aldedah
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Post by aldedah on Dec 23, 2015 20:57:25 GMT
I think everyone finds Christmas a stressful time for lots of reasons but I wonder whether it's something that people with ADHD find worse.
It's a time of being around family that perhaps you only see once a year and may have a very different worldview to yourself. I personally find it hard to hold back when people are talking absolute bollocks about something. I can have a good debate with someone, but when people have very skewed views it can be difficult to hold back.
And Christmas Day is a time of being around people you wouldn't be around normally, some of them very different.
I don't think I've enjoyed Christmas Day since a kid. Not sure if it's just me, or an ADHD trait!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2015 22:55:52 GMT
Thanks for starting this thread. I'm apprehensive about this Christmas for a few reasons, not really to do with ADHD symptoms but more to do with the difficulties that built up before I was able to get an assessment and treatment. It is good to have a place to be honest about the fact that Christmas can be a hard time for many of us, whatever our particular circumstances. I totally get you on the subject of having to be around so many different people that we wouldn't necessarily choose to be around. I'm looking forward to watching the finale of Downton Abbey on Friday night. That is a small shallow pleasure that I will keep looking forward to!
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Post by sophierose84 on Dec 24, 2015 19:55:18 GMT
I find it hard because family have very set expectations and I find it hard to match up... I get super anxious and end up not looking forward to it
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Post by blaze on Dec 25, 2015 13:28:55 GMT
I find the run up hard. Organising presents/cards/kids activities etc
my solution is allways to paor back as mich as poss- kids can't cope with too much anyways so no santa groto visits or parties etc anyways. On the day they get a proper present (tablets this yr) and astocking. All other gifts are opened as recieved as it makes the stress of the run up easier & tgey simply wouldn't understand waiting. We make candy cane brittle & cookies in the run up to give (teachers etc) which are v simple activities the kids can do (& i can't fk up). They make cards & xmas decorations to give out- again the super simple versions. I email/txt as many people as poss rather than send cards & we don't buy presents for other people. Normally have a friends meet up/dinner/drinks etc if everyone can fit in.
Today i am cooking, but after yrs i really enjoy cooking xmas dinner as its all i have to do all day.
We don't have other family, nobody else's life to fit in with. I cook early & it doesn't matter when it is ready & oh isn't fussed what i prep from scratch & what i buy prepared.
This is the first yr since the girls were born that they slept through xmas eve so basicly best ever xmas!!!
merry xmas to everyone. & stuff others expectations- i'm not fussed if my girls *achive* tones or choose to work a *shitty* job as long as they are happy, good to others & know we love them. Any parent who thinks otherwise is failing at their job imo. And if the above wasn't the case i wouldn't be blaming or shaming my kids , i would be looking at what i could do better to help them be happy etc
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Post by manson88 on Dec 25, 2015 18:40:19 GMT
To be honest, first Christmas out of a 17 year relationship.
It's great that I didn't have to trape round shops filled with anxiety looking for something for someone for Christmas I knew that they wouldn't appreciate.
Also tomorrow I'm free to do what I want to rather than sit in room with people who have sour false faces. Who are only nice to your face.
Outlaws are wanted in laws are tolerated!
OK this morning I seen my children for an hour they were in their mums house. An hour was enough with their mother acting as if I wasn't there glaring at me with hateful eyes. It was me decided to make a change in my life and move out. No one else involved.
Their coming to mine on Sunday.
It's great to have some control over my life free from some of the stress. It was difficult making a choice to move on. I'm under no pressure now to please someone who is rude and ungrateful.
So 2016 is going to be better new year, new me!
Happy Christmas and Happy new year!
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Post by bluedrifter on Jan 2, 2016 23:57:06 GMT
I like staying indoors for a week if I can get the whole week off of work, so Christmas for me represents laziness, I become dissociative to the outside world, that's the bit that I like, having an excuse to be disengaged.
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Post by manson88 on Jan 4, 2016 18:37:34 GMT
So we got through Christmas then and out the other side!! Ah contrarymary! You ran interesting thread before Christmas about the shortest day of the year. To be honest like some on here I was more focused on getting through Christmas and out the other side (though I was still interested in your threads)! I think that we all need a pat on the back cause we have issues that prevent us from enjoy the festive period! contrarymary I loved your thread on Christmas awareness and understanding. aadduk.proboards.com/post/95176/thread/7136I can hold a number of similarities to the tread as above, no panic buying this year! No problem worrying about what I was getting people! No walking around stores and getting distracted by things that I'd like! I feel a lot of that is tied to my anxiety and inattention. Me a loose canon ball at the moment , just like that puppy contrarymary!! I'm going through personal development currently .. I'm like a loose canon ball on a deck of a ship just rolling all over the place to and fro. With no one with the ability to tie me down. I just can't get what I want to do, were I want to go next in life, what I want next .. It's strange, difficult,. I'm like a 17 year old living at home with my mum. My wee car @ the front door and no where to go as I don't have much money. My friends are all with their partners doing their Christmas and new year .. Then a mother watching everything you do and repeating to an older sister down the phone the next day when your lying in bed with a hang over lol 17 again!! I can also see how a single fella who was married and now separated can all of a sudden could end up making wrong choices,at the wrong time. That would also make issues with also what he is trying to deal with. Interesting video some may find but I understand that it may not everyone's cup of tea..
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