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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2015 16:07:20 GMT
By popular request, and for anyone wanting to roar like a lion and receive a group hug at the end of it, I give to you the unofficial "How Fucking Dare They?!" Group Therapy Thread. In the interests of full disclosure, as Group Instigator, I have absolutely no therapeutic training or experience. I do have a vast repertoire of swear words and I am always happy to share them with friends. The only rule for group membership is that no platitudes may be offered, unless the irony and hollow laughter are clearly indicated by appropriate emoticons. Vent away!
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Post by JJ on Aug 30, 2015 1:20:01 GMT
Love this thread Right, I don't have any ADHD "how dare they" things ATM - mainly cos the big one I have ( GP struck me off cos I have ADHD and asked for help / accommodations ) I haven't pursued so far cos of the writing it down issue/arse and I don't want to think about cos it's a stress - and cos it's the summer holidays, so I don't work and don't have to get up for school, so life is ok. But I do have general ones... Soooo many..... Biggest one ATM is "how fucking dare they" look on while the bodies of refugees, fleeing from regimes we've supplied arms to, wash up on our European shores, and not commit European and international funds to help these desperate people (who are actual people, like me and you), yet money can be found to bail out private individuals from privately owned banks, for bad business decisions they happened to make.... I've forced myself to stop here.... I really could write an essay ATM! I'll be back
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2015 7:57:49 GMT
Hmmm... This might be helpful as my wife is getting annoyed with me venting. How fucking dare they! I have 18 bloody years of flawless driving! Over 100,000 (count them!) kilometres in all weather conditions! And those fucking numpties decide I'm a high risk driver and need to take a medical and driving test to prove to them that I can drive properly... Hello?! You bureaucratic little nobs! I had ADHD when you gave me my fucking license in the first place, because had just proven my driving skills! Four letters in a piece of paper do not invalidate that, and 18 picture perfect years of driving underline my skills even more! My driving is a hell of a lot better than the driving of that brainless moron whose life I saved by breaking for two! It's a crap-load better than those assholes driving big shiny Mercs and don't give a toss about the rest of the world! I'm supposed to fucking accept that you smile at them while branding me a menace to society?! You utter and complete bastards! And fuck the insurance and all, because why cover anything ADHD-related?! Right?! It's not like it's a medical condition or anything! I just made it up to get my hands on legal amphetamines! Right?! So of course I will pay the specialist for the medical test myself! ...*Phew* Very embarrassed now! (Kinda fun to try my hand at British swearing though. Not quite as creative as the masters who inspired me, Monty Python, Blackadder, Not the Nine O'Clock News, the Young Ones, etc., but I gave it my best shot. )
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Post by vagueandrandom on Aug 30, 2015 16:06:30 GMT
@dutch 'numpties' and 'moron' are impressive for a non-native english speaker!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2015 17:28:06 GMT
I suppose I just want to say that it makes me sad to see so many threads on forums by people who are being refused the help and treatment they could benefit so much from. I've read too many threads from people who's GPs have stomped their feet and said "NO, I'm not going to refer you for assessment because I don't believe that ADHD exists and I am the doctor so I know more about this than you." Some people have their first prescription handed to them only to have it taken away again My GP is lovely but the relationship has been slightly tarnished by her saying that I would not have made it as far as I have (a degree and another on the way) if I had ADHD. Thanks doctor, that's not insulting to people with ADHD at all. Don't get me started on the first psychiatrist I ever saw about it. Thankfully, my current psychiatrist seems great! If my tiny little ADHD brain allows it I may study a masters or something later in the future to become an assessor of adults with ADHD and contribute to narrowing the gaps in treatment.
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Post by contrarymary on Aug 30, 2015 21:02:36 GMT
i read that post 3 times thehedgehog and still managed to read it as "become an assessor of assessors of ADHD and contribute to narrowing the crap treatment"
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2015 6:50:52 GMT
@dutch 'numpties' and 'moron' are impressive for a non-native english speaker! Thank you ever so much! I was probably speaking English by the age of 8. I also used to have a British brother in-law. (Whose marriage to my sister got wrecked because of his ADHD.) I also prefer to watch British television, read British books (Terry Pratchett and Agatha Christie) and my work is always in English. It's come to the point where I end up thinking in English because I can't find the proper Dutch words anymore.
