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Post by Zoe on Jul 7, 2010 19:09:30 GMT
I have piles of clutter all over my house, I find it SO hard to keep it all under control does anyone else have this problem? I find I can't focus on tidying for very long and what with all the procrastinating it never seems to get sorted. Which gets me down and I'm forever losing things! It does get me down, I feel like such a crap mum!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2010 19:55:58 GMT
I saw my floor the other day. I reckon there's another 300 years wear left in it
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Post by goosey on Jul 7, 2010 21:17:01 GMT
Hell yeah....I'm the 'queen of piles' !! Piles of magazines Piles of post Piles of clothes....basically piles of anything I don't want to put away....in case I forget about it ! I am currently trying to sort out all the piles and re-organise everything. It's a case of having to.....as we are going to move house ! I have bought transparent boxes, basket style boxes with lids and sticky labels. I am attacking it room by room.....so it doesn't seem such a monstrous task....and Rome wasn't made in a day !! Try my theory....room by room....or just pile by pile..... 1. Crap to throw 2. Stuff to keep....be ruthless If it's not been used in last 6 months...get rid....unless it has real sentimental value. This will help you to organise things and then you CAN find your stuff.... Good luck planetdave....you could try my theory too....unless you have 'organised chaos' !!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2010 21:25:09 GMT
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Post by goosey on Jul 7, 2010 22:01:19 GMT
........I'll get my coat !!! ;D
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Post by forgetnotme on Jul 8, 2010 6:59:07 GMT
Get your coat? Don't understand.
Anyway back to the clutter. thank you for this thread Zoe. It shamed me into doing something.
couldn't sleep this morning so after lying here for a couple of hours I decided I might as well get up and make a cuppa. while waiting for the kettle thought i'd empty the dishwasher. but the cupboard needed more room in it. ok rearrange it.
i have thrown out about 20 out of date boxes of various fruit teas. now all my cups fit in the cupboard.
But I must admit that when we decided to sell the house earlier this year desparate measures were needed. I've been here about 28 years so you can imagine the piles I needed to get rid of. but I need it all. So I hired a storage container and filled it. It's my project for retirement. maybe I need to start on it now.
but on the bright side i did manage to throw out all those boxes of tea this morning. Please tell me it's a good start and I can empty my container.
oops it's nearly 8'oclock better start thinking about going to work. bye for now
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Post by Zoe on Jul 8, 2010 16:40:24 GMT
Yes good start! I can't seem to get started at all My brain starts rushing ahead to all the things that need doing and I freeze, my brain gets stuck, on the occasions I DO start it, I quickly get distracted. I was kinda keeping on top of it until I had a breakdown 4 years ago and what with the impulse buys and being very distracted with wanting to be out of the house the clutter just grew and grew. I'm over the depression but overwhelmed by the clutter! I just end up procrastinating. Gonna get a skip and chuck the whole lot in! Hahaha!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2010 16:54:50 GMT
........I'll get my coat !!! ;D You'd be better off with gloves
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Post by dipsy on Jul 8, 2010 22:00:04 GMT
I dont have a problem with clutter, i like clutter, piles of stuff, its others that have a problem with my clutters, but then they give me stick when i was in work, as tidyness was the way, now i'm not in work, i guess not a problem, appart from the work work bit!
So i guess i do have a problem with clutter afterall! er crap!!!
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Post by violet on Jul 12, 2010 17:25:08 GMT
I have clutter horrors too. plenty of storage room has helped a bit/ works for a while The only way i can get cleared up is by inviting people over for parties! Its a big ol stress fest but it does the trick. I get everything clean and tidy in time for the guests and my family reap the benifits for a few days even a week sometimes befor it all piles up again " who left this bag and paper all over the table!?" (oh yes -that was me)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2010 8:57:01 GMT
Snap! Everytime my husband says we should have friends round more often! I'm rubbish at tidying-no organisational skills. We have a 'floordrobe' in our room, lack of storage is a problem but we live in an old farmhouse so enough room-it just gets spread over more surface area. Any tips for the whole house? Cleaner?!!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2010 16:44:12 GMT
I have a big problem with clutter, i hate to throw anything away in case i might use it one day. I have a problem with impulse buying, I use everything afew times then get bored or dont like it and never use it again. I have boxes,bags and piles of stuff everywhere and just dont know where to start on sorting it out.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2010 19:23:25 GMT
Move to a new place and take NOTHING with you HTH
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Post by sherry on Sept 15, 2010 20:28:21 GMT
I decided to live a motorhome once (another of my mad ideas). I couldn't take all my crap and impulse ebay buys with me so I invited a car booter to come and take the lot. A couple of £1000's worth and she gave me £60, she even apologised because it was all such nice stuff and she usually only sold tat. Taught me a lesson not to buy so much, as did the motorhome that I made a 10K loss on when I realised living in it was a bad idea. Oh and I hate mess and clutter, could not cope with being surrounded by it or cleaning aound it.
