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Post by contrarymary on Sept 24, 2013 19:47:40 GMT
Haven't read it yet, but just to let you all know - there are only 9 pages in next chapter! We can do this!! thanks petra. trying to get a start on the week, i sat outside my front door yesterday for half an hour in that brief bit of early evening sunshine and read the pages slowly - might have looked mad but trying to soak up the vitamin D! i tried the second exercise - sitting, breathing then focusing first on sounds for three minutes, next on breathing, then on sensations from the body. i really struggled to focus only on one of these, so tried to do that thing the book suggests for when you're struggling by giving yourself a "front burner" awareness and a "back burner" awareness. only i kept forgetting which one i was trying to put on the front burner, and how to manage two back burners. then i would get distracted by (eg) a plane going over and forget all over again whether i had listened to the plane because i was focused on listening, or whether that was a distraction from breathing...or was it feeling? so i'd start over. it was really hard. i struggled but felt strangely calm about it all, even with plane noise and car noise and people noise and my neighbour stopping for a chat because he thought i'd fallen asleep and would get cold..... and normally i'd hate all that noise and the interruptions, but i was really chilled (not cold chilled, laid back chilled). so i came in to listen to the bloody cd version, away from the planes and from having to remember.. but that bloody woman on the bloody cd speaks SO slowly, that there is a space in between each word and some words she says r e all y s lo o ww lll yyy she does my head in!!!! especially when she tells you to do an exercise for three minutes and focus on breathing and not get distracted, then She bloody interrupts after one minute to tell you some more stuff about not getting distracted and of course you Have To Listen to her! and she does it THREE times!!! so by the end i was yelling at the cd to shut the f up and not feeling at all chilled. but that other exercise which is stop (as in stop and S T O P) - it's Stop (as in actually stop what you're doing,) Take a deep breath, Observe what you're doing (breathing/ then body sensations / then sounds) and Proceed (get on with what you had intended to do, and if you are have been distracted into something else, maybe consider stopping that distraction and carrying on with what you had intended to do instead) i think it was this morning when i'd woken up and couldn't get going and i tried the STOP thing, and even tho i was really struggling to remember what the different letters meant, i did remember what to do and found it made me more focused and quite chilled, and i couldn't work out how that had happened so easily, but felt strangely suddenly motivated to go and do some stuff, so i did. o. and the first exercise is about listening to a piece of instrumental music with your eyes closed and noticing the sound, and your response to it as it maybe gets louder or quieter, faster or slower - does it grab your awareness, affect how you feel, does your body respond to the sound in different ways according to the speed or the volume or the intensity? that one's easy and interesting. so. i'd say read the book, do the exercises - they are nice, and useful. but don't listen to the bloody cd - it's too stressful. and maybe don't worry about having two back burners - it'll come with practice.
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Post by Lesley on Sept 25, 2013 21:10:51 GMT
Well, I finally got around to doing Step 2 and listening to the first guided meditation. Didn't do it until after 9 pm, though, so - not my best time, room was too hot, and the light was so bright - must make sure I do it in daylight next time because of that as well as because my mind works better earlier in the day. Having got back into it, hopefully that won't be too much of a problem.
Very distracted while supposedly concentrating on breath. And as for 'now breath normally' - after what came before that was a total impossibility. Did the guided meditation and must say, while she certainly speaks unnecessarily slowly, I didn't find it as irritating as Mary did. Will use it again at least a few times - I find being guided useful.
Afterwards I ran quickly through the awareness of the 5 senses again. And after that returned to 'breath normally' - it was easier this time because I hadn't been (not) concentrating on my breath in specific places just before. Have come to the (provisional) conclusion that I'm a shallow belly breather.
Out tomorrow, but intend during the day to practice awareness of breathing both while sitting and while walking, as the opportunity arises, and also the 5 senses.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2013 2:20:57 GMT
Deep sigh.....did really well on Monday - did about half of it including some of the cd exercises - felt really good. Have been hopelessly distracted since - definitely need to learn the 'stop' thing - didn't get that far - only I now can't 'stop'/ switch off and am finding it an insurmountable task to get back on track/ focused on anything. Typical - I either can't start, or can't stop, and neither ever in the right places.
