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Post by contrarymary on Nov 14, 2015 21:02:36 GMT
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Post by Bee on Nov 15, 2015 2:38:10 GMT
Looks pretty good! Sent it to my hubby. Maybe he'll think twice about getting grumpy when I panic and can't make up my mind at the front of the queue in McDonalds!
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Post by blaze on Nov 15, 2015 19:46:57 GMT
Lots that are relevant to me - but oh says i am v easy to love, generally relationships are my strong point, v sucessful friendships also aswell as 13 happy yrs w oh- but we suot each other v well.
I also don't like the use of suffering, dis-abled in some ways, limited in others, using ten thousand times the effort in others just to scrap normal- but more able in other areas, gifted in some..... doesn't add up to suffering in my book (but i guess i compare it with my elther danlos &prevoous ptsd) & i never think its helpful to use such universal terms in that way- we are still individuals despite living with the same condition- but these types of articles are generaly flawed in that way.
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Post by chillisauce on Nov 17, 2015 13:35:44 GMT
Thanks for sharing this - made me well up. Practically all of these are me. I also sent to my husband. Unlike the person above, friendships and other relationships are not my strong point... I find the use of the word 'suffering' validating actually. I do suffer and it feels good to have that acknowledged. I've had very serious physical health problems & depression so have had other types of suffering, but it's the abstract nature of ADHD 'suffering' that makes it all the more important for me to have that acknowledged. It's very easy to put this suffering down to other things, and as someone who just got diagnosed earlier this year when over 40, I find a real relief in learning what is or can be ADHD. As for the 'gifted' aspect, I am certainly highly creative - do it as a job - and while I don't think this part of me is necessarily all down to ADHD, I do think that it gives me what a friend said was a very unique way of looking at things, something which has been appreciated and commented upon in my creative work. I see that I can make connections and patterns far easier than some people I know, while simultaneously struggling to put my clothes away
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Post by clubby on Nov 17, 2015 21:37:06 GMT
Looks pretty good! Sent it to my hubby. Maybe he'll think twice about getting grumpy when I panic and can't make up my mind at the front of the queue in McDonalds! Oh McDonalds - what a nightmare. Thought it was just me. Just looks like gobbledygook. Hubby orders for me.
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Post by lostinspace on Dec 2, 2015 16:04:01 GMT
It's a bit optimistic in outlook that piece I thought.
ADHD for me is distracting my 3 year old with a jigsaw, he loses interest and moves on but you've still got to finish the same jigsaw. In fact you can't even look up until it's done no matter what mischief your son its getting up to.
It's going online to look something up and three hours later you remember that you had to find something out but can't remember what. But get you've learnt that only one of our national saints came from the country they're patron saint of so that's ok.
It's being in.a conversation with your loved one but you're not really having a conversation. You're either finishing their sentences, not hearing anything they're saying only registering that they're talking or you're having a conversation without taking a breath so they aren't involved (and in some cases they've left the room...seriously I've not noticed that before now).
ADHD is all these and more. Basically a permanent state of out of control. Any loved one needs to understand that and learn to join the ride.
My favourite saying right now is "I'm in my own world, but it's ok they know me here!".
We see things differently. I'm just not sure our it's being creative or just being different, unstable, weird, etc.
Thinking outside the box? What box? You mean there's a box?
Now what was i supposed to be doing at work? I can't remember as far back as this morning. You mean it's 4pm? When did lunch happen? What the heck have I done since 11pm?
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Post by patriciao on Jan 20, 2016 23:21:56 GMT
I really like this list, I'm definitely sending it to my partner
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