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Post by Bee on Nov 28, 2014 4:51:51 GMT
I've been curious about this since I was diagnosed. I know 2 people with confirmed ADHD, myself and an aquaintance.
We're both female, I'm PI and she's PH. We both identify as bisexual.
So, that means 100% of all the ADHD people I know are bisexual!
I'm aware that the sample size is insignificant on the scale of things.. So I thought I'd throw it out there!
For me, I feel like it's an extension of seeing everyone's point of view; I can see the beauty in everyone. To me, everyone is gorgeous! What do you think?
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Post by mypineappledream on Nov 28, 2014 7:46:23 GMT
I think I'm pansexual or asexual, not sure which one. I find myself attracted to both males and females, not sure if I'd like to touch either one I've previously read research that suggested that females are turned on by both genders more often, while men are more often just attracted to one gender. Research also suggests that during ovulation females are more likely to be attracted by males and then during the rest of the cycle it doesn't matter as much. Theory time; Maybe it has something to do with females being those who worked together to raise the kids and being close to each other in a group was beneficial for that.
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Post by chrispy on Nov 28, 2014 8:23:21 GMT
I am 99.99% Heterosexual. On rare occasions, I will be talking to a male friend, and all of a sudden I will have a strong urge to kiss him. At the same time, my vision will go, most my hearing also goes and I have an 'out of body feeling', so I think I am just having a seizure, so I don't think that should count.
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Post by Bee on Nov 28, 2014 8:30:33 GMT
Mypineappledream that's very interesting! I know from previous dating sites there are a lot of women who »say« they're bi, but it often seems to just be some kind of weird ploy to get men to think they're hot! Chrispy that me laugh out loud! 'Sometimes I have a gay moment, and then it turns out I'm having a seizure'! Haha Thanks for the replies I was worried I was gonna get stick for asking! Xx Bee xX
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Post by astraka on Nov 28, 2014 17:48:03 GMT
I'm with mpd here. My poor other half
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Post by shiveringsky on Nov 29, 2014 2:22:33 GMT
Oh dear. I don't think I can answer this. Everything but straight out gay has applied. Right now asexual is the most appropriate cap to wear, sadly and has been for a good while. I would say normally I would identify as open-minded rather than bi because I often think women are incredible but there's rarely a desire to do more than look and admire and wonder. I've never had a relationship with a girl. At least not one that was called one. Maybe relationships with straight girls where neither of us really realised it was a relationship at the time, if that makes any sense. And yes... they qualified in the category of sexual. TMI-ing. I shouldn't reply at 2 a.m. Actually this is a topic I am very interested in. And I'm drunk. Apologies. Kinda.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2014 12:16:59 GMT
I have asked gay friends if I set off their gaydar - they usually snort or just burst out laughing. Apparently I'm so straight that it's funny (I was once refused entry to a gay club which my gay friends were trying to smuggle me into - Manchester's gay scene {ie the infamous 'anal treet'} is usually very welcoming but this was the gayest club).
Anyhoo - that's me.
I meet a lot of ADHDers - I'm pretty much surrounded by us all the time.
Sexuality is a subject I'm not scared to raise (no innuendo intended!) and it appears, according to my anecdotal evidence, that we're an extreme lot. Surprise!
We're either having too much/little, getting into odd relationships - you name it we're into it.
I'm never sure where the whole population is on sexuality but I meet so many openly gay/bi ADHDers that I reckon at least 20% us are could qualify as such and a good proportion are open to a little experimentation.
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Post by blaze on Nov 29, 2014 19:34:39 GMT
I dont know how useful labels are when it cms to sexuality (or anything tbh) because I think people have different definitions of them.
Id term myself straight, yet iv had sex( or kissed etc) with women previously, mostly for a boyfriend, but on occassion jst to be close to smone. I jst dont see this as part of my sexuality, I can find womsn attractive but its in a dufferent way tp how im attractwd to men. I have only ever had a crush pn men, masterbated over men, cd only ever see myself with a man in terms of a relationship etc so id say I was straight. However I adore.being adored and when younger with certain women who made it obvious thy wd chase.me I was happy enough to be physicaly close tp the, its jst nice, skin on skin, bodies are.beautiful, I think often sex itself doeant have terribley much to do with sexuality if that makes sence.