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Post by jan on Sept 28, 2013 19:21:29 GMT
right mindful people - will be joining you soon for absolute definite this time HAVE ACTUALLY READ THE BOOK - (3 TIMES ) IN PAST 2 DAYS and am now on bit where you start doing the exercises - so wont catch you up cos says gotta spend week or 2 on each if i'm remembering correctly - but will be close behind rather than not even at starting post am pleased - enjoyed reading it - though had to keep going over it to remind myself what it said - found it interesting - and since reading all your posts am hopeful that is going to make a difference to my concentration.. at first thought better not read your posts as will influence my experience and would be not having my own original experience - know what i mean - but have now realised - although was all really , really good at the time (and ten minutes after finished reading the posts ) can't remember a word that anyone wrote now - apart from not going down stairs on auto pilot in the mornings so should be getting mindful - soon cos come on - it is saturday today nothing that feels like 'work' happens in my life on saturdays just being realistic not procrastinating at all now sunday ? - could be the day as after taking 5 and half hours to cook lunch last sunday have decided bollocks to it!! for rest of winter am going out for lunch !!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 19:06:53 GMT
Was panicking then - couldn't find this thread. Then I realised wasn't logged in . Don't have anything further to add or contribute atm, other than its on my to do list along with everything else.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 19:23:10 GMT
Please somebody make me do my mindfulness practice. All I am doing in reality is the occasional deep breath whilst at the same time thinking 'mindfulness'. In my head I feel I'm doing a lot more than this but I'm not
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 19:24:52 GMT
Haha. That's exactly what I've been doing
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Post by jan on Sept 30, 2013 19:51:39 GMT
well you on the right road both i keep reading the same chapters over and over - get to the excercise bit - and do nothing cept think - gotta do mindfulness today, got to do mindfulness today - oooo a new post - and i'm off -and have forgotten all about it - till i re read it again - and think - gotta do mindfulness today, gotta do mindfulness today - and so it goes on i take the bloody book everywhere
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Post by contrarymary on Sept 30, 2013 19:54:36 GMT
Please somebody make me do my mindfulness practice. All I am doing in reality is the occasional deep breath whilst at the same time thinking 'mindfulness'. In my head I feel I'm doing a lot more than this but I'm not i wonder whether it's that we are at a stage of the book where it is all new things but in an overwhelming rather than shiny way. none of us are great at routines or learning what seem to be relatively boring and complicated and difficult new things - at this stage, where it's new and hard it can feel like all of those, and as tho it's good for us and therefore to be avoided - like prunes or wheatgerm or wholemeal pasta. so we put it to one side, and then feel bad that we haven't done anything, so we avoid it even more! well, that's where i'm at, anyway. didn't really enjoy last week's experience because i couldn't do it, the paying attention to three things bit. i have tried the STOP thing a few times and it does work sometimes, when i can concentrate. and actually in many ways i'm feeling better - i had an hour on sunday morning when i was so chilled and focused i actually thought i'd been cured in the night!!! i think i'm going to move on to the next chapter now and see if it gets any more interesting or engaging. Lesley i think you've done this before - does it get better?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 19:56:35 GMT
That's the problem - it's a very good idea - like exercise and healthy eating and keeping your house tidy and clean, and getting duvet cover off banister and putting duvet in it... Feeling a bit of a lost cause over all this atm...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 20:00:53 GMT
Contrarymary - that is exactly it. I didn't enjoy (not doing) mindfulness last week either. But I can tell there is so much good potential in it. Yes, need to move on and start new chapter. Though, paying attention to 3 things for me is like performing mental gymnastics. Hopefully this week will be less complicated.
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Post by contrarymary on Sept 30, 2013 20:13:36 GMT
well let's both do it then petra and encourage each other? i think we're on the same chapter so it should be possible!
cos it seems that most of us when we actually stop procrastinating are mebbe getting something out of it, those times when it clicks. and the other times we're hating it and thinking we're crap. and it's a bit of a yo-yo or a see-saw thing - up and down and nothing in the middle.
start a bit of gentle reading tomorrow, say ten minutes, max 15 and see what we think?