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Post by jonbob on Aug 31, 2015 10:30:12 GMT
Hmmm... This might be helpful as my wife is getting annoyed with me venting. How fucking dare they! I have 18 bloody years of flawless driving! Over 100,000 (count them!) kilometres in all weather conditions! And those fucking numpties decide I'm a high risk driver and need to take a medical and driving test to prove to them that I can drive properly... Hello?! You bureaucratic little nobs! I had ADHD when you gave me my fucking license in the first place, because had just proven my driving skills! Four letters in a piece of paper do not invalidate that, and 18 picture perfect years of driving underline my skills even more! My driving is a hell of a lot better than the driving of that brainless moron whose life I saved by breaking for two! It's a crap-load better than those assholes driving big shiny Mercs and don't give a toss about the rest of the world! I'm supposed to fucking accept that you smile at them while branding me a menace to society?! You utter and complete bastards! And fuck the insurance and all, because why cover anything ADHD-related?! Right?! It's not like it's a medical condition or anything! I just made it up to get my hands on legal amphetamines! Right?! So of course I will pay the specialist for the medical test myself! ...*Phew* Very embarrassed now! (Kinda fun to try my hand at British swearing though. Not quite as creative as the masters who inspired me, Monty Python, Blackadder, Not the Nine O'Clock News, the Young Ones, etc., but I gave it my best shot. ) If you're in need of a new and creative way to describe an individual/group please feel free to add 'donkey raping shit eater/s*' to the mix. *Authors note: 02/09/15, this is a classic example of an ADHD thought process - 'Ready, Fire, Aim' if you will. I've left it in rather than take it out as it serves as a handy reminder that sometimes (quite often) I need to think before I type. Je suis un grand buffoon pour le temps en temp.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2015 14:39:01 GMT
Thanks guys, though this thread has now become counter-productive. I came here to be angry about something but Dutch's admirable efforts to spew British profanity have made me spit out my coffee in laughter and forget what I came in for!!!!
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Post by jonbob on Sept 2, 2015 8:51:00 GMT
I think I might well have offended a couple of people with my previous comment there. No excuse, and poor form. So please do accept my apologies, I'm not usually quite so profane.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 12:01:05 GMT
I so often wonder if I need to go back to a given thread and edit or delete my sometimes abrupt responses! I confess I don't always make it back because something shiny gets in the way....
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Post by jonbob on Sept 2, 2015 12:24:18 GMT
I so often wonder if I need to go back to a given thread and edit or delete my sometimes abrupt responses! I confess I don't always make it back because something shiny gets in the way.... In the end, I thought it better to leave it in, but with an authors note instead. Editing is great, but sometimes, I think it's best if I acknowledge when I cock up and try not to hide from it or erase the mistake. Kind of like 'showing your workings' in maths
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 12:27:36 GMT
Totally understand and appreciate it. I put my foot in my mouth with a newbie recently, and wanted to delete an entire post in shame, but I saw she had been online and would have read the original, so a deletion instead of an apology would only have made me feel better and would probably have made her feel even worse. How fucking dare we, eh?!
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Post by blaze on Sept 2, 2015 14:22:08 GMT
Hfdt make assumptions
Hfdt judge my kids
Hfdt not give a fk, then act all concerned, then act all indignant when I point out they previously didn't give a fk
Hfdt be arogant enough to take it on board to correct compleatly unnecessary things- shows how small your world is
Hfdt be over familar, and hfdt call me babe- puke puke puke
On plus side, rather ironicly, I've been asked to correct ALL of works paperwork. And everything's going well..... Which is v strange ..... I shouldn't temp fate
BTW, back home in Scotland numptie is a rather affectionate term- like silly billy but without sounding like a twat. If you want to communicate how pissed off you are I suggest cunt or fuckwits.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 15:09:13 GMT
Hfdt not give a fk, then act all concerned, then act all indignant when I point out they previously didn't give a fk Yes!!!! Fuckwit cunts!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 7:19:15 GMT
I think I might well have offended a couple of people with my previous comment there. No excuse, and poor form. So please do accept my apologies, I'm not usually quite so profane. J If you are worried about offending me, don't be! I don't get offended easily even when people target me personally, let alone by a comment that was obviously made with a big wink and a healthy dose of humor. Plus I've heard a lot worse things watching British comedy. Brits are still the unrivalled champions of profanity!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 7:29:14 GMT
BTW, back home in Scotland numptie is a rather affectionate term- like silly billy but without sounding like a twat. If you want to communicate how pissed off you are I suggest cunt or fuckwits. Must remember that! I'm going up to Scotland in a few months. Except the wife is not coming along... ...and I'm meeting very important people. That could cause some embarrassing situations...