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Post by mypineappledream on Dec 1, 2014 13:37:56 GMT
Bee and shiveringsky, you should never apologize for asking questions and tmi-ing, the internet (and this forum in particular), is the safe place for us who lack the brain to mouth filter. Be free and remember "you are never alone on the internet" (as in there is always people with the same questions or stories). Is fanfiction a sexual orientation? I think I've that one.
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Post by shiveringsky on Dec 1, 2014 17:26:16 GMT
mypineappledream ooooh... Ive been there. Unfortunately I later became friends with one of the subjects and told him in one of those moments of uncontrollable yammering on. I think he was drunk enough to forget. I hope.
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Post by astraka on Dec 1, 2014 19:46:52 GMT
Me 3...
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Post by Bee on Dec 2, 2014 9:29:27 GMT
Well the votes are 50/50 straight/bi! Ok, so it's only been 6 people.. But it's 50/50 all the same! Thank you for all the answers I've been reading them but not too sure what to say in reply! Xx Bee xX
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2014 11:02:22 GMT
I'm enormously pleased that we can be open and honest about something so personal. I've been curious about this since I was diagnosed. I know 2 people with confirmed ADHD, myself and an aquaintance. We're both female, I'm PI and she's PH. We both identify as bisexual. So, that means 100% of all the ADHD people I know are bisexual! I'm aware that the sample size is insignificant on the scale of things.. So I thought I'd throw it out there! For me, I feel like it's an extension of seeing everyone's point of view; I can see the beauty in everyone. To me, everyone is gorgeous! What do you think? Weeeeeeeeell - not so sure about gorgeous, some people are just nasty!
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Post by Bee on Dec 2, 2014 11:07:46 GMT
I might have been exaggerating a little bit!
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Post by skycaptain on Dec 5, 2014 21:27:12 GMT
I am gay! Now you have two votes for gay! woop!! \^.^/
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Post by firstinflight on Dec 5, 2014 22:32:57 GMT
I'd describe my orientation as "flexible" or "not picky". If someone's interested in me, has a decent sense of humour, acceptable personal hygiene, and isn't horribly racist or anything, then the type of plumbing they're packing downstairs isn't much of a concern.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2014 12:02:20 GMT
.......the type of plumbing they're packing downstairs....... This made me smile (I'd say iny or outy but your version is better)
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Post by Foxtrot on Dec 9, 2014 21:28:54 GMT
I am definitely gay rather than bi, though I can appreciate a fine male form, a bit like enjoying a fine oil painting without wanting to eat it. Huh? I know.....strange analogy, it's been a long day!........Mmmmmm, oil paintings, tasty! What? Backing away from the conversation
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Post by skycaptain on Dec 9, 2014 21:56:54 GMT
I am definitely gay rather than bi, though I can appreciate a fine male form, a bit like enjoying a fine oil painting without wanting to eat it. Huh? I know.....strange analogy, it's been a long day!........Mmmmmm, oil paintings, tasty! What? Backing away from the conversation I know what you mean!! I can appreciate a very good looking woman, especially a good set of boobs! I'm gay, not blind!! Lol
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Post by supine on Dec 11, 2014 11:51:45 GMT
I've voted asexual, even though I'm only really attracted to the female form. Any admiration of the male form is more of a 'I wish I looked more like that' kind of thing I'm just not really interested in sex (or rather all the stress etc. that seems to go with it), nor is my wife for that matter - so it's never been a massive problem. The 'Am I gay or am I having a seizure' comment made everyone in the office look round because I couldn't help laughing out loud My wife is usually the one to point out a nice set of features on a lady, and she is bi-sexual in spirit (if not in fact) although also asexual (as in not that bothered). She is also the one to point out if anyone is eyeing me up and I've totally missed it - although that is usually guys :/ I wouldn't quite go as far as saying I was effeminate, but I'm definitely not a 'bloke' - more of an old fashioned dandy in nature I suppose. Men's clothing is soooooooo dull and miserable - it's really hard to find decent clothes that aren't a dark colour. Sorry, bit of a squirrel moment there.
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Post by insiderob on Dec 11, 2014 12:03:45 GMT
I ID with what Shiveringsky said: I would identify as open-minded rather than bi. I also ID a lot with what Blaze said about adoring being adored – for me anyway, if I know someone’s interested, they instantly become sexier whatever their gender identity. That said though, it would be a stretch to describe myself as other than straight – like, I would have given it a go, if it had come up, but it’s never come up at a time when I wasn’t attached.