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Post by Lesley on Oct 2, 2013 12:21:43 GMT
Please somebody make me do my mindfulness practice. All I am doing in reality is the occasional deep breath whilst at the same time thinking 'mindfulness'. In my head I feel I'm doing a lot more than this but I'm not i wonder whether it's that we are at a stage of the book where it is all new things but in an overwhelming rather than shiny way. none of us are great at routines or learning what seem to be relatively boring and complicated and difficult new things - at this stage, where it's new and hard it can feel like all of those, and as tho it's good for us and therefore to be avoided - like prunes or wheatgerm or wholemeal pasta. so we put it to one side, and then feel bad that we haven't done anything, so we avoid it even more! well, that's where i'm at, anyway. didn't really enjoy last week's experience because i couldn't do it, the paying attention to three things bit. i have tried the STOP thing a few times and it does work sometimes, when i can concentrate. and actually in many ways i'm feeling better - i had an hour on sunday morning when i was so chilled and focused i actually thought i'd been cured in the night!!! i think i'm going to move on to the next chapter now and see if it gets any more interesting or engaging. Lesley i think you've done this before - does it get better? Hello contrarymary and everyone. Hey, managed to tag you! (by copying what you did with my username - thanks for teaching me a new skill.) What I did initially was quite a lot different - I did an 8-week tutored course so I had the support of the weekly meetings both for practicing exercises and for reporting back on how I'd been getting on (though no obligation to say anything, and I often didn't) and hearing other people's experiences; email or telephone access to the tutor between meetings (which I didn't actually use); and a manual plus exercise CDs. So, much more external structure. I found, too, that because I was on the course at that specific time, I found it easier to say to my husband "I'm going to do my Mindfulness practice now" and shut myself in the sitting room for 45 minutes, whereas now I'm much less likely to do that. Two things specifically I found easier - first that we were talked through all the exercises in class when they were first introduced, which I found much easier than I'm finding reading about them. And, secondly, strangely, it helped that the main exercise we had to practice each week was much "bigger" (by which I mean longer, but also, I think, at least potentially deeper) than in the book. For example, the first week the main practice was to do a 40-minute, guided, lying down Body Scan on 6 days (I managed 5 - but did find I gradually did less each week as the course progressed). I found I usually managed this "big" exercise much better than the shorter exercises that we also had each week. It may just have been that the big exercise was usually guided (though the Walking Meditaition wasn't) or it may have been that the longer duration gave more time for something of note to happen. I notice that the longest exercise with the book is only 12 minutes - I wonder if this is going to be long enough. When I say I managed the big exercises better I don't mean that they were easy - it was often excruciatingly difficult. But one important thing is that it's impossible to fail at this - if one day I spent the whole 40 minutes wriggling, shifting position, and my mind going all over the place, or another day kept dosing off, then this was something for me to observe with gentle curiousity, not beat myself up for. All the time, you are learning knowledge of your body, thoughts and emotions, and compassion for yourself, just as much as (if not more than) you are learning to focus. And that's true, of course, of the exercises we've been doing from the book as well as the ones I'm describing here. But I do feel that the big gains tended to come from sitting (or lying) with a feeling (physical or emotional) through the point where it was uncomfortable or even almost unbearable to the point where you could accept it. I am getting something from the book - and would no doubt get more if I put more into it. And it does sound as if you are getting something from it as well. Many of you (maybe even all, but I'd have to check back through all the posts before feeling able to say that) have reported moments of ease, or realisation, or acceptance. It's as much about keeping on coming back to it as anything, I think. Congratulate yourself every time you do return to the practice, and remember the moments when you have felt it was doing something for you, either during the practice or as you go about your life. They're your rewards (I've been reading a couple of books about habits - the making and breaking of - probably when I should have been practicing Mindfulness - and rewards are one of the essentials in establishing a habit) and there will be more rewards as you go on. I did practice a bit yesterday, and would like to say something about that, but I'll do that a little later in a separate post.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2013 3:13:50 GMT
