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Post by mc1250 on Oct 20, 2014 19:42:31 GMT
Well if he isn't going to control it himself which sounds unlikely then yes you may have to treat him like a child without making him feel he's being treated like one.
The thing that made me stop for long periods was when i tallied up how much i'd lost and i could then see how bad it was, self realization and shame did curtail it a bit. So try sit down with him and workout how much he's wasting and see if that has an affect.
But what i'm going to do now as i know i can't stop even with best of intentions, is to put the money out of my reach. putting as much money i can in my wifes hands where i have no access to it. Until such point where i can actually say i'm in control of it. As thats the only thing that can stop me from losing everything like in the past So if you can take control then please do.
Best of luck
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Post by mc1250 on Oct 19, 2014 20:48:38 GMT
Hi, I have been with my partner for some time and have begun to notice a pattern of addiction from his past but more recently a gambling addiction, this is really concerning me because I am worried if we have children one day he won't be able to stop gambling and it will affect our finances. I don't know what to do to help or encourage him to stop. He doesn't have many friends but does regularly go to the gym and does work but the high street where we live is full of betting shops and of course there is online gambling so temptation is always there. Has anyone experienced this and know of any hints and tips? Thanks Dina Hi Dina Yes i have, massively! Put it this way i'm almost 40, i've been in full time work for the last 18 years and don't have a 'pot to p*** in'! Throw in 2 kids and you can understand how much of a problem it is and how i've really F'd up and still continue to! The only reason i have a roof over my head is because i live with my mum! Anyway my point is if you really do believe there's an issue then you need to confront it or end up in a situation like mine. Have you searched online for things like 'ADHD and problem Gambling' because you'll find there's a major link there mainly due to the impulsiveness that we suffer from. Now the thing is if i abstain from it completely then i'm ok, but as soon as i dip my toe in then the flood gates open and i gamble till everything is gone and only then do i realize what i've done. All the good intentions to not gamble go out the window once i've gone back in and lost it all. The most destructive thing is online because you can just transfer funds and unlimited funds at that! Try to speak to him and see how he reacts. Give him examples of people and why it'll be worse for him coz of his adhd. If he does admit to it then take control of all finances without treating him like a kid (although that is what is needed). Don't tell him to cut it out completely as that may cause resentment just try agree a figure which won't affect the finances an go from there. Good luck with it all.
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Post by mc1250 on Oct 18, 2014 22:10:10 GMT
I used to get very annoyed and angry quite easily and my emotions were all over the place as well. But what i found which was a life changer for me was something called 'L-Theanine'. It doesn't get rid of all my ADHD sysmtems but it did have a massive effect on my anxiety, anger and annoyance issues. Which ultimately help me cope with the other symptoms of forgetfulness etc Anyway have a look into it, i've not come across one bad review off of people who take it. It's natural with no known side affects doesn't make you drowsy like benzo's it's even meant to increase dopamine levels, which is basically the issue with us! www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22214254Good luck with it and i'm hoping some of the crazy thoughts you're having will subside.
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Post by mc1250 on Mar 2, 2014 17:58:14 GMT
Hi All
I recently discovered I may have ADHD (i'm pretty sure i have but waiting to be assessed formally).
I have so much to say and explain i don't know where to start!!
Anyway does anyone undiagnosed/diagnosed self medicate to help with the symptoms?
The reason i ask is because i've been using speed to self medicate for the last couple of weeks and yes i know it's stupid and dangerous but finally having a clear head (sometimes) outweighs the risks right now.
SO does anyone else do this and what with?
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