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Post by jonbob on Sept 3, 2015 16:15:52 GMT
I think I might well have offended a couple of people with my previous comment there. No excuse, and poor form. So please do accept my apologies, I'm not usually quite so profane. J If you are worried about offending me, don't be! I don't get offended easily even when people target me personally, let alone by a comment that was obviously made with a big wink and a healthy dose of humor. Plus I've heard a lot worse things watching British comedy. Brits are still the unrivalled champions of profanity! Good of you to say Budd. And I'm happy to steer you in any vulgar direction you might fancy. That said, it does pay to remember that although this is a text based forum, there are those who might well have slightly more delicate sensibilities than you or I. Still, it is fun to 'eff and see' every once in a while
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 16:45:54 GMT
OK, I'll bite here. I have no idea where you got the idea that you offended anyone jonbob, but I'll be explicit that I was shocked by the expression "donkey-raping" as a joke term. I didn't say anything to you or anyone else because we all have different sensibilities and, as a group, we are not people who tend to think first and speak later. For me, rape of any kind is out of bounds as a joking matter. It's not a matter of having delicate sensitivities, it's about having respect and not making light of an act of violence and an expression of power that has been perpetrated against vulnerable groups forever. But at a personal level, I didn't know your intention, I don't believe that everyone who mis-speaks is committing a massive crime, if it were then I would be a grand criminal for the profanity that spews from my own lips, I wanted to think the best of you, I appreciated your apology, I do think the best of you and for me the matter is over. I am only jumping in because I have a low frustration tolerance and I decided it is time to remove the elephant from the room, so we can hopefully all go back to collective snarking.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 16:55:15 GMT
BTW, back home in Scotland numptie is a rather affectionate term- like silly billy but without sounding like a twat. If you want to communicate how pissed off you are I suggest cunt or fuckwits. Must remember that! I'm going up to Scotland in a few months. Except the wife is not coming along... ...and I'm meeting very important people. That could cause some embarrassing situations... blaze may appreciate a faux pas I once made late at night to a Glaswegian taxi driver. I had spent a happy drunken night with my Scottish pals and wanted to display my advanced Scottish language skills when a taxi driver helped me climb shoelessly and drunkenly into the car, and affectionately called me "hen". Let's just say I learned that "ned" is not the an appropriate term of endearment to use in return, and I was lucky to only have a half hour wait until the next taxi arrived.
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Post by contrarymary on Sept 3, 2015 17:14:50 GMT
I'm with @pelargonium here jonbob, pretty much word for word, which is lucky cos it saves me writing much cheers for the apology too
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Post by clubby on Sept 3, 2015 19:53:13 GMT
In Scotland we don't really believe that anyone is so important that they might have the right to dare, we just consider them to be stupid (or numpties) as blaze suggested. They would be dismissed with - Awa'n bile yer heid. or in other words Get Lost
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Post by blaze on Sept 4, 2015 7:23:14 GMT
This more of a WTF than an HFDT, but I just founded some much needed light-relief when I was googling for info on dexamphetamine dosage and found myself on a drug-seeking forum where young know-it-alls were discussing the relative merits of street speed and stolen tablets their little siblings' supplies of dex. Bless his heart, one earnest young student was lecturing his friends about his opinion that prescription dex is dangerous and should be banned. He thinks it positively encourages people to steal medicine from children and then represents a danger to his health because each 5mg tablet contains so much and such rough filler ingredients that it is almost impossible to crush and insufflate in a pleasant and safe manner. Little shitbag arsehole. Youth of today, eh? A while back I had emergency prescription of diazapam, but forgot to check with Dr that it was OK to take with pregabilin and strattera- so googled just to be safe- Diaz, cocodamol, strattera and pregab- and ended up on a drug takers forum on a thread where people were asking if this was a fun combo, who were then stupidly surprised that when they took this they- shock horror- only fell asleep!!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2015 7:36:36 GMT
OK, I'll bite here. I have no idea where you got the idea that you offended anyone jonbob, but I'll be explicit that I was shocked by the expression "donkey-raping" as a joke term. I didn't say anything to you or anyone else because we all have different sensibilities and, as a group, we are not people who tend to think first and speak later. For me, rape of any kind is out of bounds as a joking matter. It's not a matter of having delicate sensitivities, it's about having respect and not making light of an act of violence and an expression of power that has been perpetrated against vulnerable groups forever. But at a personal level, I didn't know your intention, I don't believe that everyone who mis-speaks is committing a massive crime, if it were then I would be a grand criminal for the profanity that spews from my own lips, I wanted to think the best of you, I appreciated your apology, I do think the best of you and for me the matter is over. I am only jumping in because I have a low frustration tolerance and I decided it is time to remove the elephant from the room, so we can hopefully all go back to collective snarking. It's interesting. I've been sitting here reading your