Thank you Lesley for this. I am ashamed to say this - but here goes - I have only done one sitting for 5 mins doing mindfulness, and 2 sessions of the guided meditation 3 step thing. I have done little bits whilst in the bath/ trying to get to sleep/ occasionally stopping and taking a deep breath for a few moments during the days - that's it. So, apart from the little bits, I've only spent altogether less than half an hour doing 'proper' practice - but - on a positive note - this has made a noticeable difference.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2013 3:16:49 GMT
You really do have to laugh about it all don't you? The point is - we haven't given up which is no less than a minor miracle
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Post by contrarymary on Oct 3, 2013 6:46:00 GMT
All the time, you are learning knowledge of your body, thoughts and emotions, and compassion for yourself, just as much as (if not more than) you are learning to focus. Congratulate yourself every time you do return to the practice, and remember the moments when you have felt it was doing something for you, either during the practice or as you go about your life. They're your rewards lesley - thank you for this. i know if i ws doing this entirely on my own i would've given up by now. and probably thrown the book in the recycling, cos there's so much that annoys me about the way the woman writes/speaks. (it doesn't seem to me as tho it's at all adhd-friendly, unless that's why she's kept the exercises short? but that just means there's always lots to do and not much time to do it, and loads of words to get your head round and instructions to follow and hardly any quiet time, and that's hardly conducive to people actually feeling relaxed or WANTING to keep going past the second week!! ) the only way to get a sense of achievement is to do as you say and notice those small but amazing moments rather than beat ourselves up about all the stuff we are not doing!! as soon as it gets to the point where we feel we are failing none of us are very comfortable or can be asked, tbh, because it's not as tho we need more things that make us feel bad, or indeed to inflict them on ourselves. SO, having said all that. i have really intended to continue this week, and have not opened the book except to flick through and see how long the chapter was. tbh i haven't opened any book this week - not one - which is truly weird for me. and i haven't spent much time sleeping either, or watching tv, or relaxing, which tells me it has been a busy week. but i don't remember becos there is nothing in my diary.?? ah, yes, chutney. i have been making chutney, with about 50lbs of apples. that's where my time has gone so that's why i shouldn't be beating myself up. because in fact, i have been making chutney - mindfully and that's why i have enjoyed it so much!! (sign of tiredness that i didn't remember at all? or adhd? or both? cos i've done it every blessed day for a week, and 8 hrs/day some days, so i should have flaming remembered!!) i really did make it mindfully, and i really did enjoy that - gave me a complete boost, sense of achievement, sense of groundedness, sense of spaciousness and time and place and harvest and turning of the year and preparation and .... well, it was fabulous actually. (don't know about the chutney yet - it's all in jars getting rich for a few weeks, but it has done its job because that was chutney therapy!!) and during the week i have been doing something of the STOP exercise from last week, and even while ridiculously hectic and feeling overwhelmed these past couple of days pre-going away to devon ( ) i have stopped and breathed and noticed the sensations of my body, and kind of reset myself and been able to be calmer and yesterday, which was manic with 18 hrs' activity, i stopped and had a mindful lunch for 30 mins (albeit at 3.30 pm) and that was amazing and sort of reset me for the next couple of hours. and i finished with a mindful shower where i was just trying to slow down and BE in what i was doing, cos it was the last thing. and i found myself delighting in it, which was strange but in a really good way. so, i'm taking the book to devon with me, and i will try to restart gentle yoga in the morning (which has slipped since i started mindfulness, and i miss it ) AND mindfulness reading at least, and perhaps take one or two parts of my time away and try to do them mindfully, even if it is simply brushing my teeth or showering. and see how that goes. gosh, a really long post. sorry. (and littered with smileys! becos i keep forgetting they are there and then use them too much perhaps?) and now i have to get up and go! see you next week.
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Post by Kathymel on Oct 3, 2013 7:18:05 GMT
I really enjoyed reading that, despite its length. You have a way with words.
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Post by Lesley on Oct 3, 2013 13:44:59 GMT
I've only spent altogether less than half an hour doing 'proper' practice - but - on a positive note - this has made a noticeable difference. Glad to know it is making a difference, Petra, and also Mary. Last night I stumbled across an article I'd downloaded to my tablet some time ago and reread it. The author quoted someone as advising " Floss just one tooth. This is an old idea, but it works well. Start your habit by flossing just one tooth." Maybe for both of you the things you are doing already will grow just as flossing one tooth can grow into a flossing habit. Have a great time in Devon, Mary.
