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Post by anopheles on Jan 28, 2016 12:56:58 GMT
Be forgiving and understanding to yourself or you child, spouse or friend - to a point. This is not easy. Especially when the bath has been left to overflow three times in a week or when things have to be paid for twice. Nobody will be more ashamed or kicking themselves more than us. We don't need people joining in. 'To a point' means not letting us get away with murder. Strangers will have less compassion and understanding even when you don't have a blasé attitude to the trail of destruction we may leave behind us. It's not easy to find a balance between encouraging self loathing and encouraging self absorption. Talking. Mostly we do it because it help to control our racing mind. Most of it is wind. Ideas come, are spoken, and then forgotten. Try not to criticise it unless necessary (funerals, when you are trying to concentrate, etc) and do so gently. Again, not always easy. The carousel of interests. Schemes and big plans come and go. We find it hard to split our focus, so we suck all the life out of something for a while, then put it down. Most of the time we will come back to it on a carousel. You'll know if your likely to come back to it if we spend x amount of time on things. If it's less than x, then it's probably just a passing fad. I've never got on with lists and diaries, even at l1, but it's worth trying. Try to get into the habit of thinking you have to leave the house 30 minutes earlier than the actual time. Mt biggest cause of forgetting, losing, etc is not starting to get ready until 1 minute before having to leave. I'll add more later, family are dragging me out to join the wedding ceremony (not mine)!
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Post by anopheles on Feb 5, 2016 19:08:06 GMT
Relationships.
The giddy excitement of it all!
Of course, we feel it all and the added hyperfocus doesn't help.
Communication is the key. if, like me, your initial interest appears to wane as you go back to your steady state inattentiveness. This is sometimes mistaken for lack of interest and can cause the end of relationships as they jump before being pushed.
Talking of hyperfocus, let's be honest, it can look a lot like obsession. we need to be sure if our conscience and realise the other person is a person.
The good news, I think I that unlike true obsession, there's a chance to break it every time you leave 'the stimuli'.
I'd you have a group of friends have the keep an eye on you because you aren't going to find it easy to break the focus while you are in it.
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