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Post by Bee on Dec 2, 2015 16:54:54 GMT
Husband says to me "is it ok if I put [Best Friend] on Skype?" "Yeah of course!!" And that was all fine, I was included in the conversation but mostly just got on with what I was doing - trying to wrap an unboxed gamer chair (it's an absolute bitch I can tell you!) And then they start playing GTA. Ok then. But now he's swapped the speakers for head phones so it's obvious I'm not included any more. I really dislike being exluded, and especially in my own home. So I make it clear that I'm not happy. And he takes no notice. So I make it MORE clear I'm not happy, and he says he'll just turn it off then. But I don't want him to turn it off, I like his friend! And they're allowed to have guy-time that doesn't include me. But I also want him to turn it off. Right now. In fact, throw the computer out. So, maturely, I flounced off upstairs. I don't mean to be a pain in the arse particularly. I just feel SO strongly about being excluded. I don't want to be the centre of attention, just given the option of being involved in whatever's going down. In my house. But I keep kicking up a fuss over things that logically aren't really a problem! Illogically though I'm making an issue
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Post by hermanli on Dec 11, 2015 2:51:17 GMT
Its not illogical at all, its pretty rude to exclude you.
I dont see why he couldnt have left the speakers on and allowed you in on a three way conversation. This is a bit like when two (bilingual) people choosing to loudly speak in their other language to each other, when they both can speak the language of the third person perfectly.
Its just not nice.
And its a healthy / expected social urge to want to enjoy the company of the husband's friend, the situation is similar to if you had met in person at a social gathering. And your husband chose to have a looong conversation with his friend without introducing you.
The nice (and socially expected) thing to do, would be that your husband not only introduces you but also cues the conversation to coax out things you all have in common with each other, or things you can all have a laugh about.
Basically he is the one being the numpty here.
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