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Post by Lesley on Oct 3, 2013 20:58:55 GMT
I did practice a bit yesterday, and would like to say something about that, but I'll do that a little later in a separate post. Ah, well, I know this is more than a little later, and I'm now talking about the day before yesterday, but here goes. I read Step 3 over breakfast (having barely touched Step 2). I had to drive the car out to be MOT’d (the garage we use is in a nearby village), then get the bus back in to town, and decided to go to the gym after that. I also decided not to take something to read with me, but to use the journey back for practicing mindfulness. (I was between books at the time, so would have had to search for something to read, which made it easier, but even so that was quite a radical decision for me, even though it’s only a 15-minute journey). I was quite early at the bus stop, so used the time by looking around me – mindfully – and noticing details of the beautiful old building opposite, among other things (until interrupted by a phone call from my husband, after which it was close enough to the time the bus was due that it seemed more sensible to keep my eyes open for its arrival). Then on the bus (there were only two other passengers, and they weren’t together, so no-one was talking) I did Exploration 3.2 (Mindfulness of Sound, Breath and Body) using stages on the journey to signal a very rough 3 minutes for each. I can’t say it was the most mindful I’ve been, but one advantage of practicing in such circumstances is you can set your expectations low and be pleased with anything you achieve. But the bit that really pleased me was at the gym afterwards – one of the best workouts I’ve done for a while – felt I was definitely being more mindful here – was particularly pleased that when my mind drifted off at one point onto what needed doing later in the day I was able to bring it back to the matter in hand just as I would (ideally) in a meditation with a gentle reminder. So, obviously, I need to practice mindfulness for 10 minutes before every workout. Anyone want to take a bet on my doing this? No, thought not. (Unfortunately, have done nothing yesterday or today).
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Post by jan on Oct 3, 2013 21:27:20 GMT
nothing to report cept book becomes very heavy when you cart it round every where with you - does give off an air of 'hey i'm cool and sorted type ' when you read it in a coffee shop apart from that - just call me nothingdone.com
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2013 22:00:54 GMT
I have hit an almighty full stop with mindfulness and just about everything else atm. I can do bits of it in the day, and a bit longer whilst trying to get to sleep, but really struggle/ have a mental block towards 'formal' practice. Plus I'm finding the book and exercises too complex. It feels like another one of those things where I would benefit greatly from doing it - but can't because of adhd. And I'm not sure if the positive experiences I've had aren't novelty factor.
I don't want to be negative, or put anyone off, but neither do I want another 'thing' round my neck which I'm never going to crack. Maybe I need to be medicated first?
I'll probably view it all differently in a few days.
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Post by jan on Oct 5, 2013 22:10:54 GMT
well at least you started then stopped i didnt even get that far and am too busy to be mindful now - its full speed ahead for me at the moment - or i'm never gonna get to liverpool
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2013 23:20:42 GMT
By the way, I would be very happy to have my thoughts/ views challenged on this
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2013 0:59:07 GMT
Just to say - I plan to get back on track with mindfulness this week, and exercise. I hit a 'blocker' on everything the last few days but am moving forwards again now (Jan - I managed to make my bed today . my current plan, is to read all the chapter this week, but not to worry if I don't feel I do it properly - at least some of it will filter in if that makes sense.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2013 1:16:02 GMT
If you really want to do it, it might help to create an environment where achieving it is impossible*. Allow this to fester for a while and then abandon said environment and take it back up with renewed vigour. *By sending me the book
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2013 1:27:14 GMT
Buy your own copy you cheapskate
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Post by Lesley on Oct 7, 2013 7:51:04 GMT
Glad to hear you're feeling more positive, petra. I've been meaning to reply because your previous post strongly suggested that you didn't really want to give up, but haven't been able to get my head round it. Pleased to see you've been able to do it for yourself. I plan to get back on track this week as well.