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Post by Babble on Dec 11, 2014 12:41:56 GMT
I describe myself as a panromantic demisexual (I'd like to shorten it to PanDemi, but that makes me sound like a disease outbreak), 'cause I'm not all that bothered about a persons gender. I'll date anyone so long as they're awesome/ can put up with my sci-fi addiction. That said, I'm not so much with the whole sex thing. I would for the right person (who I know *very* well and love to bits), but its never been something I'm overtly interested in. So yeah... I went for other. Pansexual would probably apply to me too, but the term pansexual demisexual has too much sex in it for my liking
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Post by shiveringsky on Dec 16, 2014 14:23:30 GMT
I love the PanDemi tag, tbh. It's so wonderfully alarming to the ears, Babble. Actually, I think my housemate could be classified as similar, though more on the sex thing side. My housemate/best friend/ex and I have recently come to realise that perhaps one of the reasons we didnt work out is to do with him possibly being a little ADHD too and definitely more hyper (He can not stop. I can not go with him as i need to do my thing.) Basically, we clashed off each other, never listened to the other but understood each other more than anyone else. Anywho, he is something of a very open-minded bisexual. He tends to find a ray of something beautiful in almost everyone and has certainly been no stranger to physically demonstrating that kind of appreciation regardless of gender. *wiggles brows and chews cigar*
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Post by Bee on Jan 6, 2015 22:45:39 GMT
These are some interesting results and comments I'm glad I asked now! Thanks everybody XxBeexX
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Post by alpinelake on Feb 12, 2015 16:31:39 GMT
I identify as bisexual. I'm extremely indecisive in most things including partners :\ I've found myself getting into relationships I wasn't sure of, and ending ones impulsively that I was sure of. Often if I appear to be making decisions, I'm really just going with the status quo.
Not even knowing what the heck I'm thinking seems to affect all areas of my life including sexuality and relationships...
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Post by gillywilly on Feb 20, 2015 15:37:14 GMT
Interesting thread! Thanks for asking, Bee! I clicked the 'bisexual' button (more for the sake of us being invisible, it's just nice to be asked!); used to identify as 'sexually fluid' (but as with Babble's PanDemi it sounded a little too medical!) - now, I'd go with 'queer'. Only in my second relationship with a woman but have had years of noticing other women without realising what it was. Hah! 'Queer' suits me as 'bi' sounds like you're constantly bed-hopping (nope) - and it's not (for me, anyway) just about sex or body type: I'm either attracted or I'm not; you love who you love: simple. I've always felt like I've never quite 'got' how to do things the right way (whatever that is) - so identifying as queer suits me down to the ground. Of course, I look like an arty femme - so if I told most (straight) folks I was queer, I don't think they'd have a clue what I was going on about. Sigh.
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Post by oldwolf on Mar 9, 2015 3:09:26 GMT
I swing both ways. But only under very specific circumstances. And no, i'm not going to quantify that.
I also seem to want it more than is deemed normal. I.e. Every day. More than once.
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Post by miffy on Apr 11, 2015 1:53:51 GMT
I voted for lesbian..........
then i realised ....I forgot i like boys as well
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Post by mindblank on Apr 22, 2015 2:59:39 GMT
But wouldn't the whole title of this thread attract non-heteros given that it's entitled "sexuality" and then gives a long list of various sexual and gender orientations.
For LGBT, it would presumably be more likely to catch their eye out of the interest of seeing what the 'scene' is like here, leaving heterosexuals less inclined to really notice or click on the button in the first place...as I don't believe that LGBT are over-represented in the ADD world as appears from the poll. Presumably, sexual orientation should have no bearing on ADD... 'orientation' being distinct from 'behaviour'
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Post by mypineappledream on Apr 22, 2015 9:27:19 GMT
"Presumably, sexual orientation should have no bearing on ADD..."
Actually, the development of sexuality (not gender) and the development of neuropsychiatric disorders happend during the same stage of fetal development.
"Sex differences in the brain are reflected in behavior and in the risk for neuropsychiatric disorders. The fetal brain develops in the male direction due to a direct effect of testosterone on the developing neurons, or in the female direction due to the absence of such a testosterone surge. Because sexual differentiation of the genitals takes place earlier in intrauterine life than sexual differentiation of the brain, these two processes can be influenced independently of each other." -Sex differences in the brain, behavior, and neuropsychiatric disorders (2010)
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