghhhhhhhhh!
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Post by vagueandrandom on Oct 20, 2015 23:11:31 GMT
I didn't even manage to read to the end of what you said!! clubbyIt's all the establishment!!!!!!!! Sorry for language, but they all seem to be FUCKING BOLLOCKS AND SHIT AND HELLFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BOLLOCKS to a the stupid 'official' 'legal' tossers who want to hold up a relatively 'normal' legal issues and WANT TO MAKE ME PAY. . . I actually don't care about the money, and just WANT TO START MY NEW LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm now in limbo and am going out of my mind, living at my parents' Love and peace xx
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2015 8:48:00 GMT
This is why I don't believe in Mortgages and home ownership in general.
It is very stressful and only the Banks win in the end.
Is a home truly ever yours ?
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Post by clubby on Oct 21, 2015 12:32:05 GMT
My perfect house is a shed in a field, some trees by the door and a wooden floor.
A wood burning stove would warm the soul, getting rid of the petty would be my goal.
No banks nor insurance would waste my life, no arrogant neighbours to give me strife.
Cars would be banished, no stuff to remember - oh blast the mot's up in November!
My house would reflect the way that I am, mostly in chaos and always off plan.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2015 13:10:15 GMT
Perfect Clubby.
I haven't got an ideal, I just know the current system benefits the very few and hurts the very many.
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Post by blaze on Oct 22, 2015 7:09:10 GMT
Oh god no - morgage/home ownership so important imo (for me) - could not cope with any more years of renting where landlords want to inspect the caos i end up! Plus a morgage for us is about a third of what rent would be, and a landlord would have kicked off with the number of times kids have painted the walls or wrecked something. I love the privacy of owning, and as i have no impulse control when it comes to saving this works out as a way of saving for the future too!
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Post by vagueandrandom on Oct 22, 2015 11:43:49 GMT
My intent with this move is to be without mortgage, or rent, or ground rent, or service charges.
The property market (buy or rent) in London is sickening and unsustainable.
My aim is to have freedom.
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Post by clubby on Oct 23, 2015 10:12:14 GMT
This is why I don't believe in Mortgages and home ownership in general. It is very stressful and only the Banks win in the end. Is a home truly ever yours ? Sorry @alec77 . I'm with blaze on the home ownership front. I rented for a long time and it nearly destroyed me because I need control over my environment to handle the adhd. The home must bend to me, and landlords don't usually allow this. I agree with you that mortgages suck because the establishment takes control. vagueandrandom and I have discovered the horrors of selling as banks, planners and lawyers tighten their grip. Like vagueandrandom I am attempting to be mortgage free. I will happily live in a shed in a field to achieve this if it is allowed. Control over my adhd demands control over my immediate environment. My coping mechanisms need a place "to be" without judgement. In effect I am fighting for the right to cope.
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Post by aetheling on Oct 23, 2015 16:23:43 GMT
(I've done something to the post, I meant this quote "In effect I am fighting for the right to cope.")That's the best quote I've heard in ages. How long has it/ do you think it will take you to get to a point where you're environment is how it needs to be?
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Post by clubby on Oct 24, 2015 10:45:56 GMT
(I've done something to the post, I meant this quote "In effect I am fighting for the right to cope.")That's the best quote I've heard in ages. How long has it/ do you think it will take you to get to a point where you're environment is how it needs to be? I think it will take generations, but we have to start somewhere.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 21:46:42 GMT
Respect to you all I can't cope with mortgages, but it does not mean it's all evil and bad There was some good intent in the idea of home ownership, and for those who can cope with the demands of getting there, i tip my cap. dam, lost my thoughts again, nope i shall come back to this peace x
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 21:48:54 GMT
Oh a remembering in me brain Da ting dat bugs me da most is in da name landlord I hate dat name Oh c'mon, it has lord in it! Tis not the middle ages! Tis a bit naff "landlord"
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Post by toots on Nov 17, 2015 22:41:57 GMT
@the hedgehog ....How definitely fucking dare they, I also have a degree and am currently studying a pgce! (btw apparently einstein had adhd) I am in a rage right now so apologies it's about to get very sweary... I have had no help whatsoever my entire life for this bloody problem and now on my current course I have finally hit the wall because I really struggle with essays I can only get learning support if I pay £300 for a formal diagnosis and letter from a psychiatrist as the waiting list where I live is 2 fucking years!!!! and that's if your gp thinks it exists or not. I have been humiliated by dr's over the years that have told me it doesn't exist or that it does but they don't treat adults. My partner doesn't seem to get it either and we've been having massive rows , he has no understanding whatsoever of how my mind works and his answer to me struggling with my assignment recently was ' why can't you just write it, it's only 3000 words, only 3000? my dissertation for my degree was 6000 and it took me a whole fucking year to do it because I couldn't get my brain around the idea of writing anything I wanted. He also said maybe I'm not cut out for the course, I couldn't believe it! My tutor recently told me that she thinks my understanding of complex theories is excellent and that I am in her opinion top of our group, I have excelled academically at everything except for maths, maths is my nemesis and yet here I am today feeling like the person who is closest to me secretly thinks I'm a dumbass. I genuinely am starting to think that I have somehow used my adhd conversation skills to con others in to thinking I'm smarter than I actually am. We've also been arguing because of my apparent inability to be a grown up, my messiness, my shit memory, my being on a distant planet oh and the best one which is basically that I don't seem to give a shit about anyone. I feel like I spend 99% of my waking moments thinking about him and our kids and I put off stuff I want all the time for them. I feel like it is a gargantuan bloody mental effort to exist right now and I know it sounds very dramatic but its true. don't like how society is so over complicated I hate having to bloody conform and multi task what's wrong with the way I do things? If I could seriously do anything I wanted right now I'd quit this course and go and live a peaceful life in the woods or somewhere remote and spend my time only on art and my family. I crave simplicity more than anything. My other absolute fave comment (slightly off subject again) is when people say to me 'oh, why don't you just do less thinking' ah yes because that was my mistake I so so so wish I could remember not to bloody think when I'm being kept awake all night because I can't stop thinking silly me. Or 'you just need to stop forgetting things' . I really wish that people would stop treating me like I'm just being silly. I am currently so hacked off it's taking all my mental power to stop myself causing more trouble, I feel wrong and like a massive failure I literally have nobody behind me on this. Swinging between rage and self pity sorry.
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