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Post by contrarymary on Oct 8, 2013 22:13:23 GMT
Just to say - I plan to get back on track with mindfulness this week, and exercise. I hit a 'blocker' on everything the last few days but am moving forwards again now (Jan - I managed to make my bed today " text=" " /> " text=" " /> " text=" " />. my current plan, is to read all the chapter this week, but not to worry if I don't feel I do it properly - at least some of it will filter in if that makes sense. hey petra - really glad to see that you are still hanging in, and i think we are still in a similar place even having gone up and down and off and back again!! i took the book to devon with me last thursday (sorry, devon always makes me go ). while i was away from home and all those distractions, and had the time, i read quite a chunk of the new chapter on the body mindfulness thing, reading pretty slowly (and mindfully ). and it made sense to do the exercises as i went along - got as far as the second one so far. i remember doing the body scan one really slowly and it did make me feel extremely relaxed and centred. actually it's quite strange how it made me feel so laid back and chilled, as if something has changed in the chemicals of my body/brain. (i've also found myself still doing the STOP exercise from the week before, just stopping, breathing deeply and seeing how i am. funny how that resets me too.) :)is chapter is a really long one - i think 20 pages - and has five exercises in it so it's no wonder that it feels a bit overwhelming. i wonder if the key to feeling ok about it is to break it into doable chunks, and to not worry too much about getting through but simply to be in it and doing it, and it will take as long as it takes. i think it's prob better to do it in a way that works for us rather than simply getting it done! And that's what we praps need to keep reminding ourselves, cos it's here to serve us, not us to get through in a set time and do x amount a day - that way madness lies!! so let's gently encourage each other and keep going, but flexibly and gently, with focus rather than gritted teeth!! sorry for long post, and for taking so long to post. hope it makes sense - really sleepy! O and PS, not picked up book since i got back - yet! but laid back about that now - been a busy few days - will try and do 20 mins of reading and maybe an exercise by the end of friday.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2013 12:21:33 GMT
As far as mindfulness goes atm my teeth feel fairly permanently gritted!! Am worried if just do a bit at a time I may have this hanging over me for the duration of my natural life!! Am in half a mind to call it a day, a quarter of a mind to just put into practice and use what I have so far learnt, and an eighth of a mind to keep going and finish it - the rest of my mind is off doing its own thing as per usual Am spending far more time thinking about mindfulness and not actually doing it. Maybe there is a simpler book on mindfulness on the market? This book doesn't seem very simple or adhd friendly?
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Post by Lesley on Oct 10, 2013 9:24:33 GMT
Hi petraI've had several thoughts about this. Firstly, this may not be the best time for you to do this. I think you are one of those who have to deal with SAD as well as ADHD, and I know from the thread on it that it is kicking in for you all at the moment. (And perhaps there are other things going on in your life right now which make it difficult?). If you really feel you can't face it you might be best to mothball it and start again in the spring, when the sun is coming back. But before you do that - you also suggest "just put into practice and use what I have so far learnt". That also sounds like a good plan, and again you may find the spring is a good time to move on and go a little further into the book - or of course you may surprise yourself and find that as what you have done so far beds in you want to move on earlier. But it should be when you want to do it, and if you want to do it, not because you feel you should. Where are you in the book? I know you have dipped your toes into Step 3. If you can bear it, could you read at least part of the way into Step 4, and do Exploration 4.1, the Body Scan, listening to the CD? (But don't bother reading all the way through the instructions for it - read the first 3 paras, down to "Track 4 guides you through the Body Scan", then skip to the note about halfway through - between the dotted lines - beginning "As you scan", and leave it at that. You can read the bit at the end headed 'Pointers on the Body Scan' later if you want to). I suggest this because the Body Scan is an exercise we did at the very beginning of my course and it is (when guided) very simple yet powerful. I think it was a really good way to get into the whole thing, and in fact it may be that one of the things wrong with this book is that she leaves it as late as Step 4. I also notice that in the post just above yours Mary says that she has done the Body Scan and it sounds as if she got a lot out of it. I really think that this would be a useful thing to have under your belt if you do decide to "use what I have so far learnt". I really hope you don't decide to give up all together - if only because you'd then have no excuse not to give Michael the book . In any case, because you can't unlearn what you've learnt so far, I suspect that both giving up and mothballing it until spring will turn into "putting into practice and using what I have so far learnt" - which is all to the good. Don't forget too that every time you take a breath and focus on what you are doing and feeling at the present moment you are practicing mindfulness - all the rest is just elaboration. It may be that in fact you have already (either with or without the addition of the Body Scan) learnt all that you need to learn, and what you now need to do is keep returning to practicing it. As to other books - there are other books, but would you come up against the same problems with them? If you want to try another book (and of course there may well be another where the approach suits you better) would spring be a better time for that as well? And, by the way, I'm also spending far more time thinking about mindfulness than actually doing it.
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