kardrath
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Post by kardrath on Nov 21, 2014 10:21:45 GMT
Avoidance is utterly crushing me at the moment.
I can feel everything falling to pieces around me and all I want to do is hide until everything goes away.
Everywhere I look there's something else I need to do and the longer I stare at them the bigger and scarier they get and the more difficult it is to even think about starting any of them.
I need someway of breaking the logjam and the back-when-I-was-a-student option of a bottle of southern comfort and lots of very loud music doesn't seem like a sensible plan anymore.
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Post by JJ on Nov 22, 2014 14:18:16 GMT
I don't have any answers I'm afraid, but I feel for you (((())))
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Post by contrarymary on Nov 22, 2014 17:55:07 GMT
Unfortunately I'm in pretty much the same situation myself at the moment. It doesn't help, but lots of empathy to you. I started a thread on this about ten days ago and, while it meandered around on and off topic as most threads seem to, there were some pretty helpful posts in there too. Having One of Those Days?AFAIK there are no quick instant fixes that fix everything, but focus on one small thing or one part of a routine, something that can be achieved. even tho it's small, it chips away that enormous amorphous mountainous whole. it stops feeling quite so overwhelming and gradually shrinks to normal, achievable stuff that can be tackled one small piece at a time doesn't make us freeze into a helpless immobility. I know that i need to get some structure back in, get my sleep sorted, find the self-control to get myself to bed and to sleep earlier so that i wake rested and at a reasonable time. Starting the day well seems to mean that it simply goes better and more gently, things feel less overwhelming and more is achieved. And much of that comes from those useful things of sleep, pacing, meditation, exercise - whether energetic or yoga, eating well... they all add up to a sense of balance and possibility. today i woke at 7.30 am and dozed a little but have mostly hidden from the day, which is now nearly gone. if i'd taken it as a rest day i would feel ok, but i had stuff i needed to do and now the day feels wasted. i wish i could have better days, but i seem to need external accountability for everything just now.... Good luck
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2014 11:08:46 GMT
I can feel everything falling to pieces around me and all I want to do is hide until everything goes away. It seems quite a reasonable response considering your circumstances. You've got a proper plateful at the mo - I could join in the chorus of 'bin there, expensive T shirt purchased' etc and advise going somewhere to blow off steam (physically and mentally) and then maybe blot out everything with a good sesh on the range, if your head is clear enough to concentrate. A holiday would be good! Can you park junior for the weekend and slob out in a hotel with enough to do to keep from dwelling? It's general stress relief.
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kardrath
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Post by kardrath on Nov 25, 2014 9:41:51 GMT
I managed to break through it enough to shout for help from a selection of mates who should now be bugging me on a regular basis. I asked for people to set weekly reminders to send me an email/text/IM asking how I'm doing on a specific set of tasks with a follow up phone call in a couple of days if I've not responded that I'm coping well and on top of things.
Knowing that a permanent duvet cave isn't an option because people will be dragging me out of it has certainly helped. I'm still facing a couple of brick walls at work and I need to get together the strength to raise it with my supervisor. I'm lucky in that work is very supportive, but they need a bit of prompting to know what support to give and how.
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Nov 25, 2014 12:10:57 GMT
Sorry that you're struggling.... Don't know if this is any good?
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Post by kardrath on Nov 26, 2014 15:08:50 GMT
I'd say 90% avoidance, 9% decisional and about 1% wanting the rush.
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Post by supine on Nov 28, 2014 10:25:08 GMT
Yesterday and today I've been having the same issue, and I haven't had anything this bad for months. As several people all seem to be suffering this around the same time I'm starting to wonder if it's weather related (SAD etc.) - seems like a lot of coincidence - I have definitely been on a roll with my work stuff recently, but yesterday I just stared at the screen for 7 hours and did nothing constructive and woke up feeling worse today - so I'm taking the day off as a sickie, get my head together over the weekend and crack on from Monday with a fresh start (hopefully). These days are a real bugger
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Post by astraka on Nov 28, 2014 17:52:44 GMT
The cold makes things worse for me as well as the dark days. I avoid, I sit, I get cold to my bones, I am even less likely move etc..
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Nov 28, 2014 19:38:46 GMT
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Post by astraka on Nov 28, 2014 19:45:18 GMT
I would like but it's definitely an unlike!
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Post by Endymion on Dec 19, 2014 13:08:06 GMT
Same for me at the moment. Particularly bad right now in terms of avoidance and procrastination of really very important stuff at work, home etc.
Need to re-focus but just really struggling to do it no matter what I try!
Grrr
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Post by astraka on Dec 21, 2014 19:07:05 GMT
But, apparently, being cold helps you lose weight! Win! Although it only seems to work if you are active as well
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