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Post by kakema on Sept 15, 2010 22:03:47 GMT
Can you send the carbooter round to mine? Got to be cheaper than hiring the monster skip I'd need to clear my kerrap.
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Post by andy12345 on Sept 17, 2010 21:12:22 GMT
glad to see I still fit into this site, in between mount clotherest and dust and TotalOrganisationFail.Com
and... QUOTE
Yes good start! I can't seem to get started at all My brain starts rushing ahead to all the things that need doing and I freeze, my brain gets stuck, on the occasions I DO start it, I quickly get distracted. END
Brain lock.......is that a part of perfectionism trait, wanting to optimise the order of tasks, so that its done in a good order properly, but obviously its a fail waiting to (not) happen?
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Post by kakema on Sept 17, 2010 21:28:16 GMT
Brain lock:perfectionism - that's an excellent thought and one that had spun past me as well. I don't know. I've taken to watching myself when I feel everything shudder to a halt through overload. There's an element of panic in there for me, indecisiveness, and a sort of weird brain fog that I can't clear through effort alone. And I watch it all happening and think 'come on, you're not stupid, just do something'. There's something else in there about looking through to the end of the tasks and thinking that I don't have what I need, or what it takes, to get through the task, so I procrastinate until whatever it is turns up. Then there's the over-thinking. Bathroom's a case in point - I spin off in all sorts of issues and dependencies and before long I get to a big decision that has other ramifications - eg, before I start bathroom I need to decide whether to do a long-term or short-term fix. If long-term that means I want to stay in the house, and I'd quite like a lovely bathroom but then I'll need to get contractors in to do it properly and that's a fair bit of money and I'll have to work out what I want it to look like but do I really want to stay in the house because the area's going downhill and if I don't I need to do a short-term fix but then if I want to leave I need to do blah blah as well to get it saleable and I really need to get the sink fixed but I need to do the floor first because the sink will need to come out so the tiler can do his thing and if I'm thinking to move then perhaps I should think about decorating the front room but then there's the clutter and .... and all that wheelspinning doesn't feel quite like perfectionism to me. Probably won't to you either, if you were able to bear to read that long...
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2010 0:13:50 GMT
Ooohshiny..........wow that was just like you were in my head then! I can pretty much talk myself out of any job through all that overthinking. The final straw is not having the vital tool or piece of equipment to finish a job. Because going out to buy it involves so much preparation I defer. There have been so many days when I've actually done nothing for the entire day but I feel knackered at the end.
I'm 48 and only recently I came up with a revolutionary thought: 'I could just do it and if it's not perfect I could change it later' WOW, THAT'S REALLY DEEP! Seriously why was that SO hard? It doesn't mean I get all that much done but just every now and then I achieve something.
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Post by Nat Djay on Feb 14, 2011 22:11:29 GMT
Hello. This is my first post, and the clutter thing really caught my eye. I've battled with my "stuff" for years but it has improved in the last 18months or so. I suggest you go take a look at www.flylady.net using this wonderful ladies methods and all the support network she has built, i've reduced some of the worst problems i was having. It's still a daily task, just to stay on task but it helps me focus so much better. My house has been my biggest symptom for the last 8 years since i moved out, but i'm getting better. HTH
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Post by boo on Feb 15, 2011 8:14:30 GMT
Brain lock:perfectionism - that's an excellent thought and one that had spun past me as well. I don't know. I've taken to watching myself when I feel everything shudder to a halt through overload. There's an element of panic in there for me, indecisiveness, and a sort of weird brain fog that I can't clear through effort alone. And I watch it all happening and think 'come on, you're not stupid, just do something'. There's something else in there about looking through to the end of the tasks and thinking that I don't have what I need, or what it takes, to get through the task, so I procrastinate until whatever it is turns up. Then there's the over-thinking. Bathroom's a case in point - I spin off in all sorts of issues and dependencies and before long I get to a big decision that has other ramifications - eg, before I start bathroom I need to decide whether to do a long-term or short-term fix. If long-term that means I want to stay in the house, and I'd quite like a lovely bathroom but then I'll need to get contractors in to do it properly and that's a fair bit of money and I'll have to work out what I want it to look like but do I really want to stay in the house because the area's going downhill and if I don't I need to do a short-term fix but then if I want to leave I need to do blah blah as well to get it saleable and I really need to get the sink fixed but I need to do the floor first because the sink will need to come out so the tiler can do his thing and if I'm thinking to move then perhaps I should think about decorating the front room but then there's the clutter and .... and all that wheelspinning doesn't feel quite like perfectionism to me. Probably won't to you either, if you were able to bear to read that long... oh my giddy aunt!!!! ooooshiny! that is me all over.... and then even the little jobs just dont get done cos it becomes a project... not a job!