post and thinking about a discussion I had a few days ago with my specialist about me not being in touch with my feelings because I perceive them as a weakness. This has escalated into a type of OCD, where I will rationalise away my own feelings forcefully. This started back when I was 11 and didn't get any help despite there being obvious problems with going to school and getting panic attacks, denying my own feelings was my only means of survival. So reading this discussion and analysing my own response I was actually quite shocked to find that somewhere deep down inside I was actually offended by the initial remark. Saying this out loud (well, writing it on a forum) is actually one of the hardest things I have ever done. I've been too close, too often to the consequences of rape to be able to think of the subject lightly. I'm actually surprisingly sensitive about it. I also love animals more than I do people and nothing hurts me more than animal abuse. I particularly like donkeys and have been a proud supporter of the donkey sanctuary for years now. That remark should offend me deeply, and does, but I still responded very differently... In light of the topic of this thread. How Fucking Dare They not help an 11-year old kid screaming for help! Look at what it fucking did to me! Every fibre in my body is screaming for me to delete this post and pretend I never wrote it, but I need to do this and prove to myself I'm not a fucking robot.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2015 10:20:03 GMT
If you are worried about offending me, don't be! I don't get offended easily even when people target me personally, let alone by a comment that was obviously made with a big wink and a healthy dose of humor. Plus I've heard a lot worse things watching British comedy. Brits are still the unrivalled champions of profanity! Good of you to say Budd. And I'm happy to steer you in any vulgar direction you might fancy. That said, it does pay to remember that although this is a text based forum, there are those who might well have slightly more delicate sensibilities than you or I. Still, it is fun to 'eff and see' every once in a while ADMIN COMMENT
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Post by jonbob on Sept 4, 2015 11:33:21 GMT
Good of you to say Budd. And I'm happy to steer you in any vulgar direction you might fancy. That said, it does pay to remember that although this is a text based forum, there are those who might well have slightly more delicate sensibilities than you or I. Still, it is fun to 'eff and see' every once in a while ADMIN COMMENT
In defence of those with 'delicate' sensibilities it would be appreciated that 'language' be kept civil.
Admin has the right to edit/delete what we deem excessive but we'd prefer you to decide for yourselves what is sensible.
As you can see from this thread we are fairly tolerant.
Point taken. Apologies issued. Again, to all those who I might have upset - sorry. It was a poor taste comment issued from a humorous place (look for the positive intention perhaps?). Though based on the evidence of the comments above, I acknowledge that humour was well misplaced. I'll think more carefully before I hit the 'create post' button in future.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2015 11:35:14 GMT
Hmmm... This might be helpful as my wife is getting annoyed with me venting. How fucking dare they! I have 18 bloody years of flawless driving! Over 100,000 (count them!) kilometres in all weather conditions! And those fucking numpties decide I'm a high risk driver and need to take a medical and driving test to prove to them that I can drive properly... Hello?! You bureaucratic little nobs! I had ADHD when you gave me my fucking license in the first place, because had just proven my driving skills! Four letters in a piece of paper do not invalidate that, and 18 picture perfect years of driving underline my skills even more! My driving is a hell of a lot better than the driving of that brainless moron whose life I saved by breaking for two! It's a crap-load better than those assholes driving big shiny Mercs and don't give a toss about the rest of the world! I'm supposed to fucking accept that you smile at them while branding me a menace to society?! You utter and complete bastards! And fuck the insurance and all, because why cover anything ADHD-related?! Right?! It's not like it's a medical condition or anything! I just made it up to get my hands on legal amphetamines! Right?! So of course I will pay the specialist for the medical test myself! ...*Phew* Very embarrassed now! It worked!!! " At this point in time there is no reason for us to in any way restrict you in the use of your driver's license. Your driver's license will therefore remain valid and you can keep this letter with your license as proof of our decision." No driving test and I never have to go through this again! Yeah!
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Post by blaze on Sept 4, 2015 14:15:32 GMT
Hfd the guinea piss all over me and only me?!?!?
*not the point of this thread ; )*
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2015 14:40:28 GMT
Ha! blaze. I want to sympathise, but I'm afraid that is hilarious.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2015 21:15:15 GMT
ADMIN COMMENT
In defence of those with 'delicate' sensibilities it would be appreciated that 'language' be kept civil.
Admin has the right to edit/delete what we deem excessive but we'd prefer you to decide for yourselves what is sensible.
As you can see from this thread we are fairly tolerant.
Point taken. Apologies issued. Again, to all those who I might have upset - sorry. It was a poor taste comment issued from a humorous place (look for the positive intention perhaps?). Though based on the evidence of the comments above, I acknowledge that humour was well misplaced. I'll think more carefully before I hit the 'create post' button in future. Wasn't having a pop, was a general/genuine comment on what I quoted of yours aimed at everyone. Just a pre-emptive strike to remind everyone not to get too giddy.
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