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Post by haycal2301 on Oct 15, 2015 19:49:59 GMT
Hi all, im really struggling to cope with my 9 year old son and could do with asking for advice please. Basically since starting school i have noticed my sons behaviour getting worse. Before i begin i must say, his school say they see no issues with him and academically he is doing really well!! Gifted at reading (is reading at senior school level) takes a keen interest in Science & Maths but is slightly let down by his english by masses of spelling mistakes However the behaviour before and after school is a nightmare. He refuses to do anything i ask, its a battle to get ready for school, im constantly repeating myself, hes on the go 24/7 running, jumping around climbing on furniture, hurts his 2 yr sister, lies, forgets things, doesnt stop singing or talking, interupts all the time, has to have the last word, when speaking to him he looks blank, aggressive, short tempered, ramdom noises, excessively loud, soils himself, when hes told off he askes what has he done wrong, only has interests in computers & gadget, arguementative, behaves like a toddler but then for every day he is like this there is a glimps of a loving, kind, caring and helpful boy for 10 mins. We have been under a paed now for nearlly 2 years. He has an ASD assessement coming up but im beginning to think its more adhd. As the school are saying they have no issues im worried that at the assessment the paeds will say its in my head. Cahms have also said the same as the school. However after school clubs say he is disruptive, wanders off, random answers (nothing to do with the lesson or blurts out answers before teacher finishes speaking). His gymnastics teacher who he sees for an hr once a week has worked with asd & adhd children and has said he does show some traits of both. Has anybody else been through this? And what was your outcome? Thank you for taking the time to read this xx
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Post by JJ on Oct 17, 2015 21:38:27 GMT
Hi all, im really struggling to cope with my 9 year old son and could do with asking for advice please. Basically since starting school i have noticed my sons behaviour getting worse. Before i begin i must say, his school say they see no issues with him and academically he is doing really well!! Gifted at reading (is reading at senior school level) takes a keen interest in Science & Maths but is slightly let down by his english by masses of spelling mistakes However the behaviour before and after school is a nightmare. He refuses to do anything i ask, its a battle to get ready for school, im constantly repeating myself, hes on the go 24/7 running, jumping around climbing on furniture, hurts his 2 yr sister, lies, forgets things, doesnt stop singing or talking, interupts all the time, has to have the last word, when speaking to him he looks blank, aggressive, short tempered, ramdom noises, excessively loud, soils himself, when hes told off he askes what has he done wrong, only has interests in computers & gadget, arguementative, behaves like a toddler but then for every day he is like this there is a glimps of a loving, kind, caring and helpful boy for 10 mins. We have been under a paed now for nearlly 2 years. He has an ASD assessement coming up but im beginning to think its more adhd. As the school are saying they have no issues im worried that at the assessment the paeds will say its in my head. Cahms have also said the same as the school. However after school clubs say he is disruptive, wanders off, random answers (nothing to do with the lesson or blurts out answers before teacher finishes speaking). His gymnastics teacher who he sees for an hr once a week has worked with asd & adhd children and has said he does show some traits of both. Has anybody else been through this? And what was your outcome? Thank you for taking the time to read this xx I'm just reposting your concerns to break up the big chunk of text - it's hard for us to read and may be why you've not had any response yet What's he been under a paed for? Have camhs only been involved at your request? Whose suggestion was it to have him assessed for asd?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2015 21:48:25 GMT
Gosh I haven't any experience of this at all.
I have no right to even post on here yet I am curious as to what will be for you all.
Until a resolution of sorts materializes I 'd say reward his good side with attention and ignore( no matter how hard) his "bad" behaviours.
He sounds like adhd hyper active yet he could have other health issues.
Possibly some kind of oposisonal defiance disorder.
I can only suggest keep going to your GP , as they will only act on this if you go many time.
I hope you find the help you need, after all he's just a wee laddie and he can't help it.
Remember it's not your fault and that phycology is playing catch up with developmental illnesses.
Keep knocking on the doors and help will come, but sadly it will take a lot of persistence.
keep us posted/updated if you can
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Post by clubby on Oct 20, 2015 21:37:21 GMT
Hi haycal2301 . It sounds as if his intellectual maturity is stronger right now than his emotional maturity. This may be a phase he will grow out of as his emotional control develops. Opposition tends to come from a position of frustration and fear. Try giving him more intellectual control of his life but in an environment he feels more secure.
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