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Post by boo on Feb 15, 2011 8:16:13 GMT
sorry Nat Djay... hello BTW
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Post by Deleted on Feb 15, 2011 11:28:02 GMT
*looks around room* Yes, I told my boyfriend yesterday that the piles are there because I can't remember I have stuff if I don't have it in a pile in front of me/around me/all over the coffee table.
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Post by ChaosLily on Feb 15, 2011 15:59:22 GMT
... I feel everything shudder to a halt through overload. There's an element of panic in there for me, indecisiveness, and a sort of weird brain fog that I can't clear through effort alone. And I watch it all happening and think 'come on, you're not stupid, just do something'. There's something else in there about looking through to the end of the tasks and thinking that I don't have what I need, or what it takes, to get through the task, so I procrastinate until whatever it is turns up. Then there's the over-thinking... This is where I'm stuck at the moment (where moment = several months). I feel that I'm almost immobile with every aspect, not just clutter. And I always think that if I could just clear the clutter then everything else, like finding the paperwork to get help with council tax, would be simple. But I remain mentally paralysed and the brain fog (a term I use too) is just too muggy. So now I've been told to expect bailiffs.
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Post by mavster on Feb 15, 2011 16:03:55 GMT
Make sure that you don't open the door to them
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Post by twix on Feb 15, 2011 17:43:02 GMT
Can you tell the council your difficulties, they might backdate it.
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Post by seahorse on Feb 15, 2011 19:40:46 GMT
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Post by ChaosLily on Feb 15, 2011 22:02:27 GMT
I'm going to try that twix - I had already told them I have problems but the effect was that the girl on the phone told me to look out for an envelope with green stripes on. Which was nice I guess, a start but not enough. I have no idea if they'll backdate it - I suspect not. It does seem ridiculous that I'm off work and on statutory sick pay because I just can't cope with the effects of adhd any more and that is the very reason I can't access council tax/rent help. I'm making no sense and ranting again - sorry. And I'm taking over the thread. Sorry. Clutter. Yes. I like 'FLY lady's' acronym for CHAOS - can't have anyone over syndrome. So true.
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Post by sherry on Feb 15, 2011 22:18:38 GMT
Nope, I just give it to the charity shop or stick it in the loft.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2011 7:40:18 GMT
I can so relate to all of the above, really made me smile, even laugh out loud at times, but knowing the reality of it I'm now feeling quite sad, I just want to be able to get straight in my house but it's such an uphill struggle, you know? 'Stuff' in drawers, bags and bags of paperwork waiting to be sorted, filed, responded to (gets put away in a bag once pile too big in kitchen and need the space)
The bags then get put into a plastic storage tub to be kept out the way and sorted when time. I now have one of those industrial black and yellow plastic shelving units in my bedroom, housing a number of these storage boxes and other things waiting to be sorted. It's covered up by a large curtain to stop looking so messy. It's completely overwhelming! I'm a single mum with two young kids at primary, started uni full time in September - arghhhhhh!!!!
I knew I was hyperactive as a child, not allowed E110, hardly slept and a total nightmare for my parents, but I only recently was told by a study support worker at Uni that I may have AD/HD. I looked it up on internet and no kidding do I have AD/HD! I so hope I can get some help and advise to improve on the quality of mine and my kids lives!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2011 9:00:10 GMT
Hello! And, I've just got to do it Uh huh huh Welcome to our world. planetdave sitting, but not dead on the cludgie
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